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Break up support thread 2

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Jonsnowsghost · 21/08/2019 21:16

Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

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herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 18:06

And does anyone else take it as a sign if you’re online at the same time? But if I’m opening WhatsApp 40 times a day, I’m bound to be online at the same time as him at least once...

On the bus, nearly time to stare at his driveway as we go past, and wistfully remember when I used to live there on weekends

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 18:06

Oh singleedition how kind of her!

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 18:10

Bladdy bus driver whizzed by so fast! Did he not realise I wanted to stare sadly at the back of my ex boyfriend’s car as it was sat i the drive?

LostGirl7 · 22/08/2019 18:12

I feel so sad and lost, don't know who I am anymore. I wish we hadn't tried again as I'm struggling more this time round. It was toxic at times, but there was also much love, fun and affection. I woke up this morning with the sun shining in, then instantly cried realising I'm laid on my own, no one to hug, make breakfast for, spend the day with. Feel very lonely much of the time, realising there is no chance of going back, or forward, with her ever again. It was such a long drawn out ending which has battered my self-esteem, and outdoubtedly hers. But onwards and upwards I guess, eventually. Trying to force myself to go out and do something fun on my own. Seems a good idea for a bit, but then I quickly talk myself out of it. I'm crying writing this, but at least I've got work in 2 hours which keeps my mind occupied for a few hours 😔

pizzafortea75 · 22/08/2019 18:32

I'm really tired today and I've had a low confidence day. I'm wondering if he's with someone else. I miss his texts. I'm wondering why I'm not good enough. I'm sure after an early night I'll feel better.

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 19:24

Yeah I could definitely do with a decent nights sleep! But I’m sharing a room with DM on our trip so prob won’t get a good sleep till Sunday.

I can’t quite believe still that I’m never going to go to sleep in his bed again

TinselAndKnickers · 22/08/2019 19:24

Without being outing, I do a certain service (as a job!!) that I promised him to help with, I've got the finished product and I'd like to give it to him but it's a digital file and I can't just pop it through the door like I would if it was a physical thing Angry I want him to have it but I don't want to break NC so I'm going to have to wait. Or I could email without saying anything but this may prompt an awkward premature conversation - what do you think?

I also need a new car and it was something we planned together and now he's not around Sad I'm going to ask him for help with this but only once he's broken the ice. I love him so much!!!! So pathetic of me but oh well.

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 19:49

Not sure on the file but do you def need his help on the car? I wouldn’t have a clue on how to choose a car but my mum and BIL helped me. I just wonder if maybe you are finding reasons to speak to him?

A has a couple of bits of mine that he missed when he was gathering all my belongings (still can’t believe they were nestled in the boot next to my suitcase when he picked me up from the airport! At least he had the sense not to give them to me right then!) and it’s stuff I def do want back but not any time soon so I won’t ask for it yet

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 19:50

I wish I could tho! Actually no, I wish all the stuff I’d kept at his was still there because we were still together. That’s what I wish.

Mumcomehere · 22/08/2019 20:37

Home from the family dinner, where everyone was tippy toeing around.

Anyway, today I knew he was going to this outdoor show thing, I was supposed to be there to, but... anyway, i stalked him on his social media and he hasnt been on any all day, nor WhatsApp, so whilst I was smooching on insta, I came across his cousin who is now on my stalking list (dont judge me) and he definitely went to the show as the cousin has posted all these family photos, him included, where he is all smiley and happy (wanker) I did notice he has a new watch though!

Do you also stalk more than the ex?

Mumcomehere · 22/08/2019 20:38

Mooching, not smooching ffs lol

TinselAndKnickers · 22/08/2019 20:50

I kind of do but don't, it can wait. I will give him the file but not until he talks to me first other wise it will look like I'm finding excuses.

Mumcomehere I stalk anything I can find Grin

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 20:54

Yuppp, he’s not from here tho and doesn’t go out much so not really anything to stalk...

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 21:23

We are not even on holiday yet and my mum is already doing my head in AND I DONT HAVE A BOYFRIEND TO COMPLAIN ABOUT HER TO
not that I was in the habit of slagging her off but she can be hard work sometimes and it was nice having someone who got it and I could have a moan to.

Mumcomehere · 22/08/2019 21:43

Anyone else had a melt down about Christmas yet!!!!

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 21:44

It has crossed my mind! I loved having someone to celebrate Christmas with (other than family) and I can’t believe it was actually our one and only Christmas

AdviceforMeplease · 22/08/2019 23:00

Just had a moment of feeling like I would test the waters of OLD and fourth swipe, there he was. Am more heartbroken than ever

herbsmokedchicken · 22/08/2019 23:28

Ohh no, that must have felt awful, poor you! Have you had a good cry?

If I’m honest the only reason I’m really on OLD is to see if he is...not so far. He said he wasn’t going to rush into anything. Part of me almost wishes he’d get on with it cos then maybe I’ll start to believe it, part of me is absolutely dreading it and feels sick at the thought of seeing him on there.

TinselAndKnickers · 22/08/2019 23:29

Advice that was the same as me, fucking felt like a big fat smash in the face. As he came up quickly he might have liked you?! Shock

I'm off Tinder now I've done my little petty act. Can't face it - some people tried to talk to me and I just thought "fuck off" Blush

TinselAndKnickers · 22/08/2019 23:51

I can't do it anymore I'm driving myself fucking mad. If I can just hold out till he messages I'll be proud of myself. God fucking damn it!!! Why is this happening.

Mumcomehere · 23/08/2019 00:04

I'm driving myself crazy, too, I need to slow the stalking down. I went into over thinking mode just now, seems like it's the same shit just a different day. I'm not tired either, which is pissing me off.

TinselAndKnickers · 23/08/2019 00:12

Same Hmm I feel sick with anxiety. Wish I'd either get over it or he'd come back cos I'm bored of this emotional rollercoaster now

Mumcomehere · 23/08/2019 00:41

I need to get over it, as I'd never take him back now, hes messed with my head, I've lost all trust and respect for him.
I m like a yoyo, one minute thinking about all the good times, then recent events appear. I have no idea how to work through this rollercoaster, any tips would be very welcome :)

TinselAndKnickers · 23/08/2019 02:22

I feel so anxious and sick EnvySad

Mumcomehere · 23/08/2019 03:03

Still awake Hmm

What are you anxious about Tinsel?

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