Break up support thread 2

[Jonsnowsghost]

Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

That’s good! I find it comes and goes, I have days where I feel pretty much ok, just a bit sad underneath it all, and then days where I’m really low, but I’m getting there. Feeling a bit better now than I was earlier.

Couple of hours and it’ll be six weeks exactly...I am one of those people who counts stuff in weeks, I’m always like “this time last week” “this time in three weeks” so I know when I lose count of the weeks, I’ll be on the right path to getting over it.
I remember when I used to count the weeks of how long we’d been together think I lost track around the 11 mark.

I miss hiiimmmm

Saaaaaaame, really feeling it today.

Are you all ready for your new job? I know it’s not the same but of course you can tell us how it’s going! (And all your real life friends obvs!)

If this was a romcom, we’d have discovered we were all talking about the same man and embarked on a revenge plot together

Lol I agree herb. Or we would all bump into each other in a coffee shop and we would have non stop venting, ranting, tears and maybe a bit of laughter ::)

One of us would own the coffee shop and we’d call ourselves the break up support club

Thought I'd share a picture of me and DS at the zoo! There was a little farm area and he has this little obsession with cows so here we are looking at the cows

I am ready for my job but so upset he's not even thought to say good luck. He's not thinking of me at all. If I were to text him tonight I'd say:

Tbh I’m really hurt by the way you’ve acted recently & I know it’s not “wrong” but tbh it’s made me lose some respect for you and I don’t feel as though I know you. If you wanted me out of your life that badly you could have just said, instead of pretending to care. I’m done, I will always care about you but I’m walking away from this now

Ps FUCK YOU

That's a lovely picture 🥰

Saw her tonight and just wanted to cry, we both attend same group

She looked amazing and new shoes new glasses! Happy as Larry!

I'm sobbing. Things keep replaying over and over.

Aww MissYeti that's a lovely picture, those are things that are important.

I liked your "message" tinsel that's the sort of thing I would say :)

I dont want to cry, but feel a bit numb, it was 4 weeks ago that i knew something wasnt sitting right....

Good luck today @TinselAndKnickers!

I second that, good luck in your new job Tinsel :)

@TinselAndKnickers hope your first day goes well 😊

Hope your first day goes well Tinsel.
Feeling sad still here too, miss him so much. I have so much to share with him, stuff that normally he would be bothered about but now he wouldn't care at all.
Still haven't seen a councillor as i was supposed to get a recommendation but she never got back to me so emailed again. I feel awful all the time, so low, so unmotivated to do anything. It's not fair that he can swan off and be happy and my life sucks.

Oh jonsnow it sucks, definitely keep pushing for a counsellor coz sounds like you would definitely benefit. It’s such a horrible feeling isn’t it? I heard the new Katy Perry song “Small Talk” and seemed timely as it’s about how strange it is that you can go from being so intimate with someone to just having small talk.

I still really miss A, I can’t believe it’s four weeks since we last spoke now.

Oh God I dont think I could cope with listening to a song like that! I agree though, how can you go from constant communication about everything throughout the whole day to nothing :( but then he hasn't gone to nothing as he has her to talk to instead :(

Yeah everyone is different, for me listening to songs that describe my situation help a lot and other people can’t imagine anything worse!

It is weird tho isn’t it. And horrible. And we have to ride the feelings out but definitely benefits to talking it through with a professional instead of being left to untangle all the feelings alone.

Ugh so even tho I am obviously aware of how long it’s been since I spoke to him, just now it was like it really hit me like oh my god, it’s been four weeks since I spoke to him. I had to control myself cos sat in the staff room but if I’d been in private I would have collapsed. God I miss him

Just had a big cry in the loos! Think tonight I’m going to put a sad film on and just really go for it, I’ve been crying in short bursts and reckon I could do with a really big weep. Not sure what to go for. Last episode of Dollhouse always makes me cry.

Your brave herb, I'm trying to avoid anything that upsets me.

I feel like I just need to let it all out instead of just crying for a couple of minutes at a time! Feeling fucking vile today. Seem to feel awful Sunday and Monday, start to feel better, then end of the week hits me again. I just miss him so much and I still can’t quite believe it’s over

Roughly the same people tend to be in the shop I go to after work and I’m sure some of them must think oh christ, it’s that girl who walks round crying again.

I mean I don’t walk around sobbing but I’ve been unable to stop tears falling down more than once so I’m sure some people notice