Break up support thread 2

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Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

@TinselAndKnickers I’m the same with the feeling of needing to text but all friends and family are trying to keep me strong as no good will come of it. It will be gratifying initially but will not lead to anything positive. I was waking up every hour last night as previously when we’ve taken time apart he’s always called when he’s been out, so I sort of wait for it. He promised he wouldn’t and he hasn’t.

This whole thing is torture, I am not good alone. @herbsmokedchicken I’m the same with thinking I used to have a boyfriend. And the boyfriend I had always wanted (except for not returning my feelings of course)! Feels weird to admit to myself that I’m now single and my best friend is gone and it’s like mourning the loss like you would with death because that person is gone forever.

Wow!!!! Sorrry I am so depressing!

Every time I want to message him which is a lot I’m coming on here instead which is helping so please keep sharing your heartache etc with me

I feel the exact same. I'm sat sobbing again having read our last conversation (I know this is stupid of me)

I miss him so much and I know it's stupid but I'd forgive him still. Like you say, they're your best friend and suddenly gone. I feel sick at the thought of him with someone else

My actual other best friend has ghosted me because she can't deal with me atm even though I haven't been overbearing. Not asked how I am once.

Yeah I identify with so much of this! Missing them, wanting them back, knowing what their schedule is. I just hate it so much, it’s so fucking unfair that I got such a brief bit of happiness before it was taken away. I’m trying to be positive, I’m trying to think that this was the practice run and the one for me is around the corner but rn he is the only one I want to be there!

That’s awful about your best friend! One of mine has been a bit the same, we had a heart to heart last week which was nice but mostly barely heard from her.

@TinselAndKnickers I know that feeling my friend has supported me in and off for a year about him and she’s fed up of me I think but I have just been really honest with her about how low I am and she seems to have listened.

I know the next girl he meets he will marry and have babies with and I am already dreading finding this out even though we have only been done since Monday night.

Why should someone get to have what I worked so hard to try and secure with him. There’s been no one more understanding than me, I have been so patient with him and have just been living in a fantasy that things would end up where I wanted them to be.

Morning all. Thought the old thread had gone quiet! Sorry to see some of you aren't doing so great and good to see some are feeling okay!

I'm a bit in both camps. I feel okay for me but I feel horrendous for DS. He's stopped waking up and screaming during the night but he gets really panicky when I leave the room. Ex is supposed to be taking him on Saturday for the first time so I'm really worried how DS is going to cope.

Have lost 2.5kg in a week...ex would be pleased, he was always hinting I should lose weight sigh

I'm sat in Costa waiting for my MOT to be done. Feel like crying so tempted to text him today but will not.

@TinselAndKnickers let’s stay strong on NC together. I’m struggling too. Plus my mum just told me she can tell I put on weight which has now made me feel like maybe another reason he doesn’t want to be with me is because I’m half a stone heavier than I was when i was seeing him last year. FML

Don't be so silly!! Course that's not it.

I'm so tempted! Not going to. But feel like I want to.

Yeah I would love to speak to him but I want to speak to him as my boyfriend, and he’s not anymore.

I feel like SHIT

I am feeling sort of ok at the moment so I’ll send you some positive vibes

Maybe I’ve just gotten used to always feeling vaguely sad

@TinselAndKnickers @herbsmokedchicken they’re all morons for not wanting us. F b c*s!!!! Having an angry sad moment.

I've just come home from a 2 hour drive, needed to get out, as I was in that wallowing stage.

I have family dinner tonight - great!

Did the drive help?

I’m looking forward to my long weekend away! But it’s somewhere I wanted to go with A at some point so know I’ll be thinking of him, will try not to dwell tho.

Had a flashback to those first couple of weeks when we had just gotten together and it was all such a novelty because neither of us had had that before. Before we got together I used to wonder how it sustains after that initial newness, then once we had been together a while I was like oh, it still feels just as amazing

Except for him it didn’t

It just makes me so, so fucking sad remembering past us. I was so happy! But then anyone could say that about anything. Sucks tho.

Ugh feel really shit now, stupid flashback!

I am so close to texting him. Feel shitty as hell

Be strong! Put your message here instead. Thing is like I said earlier, you want to text your boyfriend. But he’s not your boyfriend anymore. What would you gain?

I’ve just bumped into my ex in the shops...he looked at me, didn’t say anything and walked off in the other direction which hurt my feelings 😓

I just want to tell him I’m struggling and I miss him and I’m finding it all too hard. I have re added his contact to WhatsApp which I know is a very bad idea

Oh as if you saw him!! At least you didn't cry, which I would have

Advice he probably knows all that already, at this stage it's the worst thing you could text him as it will further inflate his ego. Learned that the hard way x

Oh dear not a good aft for us all around is it!

Advice, when I've said anything like that to my ex he normally ignores it so I wouldn't! He would reply if I said something generic.
It's his birthday tomorrow and I'm going to message happy birthday then I am done and back to NC. It's been an odd week of talking to him and his strange turning up yesterday so I will start saturday as new. He wont reply to the happy birthday (probs because he'll be away with her!) but that's fine, I'm being an adult.

Also may be known to stalk his WhatsApp last seen we're awful aren't we 😅
My proudest moment was posting an instagram story when I got into work and he watched it before going on instagram (to message her morning like he did with me) ha ha ha, I'm aware how crazy that makes me sound!

I’m so glad I’m not the only one doing the last seen, my friend thought I was bonkers when I told her! But she’s been with her bloke years so I think she’s forgotten a bit of the madness that comes post break up

Id like to say I kept my composure however I had a bit of a meltdown in the chocolate aisle but some nice lady from Asda gave me some Lindt chocolates to console myself with so silver linings 😂

@AdviceforMeplease I’ve been there so many times these last few months. Stay strong- it’ll not make you feel better in the long run, it’ll probably make you feel worse on the off chance he doesn’t reply 😓