Break up support thread 2

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Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

Also brings it home that he is not gonna change his fucking mind. Like he saw that and thought yeah that’s the past, we don’t want that on there.
Obviously I’m guessing here but there’s no other reason I can think of. When he was clearing out his room of all my stuff, he threw away a photo of our valentines date together (they were going round with a disposable camera) and I am sure he’s thrown away the cards I got him. It’s just his way, he doesn’t hold on to stuff like me and it’s how he moves on but fuck it’s sad to think of.

@herbsmokedchicken I know exactly how you feel, I had a look on monday to see if he'd untagged himself from anything I had tagged him in (he hadn't) and also it seems he still hasn't deleted photos of me from his instagram - I didn't look at his profiles but he had tagged me in a few on instagram which i can see, although i can't remember how many he had tagged but there's one of us together still on there, and he only had two photos of us together on there! It makes you crazy with wanting to know. I haven't looked at his profiles for nearly two months and I'm so proud of myself for that. Everyone told me to delete and block him but I won't, I have all other exes on there because they were part of my life and I'm not the kind of person to just cut people off so for now he is muted/unfollowed so I dont see his posts on either Facebook or instagram but one day I may follow and un mute him, just not yet.
He may have hidden it, or may have deleted it but he won't have forgot you or the memory - unless he has amnesia! And if he's got the later stuff still on there that might be more important for him

Yeah I don’t want to cut him out of my life because we happened, we were a thing, I don’t want to act like it never happened.

I hope he doesn’t start deleting other stuff but I’m just wondering if it’s gonna be a case of when it comes up in his memories he will be like, ok time for that to go.
Altho I was tagged in that status and I was checking my memories at like midnight for a few days so I was prepared in case it came up, and I didn’t see it, surely it would have come up on my memories too before he had a chance to delete? So maybe he had deleted already for some other reason. I don’t know. Not gonna obsess over it, or try not to anyway. I guess anything that helps it sink in that we are over is probably a good thing in the long run cos I definitely don’t entirely believe it yet.

If you feel like being a bit mean to yourself you can scroll through your own facebook and see if you're still tagged or if they've disappeared? They should still be on your profile. This is all so hard isnt it, I feel like a teenager going through social media like this!

When I was scrolling through his profile to get to the post I was looking for, I saw one from the day after we got together that I was tagged in, so I guess in a month if that one is gone I’ll know he’s deleting/hiding stuff! He’s not as prolific on fb as me so not as hard to check if stuff is still there lol. Bloody social media...

Feel shit. Why has this happened? We were so fucking happy. UGH

Same, 8 days until we were supposed to be going on holiday. Perfectly happy when we booked it, was looking forward to it for ages. No signs anything was any different then poof, gone.

Absolutely bizarre isn’t it! I just hate feeling this way and I’m trying to help myself as much as possible but I also know I have to just go through the process but it just sucks so much.

I've been through break ups before but not in this way, never been cheated on (and left for someone else...) it's really messed me up, I don't recognise who i am anymore!
Other break ups i knew something was up, they pulled away from me for a while before which is why i had no clue with this one. It was so out of the blue, so completely unexpected, we had plans for this year and next year, it's really knocked me for six.

Yup same, the week before I knew something was up but still wasn’t expecting this, but before that, no clue. Like one minute we were talking about our future together and the next, broken up. It’s so hard to imagine moving on - even before we got together, I’d never felt as strongly for anyone as I felt for him. It all seemed so meant to be and now I have to somehow accept it’s over? I’m not even two months in yet tbf so I think it’s going to be a long process. In a months time, it’ll be a year since I asked him out. So much has happened and yet somehow I’m back in the same position I was then, pining for him. Except at least then I could talk to him - tomorrow it’ll be six weeks since we last spoke. I bet he doesn’t even think of me now.

Hey all I've NC (missyeti)

So took DS swimming today with an old work friend who has her own DS and she told me she's pregnant... I'm over the moon for her but so incredibly sad for myself. It's going to be a long time (if ever) I get to experience the joy of another pregnancy

Bleh

@Mumcomehere how did your date go??

Oh yes teddy My friend is planning her wedding and I’m happy for her but also gutted that I’m not going to be getting married any time soon!

In a cafe alone to pass some time, and of course they seat me at a table I sat at with A one time. Yes, I remember, I have a weird memory for stuff like that. Was when we were Christmas shopping in town.
My eyes are welling up and I have no tissue!

I seemed better this morning but I’m worse again now! Said this before but I do wonder if it’s when it sinks in a little more.
Two months on Sunday. I hate feeling like this.

Oh herb it's horrible having an attachment to places. I've found getting used to our rented flat being just mine very difficult. I'm grateful I don't have it so bad that I can't go to shops any things...it would wipe out half of my daily life!

Didn't you get napkins at the cafe? The amount of times I've blown my nose on napkins is ridiculous

Yeah it’s horrible, there aren’t many places to go here so of course I took him to all the places I knew and now they are tainted!

I’ve got some now but I hadn’t been served yet, I’m feeling a bit better now. Ugh I just want him baaaack! I would take him back. I’m not saying it would be the right decision but if he asked, I would.
I dunno, I genuinely can’t see him ending up with anyone else. Not any time soon. He couldn’t have tried to make us work a little longer? He admitted in many ways it was still so good. Ugh. UGH. I have nothing else to say that I haven’t already said and I’m driving myself insane!

And yes I imagine it must be so hard when it’s a shared space! He only came to mine a few times as we preferred going to his but I still get sad sometimes looking at his side of the bed. I know one day I’ll move on but right now I can’t imagine loving anyone else. I haven’t been attracted to anyone except him in over a year. I see blokes who would be my type (even ones who look like him) and I’m like, meh. Cos they’re not him.

Aww sending hugs to you all x

My date went really well, we are going out again on Friday :)

Yeeeeees Mum!!! Go you!!

Ohh exciting!

Just had an evening catching up with some friends, one of whom I haven’t actually seen in person for a couple of years and it was so good, really needed it. Was pootling around my room getting ready for bed and realised I actually felt happy - have felt happy with other people, but not on my own. Of course as soon as I realised it, I started to crash, lol, but it’s a start.

Hows everyone this morning? I’m feeling ok atm but can kind of tell I’m probably in for a crash - I’ve realised I sometimes get this sort of vaguely positive feeling like he’s going to ask me to take him back...I know he’s not actually going to, and I don’t consciously think “oh he’s going to ask me to take him back” but it’s like this feeling of anticipation. When it inevitably wears off, I’ll crash. I’m trying to make it go away without that tho.

Still rubbish, doesn't really change! Just want him back, or even just to message me :( want to not feel like this but it's hard

He's been on facebook/messenger loads recently (the only thing I'm allowing myself to look at!) Just so tempted to speak to him when he is but I won't.