Break up support thread 2

[Jonsnowsghost]

Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

Yeah I think NC is a good idea, focus on yourself.

At least that’s not too long to wait, horrible tho

Aww tinsel I'm sorry your going through this, sending you hugs and positive vibes.
You are spit on, it's time to concentrate on you, your the important one here.

Feeling very weepy - at the risk of sounding pathetic even by my standards, wearing the top today I wore on our second official date. I think I’ve worn it since we split and obviously I can’t not wear stuff cos I wore it with him, that would be most of my wardrobe, but I think cos it’s coming up to a year since we got together I’m just remembering how happy I was that it was finally happening. Fuck I miss him.

I'm feeling less weepy today but I've been stalking whatsapp again (naughty me) there's no hope! Just want him back with me, back talking to me and not her. Part of me hates him for doing this but a much bigger part loves him more. Urgh.

I'm also taking one of his hats and a jumper he brought me for my birthday on holiday with me, will make sure that they are both in photos ha ha.

Yeah I’ve been stalking too, I’ll stop soon...

That’ll show him! I’m out Friday so will get all dolled up, show him what he’s missing...not that matters, he admitted he still fancied me and it wasn’t enough

That’ll show him is re the clothing you’re taking lol

Good that you are off out. I don't think he wouldn't still fancy you, and I think my ex would still fancy me, annoyingly it's just everything else! Been doing a lot of thinking recently and I think I know where my issues lie, and they're mainly to do with him not making me feel confident enough if you see what I mean. He is the worst communicator so I never knew if he felt certain ways and tbh I think that's what made me draw away from him a bit. And I should have communicated that too! But at the time it was like, yeah this is fine

I'm also really self conscious so like to be told that everything is fine, I look nice etc but I didn't get that often!

Yeah I know what you mean about needing validation, he was always big on that for me tho. For me, it’s hard to accept that in all likelihood, there just was no reason. It ran its course.

So I guess now for the future you know that you want someone who can communicate better with you

Just seen from his fb that he is away. Think it’s just a trip to his home town but it’s just a horrible reminder that I don’t know what he is up to any more cos I’m not his girlfriend and it just hurts so much

And yes I know I should mute him or whatever but I know I’m not gonna

Just missed my mouth and straight up poured Diet Coke down my top. Maybe it’s a sign

This is why I unfollowed mine, I don't want to see stuff. Although saw him comment on a photo of his friends dog on instagram saying "love you dogs name" so he's actually capable of saying it, just not to me apparently.... (although I'm more a believer in love being the things you do rather than the things you say) never said he didn't love me though ha ha...
Always gives me a bit of a jolt if I see him writing on something, just because I miss him writing to me

I hate it, I hate not being part of his life anymore. Uuuuugh I just miss him so much! Keep getting the TLC song in my head lol but it’s so true

Can’t help wondering who he is with...fuck I hate this.

Oh my god so I just realised he’s not following me on insta anymore but I’m not following him and I def didn’t unfollow him, it’s not long since I last looked at his profile. Apparently if your insta is private you can remove a follower but mine is private and I can’t see that option. Oh god. This is making me think I was right that when he accidentally video called me, it was when he was deleting our chat. Can still see his fb tho. This is horrible. Oh my fucking god

Feel like I'm a bit out of touch with this threat now... Everyone seems to want their ex back and I wouldn't touch mine with a barge pole. Think I'm gonna bow out now. Hope you all get to where you need to be to feel better for yourselves ❤

Oh wait I can see how you remove people now. Why remove me? What is he hiding? Want to ask but not like he’d tell me the truth if he was hiding something. Maybe just cleaner. Still friends on fb tho

It’s ridiculous coz it’s social media but it’s honestly made me feel sick

So want to ask him. But none of my business. If we ever manage to get to the friend point and hang out, I’ll ask him.
I find it very suss tho. His family are on his insta but his fb is separate from them. So he would tag me in stuff and post about me on fb but not insta.

His parents never found out about me (Yes I know, red flag and a drip-feed if I’ve not mentioned it before, can’t remember). So it just seems odd to remove me on insta, which he rarely uses, but still have me on fb, which he uses more, unless there’s something going on that he doesn’t want me to see, or if he is trying to remove traces of me from what his family can see. I don’t know. Might be reading into stuff but something just seems odd.

Or he could just be tidying things up. Maybe he’s working towards removing me / our posts on fb.

And I’m guessing about the chat on WhatsApp. Ugh. Sorry for mega posts, just trying to get my thoughts down really.

You know what herb, you and me are both the same and it isn’t good or healthy for either of us. We need a plan to get out of this horrible cycle we are in. There’s billions of people on this planet and we are allowing 2 of them to take away our lives. It’s not good and needs to stop. I don’t know how, but it does.

Don't ask him, it'll make it worse. When I split with my first boyfriend (we'd been together for 4 years) it was difficult (we won't mention the nearly 3 years of staying fwb....absolutely will never do that again!!) He had a girlfriend for around 6 months in that 3 year period after who absolutely hated me, even though I didn't really talk to him much but was still on his social media and she ended up getting him to block me on instagram. I got upset and asked him about it and he basically denied all knowledge! Said he'd deleted his account which was an absolute lie. After she cheated on him and he left her and we were speaking again he told me about it being her influence.
I'm not saying this is the case here but just saying that looking back I should not have confronted him about it as I just looked mental, and a bit of a stalker!