Break up support thread 2

[Jonsnowsghost]

Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

Yeah I’m starting to get tempted to message mine but I shan’t! Is it your counselling session today?

Yes its later this afternoon. Not sure what to expect really!

Well good luck! Hopefully it’ll help. I’ve got this afternoon off and then tomorrow and Monday so want to try and get the house sorted, it def doesn’t help my mind set when it’s a shit pit.

Just managed to go half an hour without thinking of him and without feeling desperately sad! Again, once I realised I felt down again but still, it’s progress.

Ah hit a bit of a low again. It’s not too bad but still. Stupidly looked at some old messages 🙄
Even tho it’s such a common thing, happens every day, as I type this someone is probably being dumped but it just seems so bizarre and unfathomable that it happened to me, that my lovely relationship is over and he doesn’t love me anymore. Like, how the fuck did that happen?

Yeah I get that, why did he do this to me is a constant thought!
The Counsilling session was helpful, going to go back next week again. Cried a lot going over it all again!

Oh good I'm glad it helped!

Despite knowing it’s supremely unhelpful, can’t keep thinking about what we would be doing. Like tomorrow I’m day off and mum needs a lift so instead of usual routine, i expect he would have come and got us both and dropped my mum off and then we’d have gone on to his. Instead I’ll drop mum off then go home alone. Might go for a spin or something first, altho I don’t like driving.
He did all the driving and now I have to drive again

I still think that too, but also now what he's probably doing with her 🙄😡

Oh yeah that must suck! I get that too, I’m like what if against all odds he’s actually found someone and they are together right now? I could puke thinking about it.

Just had a massive sobbing sesh and feeling slightly better. Comes and goes. Am not normally one for wishing my life away but want to fast forward to when I feel ok. altho it’s two months on Sunday and I’m still feeling pretty bloody shit, I’d hoped i would be further ahead by now.

Asked to be civil exchanging stuff via friend and she's says we tried doing it all your way?

Hi I’m sorry to ask this but are you seeing someone or are spending time with someone? Please respect me enough to be honest with me. I know it’s not my business but I would rather you told me than I hear it from someone else.. I’m sorry again to ask 😢

😢😢😢😢😢😢 just had to write that down because I’m so close to sending him it. My heart is pounding out my chest and I don’t know how long I can go on with this hurt... I’ve never felt hurt like it in my life. I’m so sorry we are all in the same horrible boat... I wish time would pass for us all x

I watch his Facebook constantly and it’s driving me mad. He hasn’t been on most nights this week so that can only mean one thing as he’s pretty much 24/7 on there. Where would it get me asking tho? He would more than likely lie, or if he did tell the truth, is it want I’d want to hear? I’ve now lost 3 stone and I’m barely able to function. I read the other day another poster saying where has everyone gone... and hopefully things have got better for everyone. Not for me. I read all your posts daily and I honestly believe I am sinking further... 😢

Oh honey I’m sorry to see that. I know it’s hard, but NC is better, anything you want to say you can say on here.

Yes we have lost a few people and I hope they are all doing well! I know a lot of this thread is me talking to myself haha. You’ll get there, we both will, the other day I shocked myself with how bad I felt but today I’ve actually felt genuine happiness a couple of times.

Herb, I like reading your posts... we sound alike. I too repeat myself all the time. I feel your pain. I really do. I am fighting the urge to contact him just now because I believe he is with someone else. But if I do, I’m pushing them further together by looking like some desperate ex.

I couldn’t believe my luck when I met him after so many years of loneliness. I wanted to tell the world I was happy, but was scared of people finding out in case I jinxed it.. I remember the first time he kissed me I asked myself how did I get so lucky? I’ve never felt that in my life before...

I truly believe I’ll never get over this. I’ll remember this pain forever. I’m sorry if that sounds dramatic, but it’s the only way I can describe how I’m feeling 😢

I get how you feel, I was single for years and when I got with A oh my god, I was so happy. I still can’t quite believe it’s over, when two months on and six weeks since we last spoke, I’m still like, what do you mean we are not together? I do think I will get over it eventually and I’m sure you will too but it’s not an easy process, this is hands down the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s harder than the deaths I’ve suffered, because he’s still here, just not with me. It’s so fucking painful. But we will get through it, we will.

Are you still fb friends etc? I’m killing myself trying to figure out if he’s with someone by his online activity. I’m a sad loser for watching... 😢

Yeah, he doesn’t post much tho. I’m terrible for checking “last seen” on WhatsApp tho to be fair tho I think he’d give me a heads up if he was seeing someone and it was gonna go on fb.

I know I should block really but...I’m not gonna .

I'm not pregnant 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I've never been so pleased to get my period. That's the last weight off my shoulders. Onwards and upwards here 😁

Went to see some mutual friends today and they have said he's making a show of himself and they don't believe all the shit he's coming out with so that makes me feel so much better.

Got my positive pants on! And it feels so fucking good ❤

Yaaay! I’m glad to hear you’re feeling good! And good to know you have people on your side!

Would have been together 11 months today and since it’s a Friday maybe we would have done something nice. Stupid to think like that cos we’ve been split two months nearly already but can’t help it. Hopefully this time next month I’ll be feeling better but it’s def gonna hurt.

And I bet he doesn’t even twig.

@herbsmokedchicken that's hard ☹ do you feel like you could start dating or too soon? When I've read advice from Matthre Hussey etc they seem to say get on with your life etc, seems v hard to me though.

@Jonsnowsghost hope counselling was ok. If you're thinking of them together, remember they will have bad times, argue etc, hopefully a lot

I'm having a wobble. I've been mostly NC it's been over a month now. At first he contacted me saying he missed me etc, now he hardly contacts. A couple of times hes fished for information on whether I'm seeing someone, so I'm guessing jealousy is a good sign? I just miss our times together and the longer time goes on the more I think hes moved on and forgotten me other than being mostly NC but responding in a friendly way when he messages what are my choices though? Hes chosen to have a relationship with her, that makes me second best, so I guess I have to walk away and if he comes running back in future then great but also he may never come back sorry for the slightly desperate moan.