Break up support thread 2

[Jonsnowsghost]

Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

Ah well. No text. Really need to stop fb stalking him. I even look at his number of friends and check recently added. Plus WhatsApp. I imagine him messaging other women every time he’s online. I’m a loser right now :-(

You’re definitely not the only one checking last seen on WhatsApp, quite a few of us on this thread have admitted to it! I do it a lot less these days

I’m such an idiot, I phoned him last night!! He was nice as you’d expect but also told me he’s off out Saturday night with a mate. I know he’s free to do as he likes but now I’m just imagining him getting with other girls and it hurts!
Couldn’t help feeling stung that he’s not that upset and making plans already. Think part of him enjoyed telling me and see me panic a bit. How do I stop contacting him? I’m so pathetic especially when I broke it off!!!
I know he’s not right for me but I miss him terribly

Block his number! Weirdly as desperate as I am to talk to mine I’ve had no issue not texting - normally I can never, ever resist texting someone even in a normal scenario so this is unlike me but I’m not complaining. But if you’re struggling, block him. If he needs to get hold of you, he’ll be able to do it through a third party

You need to block and delete him off everything, it's the only way forward.

Thanks everyone. I was shaking afterwards. He hasn't called since. Maybe he accidentally dialled my number.
I wish I didn't miss him but at the moment I am just cross with him for all the hurt he put me through.

Anyone else finding certain songs an absolute killer?

Songs, films, memes, basically anything. I don't know how I feel. Wish he'd come back!! Cried again last night I'm so up and down with it.

Everything reminds me of him, even smells! So ridiculous. Hating all of this. When does it get better?!! Only day 2

Yes so much reminds me of him! Could smell him the other day and I was like wtf, since I was in the shower at the time. Turns out frizz ease smells a bit like his deodorant?! First time using it, won’t use it again for a while! Keep seeing memes I would have sent to him.

Seem to have gone back a bit this week but realised I’m coming up to my period so maybe my emotions are more sensitive?

I’m up and down as well tinsel right now I’m not feeling too bad but yesterday I was struggling. I hate being without him.

I'm up and down too, cant stop thinking of him being with her. It's all so unfair :( why did he do this to me. He made the choice to cheat rather than stay loyal. Then he decided he wanted to see her again, leaving stupid old me sitting at home waiting for him to get back from the gig, texting him and telling him to have a good time. He sent a bloody video of them all singing "I got you babe" URGH I hate all of this, I miss him so much

Yeah jonsnow that is fucking harsh, you miss him now and I get it but I bet one day you’ll look back and think you had a lucky escape! But as we’ve said before, doesn’t help NOW when we are hurting to know that one day we won’t hurt. I hate being without him.

It pisses me off when I see him like posts on Instagram that are specific to stuff we did (like a particular holiday we went on) os that weird 😅 like...NO we did that, you're not allowed to like it now

No I get it, I’d be the same!

I've been into town, the tears started rolling, and I blurted everything out to a complete stranger, who put her arms around me and cuddled me!

That's is awful @shrodingersbiscuit

This thread has helped me immensely, feel free to rant, chat, cry,

Did he confess, or did you have a gut feeling something wasnt right?

@Mumcomehere that's awful, so sad. How is he acting now?

Please can I join too?! Mine revealed he was going to live with someone else at the weekend we were only seeing each other, but it was intense the last few months he has helped me so much. I was so happy with him and believed all his lines too.

But he's gone and left me feeling like the rug has been pulled from under me. Last week I was so happy and he was still telling me how happy he was with me, seemed so genuine. I think its ruined even if he decided he made the wrong choice, the fairytale is over.

I'm just sad about all the lies, I feel like I've lost my amazing friend and confidante.

Did anyone else get dumped where they future faked and they gave the 'I love you but...' and they left the door open? I find it really cruel, its like he wants me to wait for him, hang about whilst he decides if he wants to be with his new girlfriend permanently I have no idea how to respond if he contacts. I'm not contacting. I think I will just keep it classy and say I'm disappointed but wish him well. Might bother him to know I'm not interested in discussing and I've accepted his choice.

@puffinsock my ex of 6 years was merrily making plans for my birthday (on Saturday), christmas, trips to sea life, painting the living room etc. all right before 'I don't love you anymore and haven't been in love with you for a long time'. It's shit. Hes gone back to mummy's pocket and im sat here listening to DS cry himself to sleep because nothing I do can comfort him tonight.

Don't reply to him if he makes contact. Don't wait for him. You're not second best to anyone. You deserve someone who is going to treat you like you're their world. We all deserve that and we're not going to get it from the twats that made us feel this shit

@MissYeti I'm so sorry, I'm so sad for you too. My ex (dad of my kids) decided he didnt love me either a few years back the only tip I can give is that once I was back on my feet, thriving and looking great he really wanted me back but I declined him.

Sadly my current one is another heartbreak, I agree though it isn't even worth giving him headspace, we don't have kids and didnt live together. I know I wont contact him, I suspect he will contact me at some point but I will ignore. I think them not hearing from us must be quite disconcerting to them, good

I need to get off this rollercoaster, yesterday I was feeling strong, today I've been a crying wreck, I went through from when we first started going out, to when I found out, I relived every moment, hence being a wreck. I'm pissed off with myself for being like this, I'm a shell of the person i was.

Another weekend on the horizon, how we all doing?