Dating thread 166: Who dates wins

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

gym but it would be rude to his brother to text you, no? Clearly there are other things that have set your gut/spidey senses alight. Rather than getting a grip I think you need to get clarity. Look at Rule 12, then tell him what you need to know from him.

Good morning all, can I join please? I'm an extremely long time Mumsnet lurker, just started OLD (2 months) and need some support I think! I live with my ex still due to living in London/ mortgage/ childcare etc so things are a little difficult. Have loved reading this thread this morning, such encouragement

I've decided I don't want to talk about trying again.
I've just messaged her saying I don't what to set any unfair expectations. It's been too long now, I don't feel the same as I did and I can't forgive her for the last few weeks.

Well done @Ant330 she pissed you about loads and I thought you were extremely patient. We are always harping on, on this thread that we are the prize and you've maintained your dignity throughout. Sounds like she realises she was onto a good thing with you and now she's fucked it. Onwards and Upwards

@Gymandtonic25 I know it's rude to have the phone out in front of you but it also shows a certain amount of openness. In my first date with Mr R he was showing me photos on his phone whereas I was hiding mine as I was concerned about receiving messages from other men on mine!

@Gymandtonic25 I actually think that I'd be more likely to put your phone away when eating out with a family member than with a good friend.. I don't know why?! They may have some sort of family unwritten rule about this. So maybe don't write him off too quickly - but I do absolutely get how you feel.

@Ant330 good luck later
@SimonJT I hope things are going well 🤞
@ultimateme hi there and welcome!

@Ant330 I'm impressed with how you've been with miss h and also relieved truth to be told. Respectful to the end - a true class act

@ultimateme welcome. Love the name

@midcenturylegs It’s next weekend, but things generally seem to be going okay ☺️

@SimonJT argh oops!!

I'm chatting to someone at the moment but struggling to find things in common... Cricket ✔️ but that's it.. trying hard to be witty - why was this always so much easier at the bar when at a gig?

@notmrscookie that all sounds rubbish. Were you interested in them? I've stopped trying to force anything if my instinct was saying no. Trust your judgement x

@midcenturylegs Is it easier because people (well me anyway) are usually drunk at those. So, get the beers out and you’re sorted.

Ok, so New Order on Spotify and a vodka & Diet Coke in hand @SimonJT - just like the old times!
😂😂

@Ginmel I'm not sure it was me, though it does sound like something I'd say - was it @lifegoes perhaps? I've been through my phone and can't find any memes along those lines.

@Ant330 Thinking of you today and tomorrow. Tough weekend for sure 🌻

Currently nervous as a Turkey at Christmas. MrC will be here in a hour and will meet DD for the first time. He says he's wearing a shirt? A shirt? I've been going out with him for 4 months and never seen him in a shirt?!! He thinks he's dressed up if he puts his good flip flops and board shorts on! Apparently he wants to make a good impression 🙈🤞🏻

Awww bless him @JeSuisPrest that's really sweet

Someone said the quote was from you but I really couldn't remember. Thanks for checking though.

@Ginmel I think the quote was 'things that are difficult now are the things that will eventually end it' was it something like that?

Hi, yes it was me @Ginmel I don't have the post. But the quote is...

The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Thanks everyone and especially @lifegoes

I bloody love it. We should add it to the opening post..

It's a really good quote @Ginmel one of those that you read and suddenly look back at your relationships and think...

How bloody correct that is! 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

So true @lifegoes 😍 thanks again for sharing it. I was thinking of the quote yesterday when I walked away from a new iron.

Been rewarded today (at least so far) with an ever newer iron who is much better for me, lives locally, is kinder and has a much cuter dog

Good for you walking away @Ginmel I think you should always trust your gut. And if he wasn't treating you to the standards you expect. Go find a man that will, and fingers crossed this new one will.

I hope he wasn't a total arse to you x

No he wasn't. Just unnecessarily rude. Struck me quickly as the type who was fooled in the past by someone online and continues to make new people pay.

The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Needed this today. Thank you 😊

Am so excited seeing MrTall this evening after just over a week. We've been seeing each other just 9 weeks now and still going strong! We're also just over 16k messages so that's not slowing down either...good luck everyone who has dates this week and look forward to hearing about them

@Ant330 👍👍