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Old nude pics to himself !?

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:18

Hi there, first post ever and a confusing one!

In a nutshell married to hubby for 2 years, together 7 years, 2 children. Never any reason to distrust him and have what I consider to be a happy life together!

He gave me his phone yesterday to look back through his emails, searching for one that I sent him sent last year about a holiday.....

While searching around the dates, I noted 4 emails over the course of 2 days, sent FROM him via his other email account to himself on his current email account. The emails contained attachments with photos of his penis to be blunt. Very old photos from 8 or so yrs ago judging by the body! Before he met me take in old apartment. He now has a dad bod!

Emails were not forwarded to any body at all. Just from himself to himself.

Shocked, I asked him about it. He genuinely said he has no idea why the pics are there. He said he has not sent them to himself at all via his old account. He said only thing he can think of is his email has been hacked or mentioned maybe his old sd card has been hacked in his current phone!?!
Please domt laugh, I don't want to sound gullible. I'm not tech savvy at all so.... is this even possible?

He then really wanted to show me his phone, Facebook account etc as he was bewildered why this has happened and didn't want me to think the worst...and yet a little bit of me is to reiterate the emails were from 12 months ago. Never had any thoughts about him playing away etc then or now.

what do you think? Is it plausible?

OP posts:
AMAM8916 · 28/08/2019 20:57

He will have logged into his old e-mail account and sent them to his current one (that is installed on his phone) for ease of access and so he didn't need to save them in his gallery incase you or the kids saw them.

He will chat to people on kik and send these photos no doubt. He probably uninstalls kik when not in use so he doesn't get caught.

Sorry but he has at the very least spoken to others and planned to send dick pics. I hope you're ok, or as best you can be right now

AMAM8916 · 28/08/2019 21:07

Exactly as unreasonable said, open kik and enter his e-mail address then press 'forgotten password'. This will then send a password reset link to his e-mail (which you have access to). Reset the password then log into his kik. If it doesn't work for the first e-mail, try the other. The conversations won't be saved but he'll have names of people/groups on the main screen with 'nothing yet' which means he has spoken to them before. Go to find people and there will be a full list of everyone he has spoken to or groups he has joined. Also take a note of his username so you can create a kik account and search for him/start a conversation if you ever need to, to find out for sure what's going on.

I use kik to chat to other mums from netmums and mumsnet occasionally as I don't really like handing out my number straight off so I know how it works but I've never joined groups or sent photos so I'm not 100% sure how that works but you can send photos on it

FloatingObject · 28/08/2019 21:32

Also, make a note of the username and then run a Google search for that username, putting it between quote marks. People often use the same usernames, especially I would assume for various sleazy profiles. You might get hits for the same username registered on different websites. Some of the hits you get for his username will be him, some will be someone else with a different username, that'll be for you to determine with more digging.

Sadiesnakes · 29/08/2019 05:54

It was shady af to begin with, but adding Kik to the mix it's a no brainer. He's sexting people at best.
Any chance he has Reddit? Men looking at girls nudes and then messaging them via Kik is the new "porn" for a lot of guys.

Dec2019mumtobe · 29/08/2019 06:01

Bullshit. If your husband's colleague installed KIK on the mobile phone, it would show in the colleague's App Store / Google Play account... not your husband's...

Unless the phone is still logged in to his colleague's account or a generic work account?

Doormat247 · 29/08/2019 06:10

@Sadiesnakes yeah and tumblr - that's what my exh had his dick plastered all over

Sadiesnakes · 29/08/2019 06:19

Yep my moneys on Reddit and Tumblr. He's not innocent at all and his anger and defensiveness is showing his true colours.

I'm sorry opThanks

ComeTheFuck0nBridget · 29/08/2019 06:23

I send photos from myself to myself when I've got a photo on the computer that I want to have on my phone (maybe an old one that I've scanned in from when I was little or from my dslr usually) to upload to Instagram or text to someone.

It could just be he wanted to look at the photos on his phone but I think if it were that he would have told you even though it's a bit embarrassing. It's saying he has been hacked that is weird, I genuinely don't understand how that would be possible.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 29/08/2019 06:27

If I can't find an old photo, and I know I've sent it at some point, I'll find it on the email account I used, and if needed send it to my current email, I'm talking holiday snaps not nakedsSmile

Kik isn't a good sign, as is him getting angry and defensive. Throwing the 'i can't live not being trusted' is a well known way of getting someone to back off a difficult subject, it's designed to stop you asking questions

Cabezona · 30/08/2019 00:28

@Tinker2010 are you ok? You've gone quiet during what may be quite a traumatic experience

Livelovelearn1 · 30/08/2019 09:17

@Tinker2010 i hope you are ok and getting to some sort of resolution..

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