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Old nude pics to himself !?

136 replies

Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:18

Hi there, first post ever and a confusing one!

In a nutshell married to hubby for 2 years, together 7 years, 2 children. Never any reason to distrust him and have what I consider to be a happy life together!

He gave me his phone yesterday to look back through his emails, searching for one that I sent him sent last year about a holiday.....

While searching around the dates, I noted 4 emails over the course of 2 days, sent FROM him via his other email account to himself on his current email account. The emails contained attachments with photos of his penis to be blunt. Very old photos from 8 or so yrs ago judging by the body! Before he met me take in old apartment. He now has a dad bod!

Emails were not forwarded to any body at all. Just from himself to himself.

Shocked, I asked him about it. He genuinely said he has no idea why the pics are there. He said he has not sent them to himself at all via his old account. He said only thing he can think of is his email has been hacked or mentioned maybe his old sd card has been hacked in his current phone!?!
Please domt laugh, I don't want to sound gullible. I'm not tech savvy at all so.... is this even possible?

He then really wanted to show me his phone, Facebook account etc as he was bewildered why this has happened and didn't want me to think the worst...and yet a little bit of me is to reiterate the emails were from 12 months ago. Never had any thoughts about him playing away etc then or now.

what do you think? Is it plausible?

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RosieCockle · 27/08/2019 22:19

I don't believe for a second it's hacking or a virus.

heylyla · 27/08/2019 22:20

Does he have any other devices he could potentially be accessing apps on?

FuriousVexation · 27/08/2019 22:31

Hmm.

You said earlier on that there were also sent items to his current email from the old one, about "solar panels". Articles? Links? Did they look like the sort of thing he would normally write, or write for pay?

SignedUpJust4This · 27/08/2019 22:35

He could've taken them with one device (his phone camera eg) and not wanted them saved there. So emailed to another address which he could access on a 'safe' device like his computer at work that you never see to use for online dating. then deleted the originals from his phone.

nespressowoo · 27/08/2019 22:36

Why did the colour drain from his face if it was innocent? Very suspicious

stoneysongs · 27/08/2019 22:36

I have done this before - not with nudes but other pics. If I have a photo on my phone and want to use it on my laptop for whatever reason I will email it to myself. I have two main emails - I'll choose the work email to send it to as that's the easiest to access on my laptop. Phone will select whatever the default account is to send it from.

NerdyBird · 27/08/2019 22:37

It's not weird to have more than one email address. I have one that I had for years, one with my married name that I'm gradually transferring things over to and a 'junk' one that I might use for one-off purchases and the like.

Anyway. It isn't going to be hacking or a virus. He could have used the old account to send them to someone, if he's actively using it. The only reason I can think of for sending to his new one is so he can forward from that account, to someone who only has the new address, and won't recognise his old one. He could access them via the old account on his phone so it can't because he wants to have them on his phone now.
It is odd.

FrenchSchnoodle · 27/08/2019 22:44

Is his older email address his [email protected] and the other email address something different? I was wondering if he wanted to send them to someone and communicate using a specific email address?

I have a number of email accounts , some contain my name others don't. I use them for different things.

BeckieMc · 27/08/2019 22:47

I send photos and documents between email addresses all the time. Usually documents from personal to work email and vice versa.

Sorry to be negative but I'd assume he has another device that only has one of those email addresses logged into. Work laptop/tablet or even another phone? He's then sending the photo on to other people or just to keep for himself as others have suggested 🤷‍♀️. Obviously I don't know him and this is pure speculation but the hacked story seems very unlikely.

Maybe have another chat to him about it and say that that the hacking seems very far fetched as why would that hacker just send just the dick pics between personal emails? There might be a simple explanation if you've not reason to distrust him

SignedUpJust4This · 27/08/2019 22:53

You say the pics are old bt how old are the emails? What type of address was it? Personal? Work? One you've never seen before? Can you tell where the pics have been taken?

