Break up support thread 2

[Jonsnowsghost]

Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

Also, he told me he didn't want to give me false hope about getting together "never say never obviously I'll always love you, but for now, still no"

So I said "what makes you think I want to be with you anyway? I haven't forgiven you and tbh I have no respect for you, I love you but this was fucking nasty"

Who does he think he is having me on a bit of string. Cat and mouse games that I haven't got time for. I will always love him and maybe future I'll be open to it but fuck you mate!

So hard to say that and close the door.

Ah I did wonder where you were tinsel! Wow that sounds like a right head fuck! He just assumes you would take him back at the drop of a hat! But how is your job going?

I’m feeling a bit...I dunno, numb? Dunno how long that will last. Didn’t dream about him last night but then this morning I fell asleep before I had a chance to get up, lots of dreams about us waking up together. Hard to know we won’t wake up together again.

Bit weird today. Still thinking about him and doing the WhatsApp check but like...I’m feeling ok. Not happy exactly, but ok. Which is good I know but it feels weird! Keep waiting for the crash! But gonna try to enjoy it whilst it lasts

Torturing myself today, checking facebook messenger to see when he comes online and have only seen him once today so assuming he's out having the best fun day in the sun whilst I'm at home feeling sad and lonely. The ridiculous thing is that I've not sat watching it all day so actually he could have come online just not at the same time as me....I know I'm an idiot but just feeling down today :(

Ahh I get you, still feeling ok but keep checking WhatsApp. Hasn’t been online for three hours, not unheard of but unusual for a weekend. Is he napping? Playing video games? Entertaining his new lady? Most likely a mix of one and two, knowing how romantically inept he is, but of course I keep imagining three.

And of course not being on WhatsApp doesn’t mean he hasn’t been on his phone but still... he doesn’t have the active thing on his fb so only one avenue to torture myself with

And you’re not an idiot, this is a horrible thing to go through, we are just doing the best we can

Yeah I've not checked whatsapp as I know that will just confirm everything so not doing that to myself! Urgh it's just awful, why did he do this to me? Why was she so much better than me? I will never know, and I'd still take him back!

It’s so frustrating isn’t it?? I’d take mine back. Not saying it would the right choice or that it would work out, but I’d take him back. I hate that I’ll never know if he told me the truth about not knowing why he fell out of love with me, and that even if he was I can’t know if there was stuff happening subconsciously, that I could have managed to fix it somehow. All I know is that the man I love who I thought I was going to be with forever has dumped me

Yep same, loved him and thought we'd be together for a long time and he went and did this to me. Hope it was worth it...
I've done so much reading on here and elsewhere and everyone says that this "spark" and "excitement" isn't the makings of a lasting relationship (although obviously you have to fancy each other etc!) So I can only hope that it wears out for them both, but who knows when that will be and if it ever will :(
I know if we got back together it probably wouldn't last but I can't help wanting that so much, that he realises his mistake. I can't possibly know what he is up to or what he is thinking but of course I just think that he's much happier now, and that sucks. Me and you are both as bad as each other!

Yeah we are eh! I’ve said it so many times but I worry so much that he mistook the spark wearing off for not loving me anymore but I have to accept that I will never know. Any plans for tonight? YouTube and BGT with DM for me, yay...not that me and him would have done anything exciting

@TinselAndKnickers you sound strong, his behaviour is really tough, telling you he loves you and back and forth, argh!! I agree with you and what you say about new woman...I wonder if my ones new woman would be so happy making commitment if she knew he had been messaging me about missing me etc

@Strawberrycupcakes212 and @herbsmokedchicken I know what you mean about wishing you hadn't met them...I wonder that sometimes. Met him 15 months ago, on one hand I feel happy that I was able to fall in love and logic tells me if I did it then I can do it again. On the other hand I feel like the pain and panic of losing him has not been worth it. I still sleep badly and wake up in panic that maybe I'll never see him again I'm not sure I actually want to see him, I just cant believe someone could be so cruel to basically say "I love you but now shes offered me something I love more, bye".

It's horrible isnt it @PuffinSock, just so cruel that's basically what they are saying! I also wake up sometimes feeling like that too.

@herbsmokedchicken just doing some knitting, I keep thinking what would we be doing but my day basically would have been the same but he would have been here and I wouldn't feel so lonely just talking to that cat!

I’m starting to get sadder now

What are you knitting jonsnow? I’ve got a couple of blankets I’m working on, might do a hat for something different. Still can’t look at the blanket I was making him. I want to finish it one day cos it is looking so nice but can’t face it yet. I had a lovely plan for the border, I was going to use yarn I bought on our holiday, I hadn’t told him about that part and I know he would have been really touched

Oh yup, that did it, back to sad now. Dammit.

Well I just finished a whale shark 😅 and now doing a hat for a friend. I'm sad too, still not seen him on facebook, what a loser to keep checking! But then I am knitting so may have missed him...

Yeah I check to see if he’s posted even tho he doesn’t post much, and my fb still generally puts his stuff first on my feed so I’d see it anyway. I just miss him so much, about now we’d be choosing what to have for dinner and what film to watch. Not very exciting but it suited us. I hate being without him. I hate that I don’t know what is going on in his life. I hate that he doesn’t know what’s going on in mine and I hate that it’s probably not even occurred to him.

But a whale shark! That’s cool!

We were the same, it wasnt a massive great exciting romance but we were comfortable and happy and just enjoyed each others company without having to be over the top...or so I thought :( now I can imagine that he's out doing super exciting things (although just spotted him online 👀)

Whale shark 😬 he was online for like 5 mins so I definitely could have missed him at any time today 😅

Mine hasn’t been online much and I can’t help but freak out that he’s with someone. The odds are low. But it’s not impossible.
He is probably alone...but the fact that being alone is preferable to being with me even tho I know he hated being single, that fucking stings. Obviously it was the right decision but fucking hurts.

Isn’t it just so bloody unfair!

Ahhh I love that shark! Haha I can’t make anything like that, I loom knit, and not even that well! Well done!

In my mind, this is what has happened: at some point he’s met someone, they’ve started getting serious, he has cleared our previous chat from his phone which is how he accidentally called me, and now he’s not online much because he’s with her.

And he would probably think I was insane if he found out my thoughts (even if they were right)

Thank you :) I dont think he would be with anyone so soon? Although if he is it would be a rebound...
I also think he would think I was crazy if he knew my thoughts! I think he hasn't been online much because they've been out for the day, which we didn't do that much, boo :( but then I also could have just missed him. I really shouldn't look!