Dating thread 167: Help, I need somebody - but not just anybody

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

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Lifegoes your last sentence answered my question perfectly thank you.
Echo I want her to stay over, but we will be taking things a bit slower and are going back to just seeing each other on childfree nights.

@Ant330 I want her to stay over
Then you have answered your question. You can't meet Miss Tiny on Monday.
Sorry, that is cake eating.

Thanks Ginmel I did wonder and was starting to feel bad about it. Will knock it on the head.

Glad it helped. If ever in doubt at all ask yourself if it was done to you how would you feel. @Ant330

Loo update (him, not me). Mr Dog is lovely and I'm having a really nice evening but I don't think I fancy him. No idea how he feels but he's just getting our third drink.

Cmon mate. If you and miss h are actively making plans for a new beginning which is of course fine. You should not have kept miss t in your back pocket during this. Lecture over.

That's fair Ginmel in my very weak defense we only actually made plans for Sunday a few hours ago which brought the dilemma into sharper focus. And if she hadn't said yes to meeting Sunday (knowing she was free) then I'd have contemplated knocking it on the head if I felt she was still being flakey. We are though now talking about how to try again so you're all right and I will explain to MissTiny.

Charges reduced to cupcake eating from cake eating but still guilty.

@Ant330 I think the best thing you can do with Miss Tiny. And maybe taking from experience here.

I was talking to a guy online. Swapped numbers etc were getting on well and planning to meet up. He sent me a message one day and said "unfortunately he wouldn't be able to meet up because his ex had come back into the frame. Whilst he was over her, he felt that if he didn't give her a second chance he would kick himself or winder what if. It was not a reflection on me but as he was removing himself from OLD he thought it was only right to tell me"

I have to say that was probably the nicest honest message I had received and respected him for his honesty.

Now... what happened a few months after that is a very different story. BUT! I respected his honesty so my advice would be to perhaps be honest with Miss Tiny.

Hahahaha @Ginmel you really do make me laugh. I always love reading your posts on here.

I know, I'm holding my hands up, no excuses.

Lifegoes that was my intention because I'd hate her to think it was anything to do with her, but thank you.

sunshine and gimmel - MrBE doesn't drink and I always felt like a lush when I've been out with him in the past.Lol. It kinda worries me. But on the flip side, my STBXH is alcohol dependent and that's horrible. MrBE might do me some good. He's always said he has no problem with me having a few, finds it amusing, am also more amorous 😉. But, I like to see people let themselves go once in a while. Is that wrong?

@TooOldForThis67 absolutely not wrong at all. I'm on the same level as you there. I actually love nothing more than being in a relationship and if it's sitting in the house sharing a bottle of wine. Or popping to the local etc. (Obv not every night). But enjoying that
Everyone knows when you've had a drink your guard drops slightly. You can have a laugh you have less barriers etc. It becomes fun

I'd hate to think of being with someone who didn't drink and watched me have a few. I'd more inclined to not drink when I was with them.

Christ I sound bad here. But I hope you get what I mean. Because I know when I've been out with friends and they've been drunk and me sober. I've been all what the fuck they doing 😂

Date 1 of 4 (Miss Actor) tonight ghosted and blocked, so I'm home alone tonight. Not taking it personally. Date 2 of 4 (Miss Scot) has postponed 😬. Fingers crossed 3 and 4 stick to plan 🤞.

I'm swiping to make myself feel better. May get wine 🍷😊

Exactly @lifegoes. It's worrying me a bit as I'm always going to be the one apologising, lol. But, I do need to curb it a bit so maybe not a bad thing. With my STBXH it always seemed to be that I'd catch up to him but the difference between us was he'd drink heavy every night. Almost 20 year of that makes it's mark.

Yeah totally agree @TooOldForThis67 think we've both had that experience with an ex so we know what we don't want. But also know what we like. I don't think that's a bad thing tho.

Rick Defo get wine, lol.

Aarrgghh I think mr bald is playing Games. We had a long text conversation yesterday following me accidentally messaging him. He's then messaged me today out the blue... I feel like something has changed with him since we split up as he's never been like this. I love him and would love to get back with him but I just know it's wrong..... I'm still messaging mr Irish but now finding my mind wandering to mr bald again.

Bless you @lifegoes. Thanks
Sorry to hear that @RickDeckard
@tooold that's a good point about seeing people let go. I get that

Haha one of my Irons has matched my friend and said he’s had one date from the app but no spark.

Fascinating what tangled webs we weave as he’s trying to sext me at the same time 😂

Luckily I am not bothered as still high from last night and to be honest feel less guilty about the fact if it carries on from last night with MrRock who is full on today I’ll be culling anyway. Can do so with a clear conscious now!

@TooOldForThis67 ... I now have my favourite glass of red to console myself... Cheers! 🍷

I'm on my way home. I've had a really lovely night with lots of laughs but I don't think there's that romantic spark. Glad I went though.

I'm also a bit pissed 😂

Babysitter has fallen thru for Sunday date with Mr Nice.

But I don't have a curfew for tomorrow night with Mr Joker. And I know - I know! - the rules. But he's so lovely and fun to chat with and I'm hoping for a successful evening. I'd be quite happy dropping all other irons and focussing on him if things go well. (I know!!!)