I'm so tired of chasing him,I'm a girls wreck..what do I do?

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I've been dating him since may but I've never dated anyone as confusing as him.
He blows hot and cold and I have no idea where I stand or how many others he's chatting too.
He hasn't gave me the time of day really since Thursday/Friday and I've had to imitate convo since.
I messaged him this morning,a few reply's then he didn't answer my last.
Last night I asked if he wanted to meet for drinks he said yes ..I asked when he was free he said Friday.
Some days we have good chats back and forth and it seems like he wants to chat then he has spells where I feel like he doesn't want too.
I text him on his lunch at work asking if he wants to grab food too on Friday and he replied "where" then I showed him a place.
He has been on WhatsApp since and not looked at my message.
I'm stressed and fed up with this.
I like him but I can't stand this,I was up all night,couldn't sleep.
Today I've been sick all morning worrying.
I don't know what i do wrong when he goes quiet on me.

He's showing you who he is...pay attention. At best it sounds like you are a stand-by.

How old are you and him?

Both in mid 30s

Why can’t he see you during the week?

He's a full time dad to a 15 year old

Please stop engaging with this man. He really is using you in every sense of the word. I think you know deep down that is what he is doing, and if it’s making you sick and anxious, rather than happy and settled, then this is the wrong relationship for you. You deserve so much more.

That shouldn't prevent you seeing him surely?

I suspect that his quiet periods occur when he’s with someone else, his primary relationship perhaps. I may be wrong, but it seems “off”.

He blows hot and cold? So you blow cold. Be consistent. All this chasing is a bit sad and I’m sorry to see women doing it. There’s just no need. If he’s into you he will be there responding and answering and making arrangements to see you but it looks as if he’s not that bothered I’m afraid.

Couldn't be arsed with this. Just ghost him.

I don't know where I stand with him.
It's driving me mad.
I'm pretty up and down with my anxiety /depression and this is triggering me.
The days he is all over me,(and it sounds cheesy ) I float on air then today and yesterday I feel like shit.
I see him on WhatsApp yet nothing for me.
He's making me feel worthless.

Cross post.
Poor excuse. His 15yo can stay home alone. Not overnight maybe, but definitely late!

As was said on your last thread, no man is worth making yourself ill over.

However, your last thread did indicate that you are very needy and insecure. Stressing because he hadn't text you in an hour.

Whatever way you look at it, you are not right for each other. Take some control and end it.

At the beginning he was answering and responding quick,organising things etc
Then he asked me to send a pic and I did then I was chasing for the next date
He turned around and said
Think I could ask you to send anything and you would

@gottagetouttahere I don't mean to be needy but he will tell me about girls chasing him,sharing a bed with a girl but nothing happened,how he nearly caused a divorcee ...bombarding me with lots of texts then hardly anything ...then I'm chasing him
I'm tired

I don't know where I stand with him.

but you do ! Move on really!

This is why women should let the men do the running.
Best way to weed out the time wasters.

Please gather your dignity and let him go OP. I'm saying this to be kind. Why would you put up with this - someone making you feel like shit - he is not worth it!?

Think I could ask you to send anything and you would

Give your head a wobble and cut this guy off. He's enjoying seeing how far you'll go, how much you'll put up with.

Go back to your gp and get some more help with your anxiety and depression.

• I don't mean to be needy but he will tell me about girls chasing him,sharing a bed with a girl but nothing happened,how he nearly caused a divorcee ...bombarding me with lots of texts then hardly anything ...then I'm chasing him I'm tired*

Why on earth are you entertaining this nonsense from any man let alone one you've just started dating? Cut all contact and move on with your life.

Why aren't you acknowledging that you've been told you're wasting your time?

He's not worth the trouble

Your last update: he said all that and still you’re being little miss desperate. Grow up, move on.
I hope ‘girls wreck’ is a typo cos you’re not a girl.

I'd have to say move on as well, or at least uninvest in him emotionally (if it's worth keeping him around for physical reasons). No one is worth having the emotional ups and downs your experiencing. Change the scenario and stop chasing him. Let him chase you. If he doesn't, then you know where you stand right?

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?.

Why do you think so little of yourself and why is your relationship bar here so very low?. Love your own self for a change.

I would also suggest you go back to the GP and get further help with regards to your anxiety and depression (because he is and will make you feel a lot worse).

I don't even know what's wrong with me.
Why he changed on me.
I need to move on I know but I just don't understand what happened