ASauvignonADay · 27/08/2019 22:57

I reckon forwarded from one email account to another because maybe he can't access one on his phone? Maybe he's logged into one email account on a computer and needed to forward it to his phone to send on from his phone. If that makes sense. Forgotten password so can't log on on his phone or something

MissFloof · 27/08/2019 23:17

I have sent photos of myself from when I was younger via Facebook messenger so it might be he just wants to compare, look at himself etc like I've done in the past.

But.. Ive also done that to then send them to other people so.. It could be either. I'm sorry :/

DBML · 27/08/2019 23:27

Sometimes I send photos from one email to another because they then become easy to copy and paste. Or up/download. No need to send onwards. Also, I find Hotmail for instance easier to access my photos than Google. Not sure why, so sometimes I’ll send between.
My suspicions would be that his is uploading those pics to websites or message type services.
Regarding the ‘hacking’ excuse, it’s the typical go-to excuse it seems. Why would a hacker spend their time looking through your files for dick pics and then email them between your own two personal accounts 🤦‍♀️

Sorry OP it doesn’t look great. Doesn’t mean he’s physically cheated, but may well be sharing photos across some internet platform.

Original poster
Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 23:27

Hi all, I have been speaking to him. He got angry which is out of character and accused me of not trusting him. Also said he wotn live life not being trusted. Of course I know this is a red flag gutted. After speaking to you guys and him now I think he did send them to his other account to send then to someone. Not sure who or why. No other evidence. Not sure where to go from here but dont feel ready to uo sticks just based on this I need more info. Maybe il get it in time. X

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Miniloso · 27/08/2019 23:29

My ex did this. He sent them from another device to his email to send from his phone to Fab Swingers.

Crunchymum · 27/08/2019 23:30

What can you see in the pics?

To identify it wasn't with you?

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 23:33

I looked in apps as suggested. Kik was on there as being 'not installed' so assume he had ot at some point. Not sure what it is will.google. he said kik was on the phone when he had it. It's a work phone prev owned by colleague....

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Original poster
Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 23:34

In the pics its 4 different shots of an erect willy in his old apartment he had when I met him

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MissFloof · 27/08/2019 23:37

I'm sorry to say this (just in my experience) kik is used to sext etc.. At least in my age group (20s) kik was very popular to send nudes. I used to use it for that purpose myself. On dating sites guys would always ask me for my kik for that reason.
Kik account would still exist

Osirus · 27/08/2019 23:37

I’ve previously had to save photos from one email account to another because I wanted to save old photos on my phone when upgrading. Both email accounts on my phone, but you attach them to one account to send to the other and then the photos are saved until you need them. Maybe this is why, and he likes how he looked then but feels a bit embarrassed to admit it?

Croquembou · 27/08/2019 23:42

You seem to be only be responding to people who support the view that he's up to no good which I find interesting. Plenty of people are of the view that it sounds like he was being vain.

If he had something to hide, why would he just immediately hand his phone over to you? Only on MN could being open be a sign of something to hide. He was probably mortified because it's a slightly mortifying thing to do.

Sign off of MN and don't get swept up in this drama.

Msgiggles30 · 27/08/2019 23:54

Surely if he was sending them on he would just do it straight from his old email or download them on his phone. I email myself things I dont want to loose albeit normally word documents rather than naked pics Grin he could be doing the same

Speakercube · 28/08/2019 00:14

Most people wouldn't instantly say they'd been hacked surely? Maybe he was thinking of doing something and changed his mind or maybe he's done something but it's been and gone? Sounds like he reacted like a rabbit caught in the headlights? Maybe just say you believe him for now and quietly monitor him. If he's up to no good he will become complacent and drop himself in it eventually.

Miniloso · 28/08/2019 00:38

Kik is a messaging service in the main used by people sexting/arranging hook ups. My ex had Kik too. Messages are not assigned a phone number. Everyone on sex hook up sites uses Kik.

FloatingObject · 28/08/2019 05:07

I send photos between my accounts sometimes because it goes like this:
Retrieve photos from computer (sometimes less faff than doing it on your phone)
Email them to yourself so you can then access them on your phone