Dating thread 166: Who dates wins

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Oh sunshine. I'd be upset by that too. Have you and Mr SaS defines your relationship yet? Sorry if I've missed it. I remember you weren't sure if he was still seeing other people. Do you think you are more into him than the other way around?

In your shoes, and with a week of my holiday to go, I'd put my phone away and concentrate on being with my family. And perhaps you can discuss each other's expectations when you get back.

Thanks @Ant330 and @Lillyrose19. I guess I just feel like he's not that bothered while I am missing him like mad. No more messages from him and he probably won't even remember it's my birthday tomorrow.

I also have to remember it's THAT time of the month and I get very 'fuck you' for a few days anyway, but he's still pissed me off.

How are you feeling @Ant330? Any more from Miss H?

@Notcoolmum We haven't really had a conversation about where we are as I guess I kind of went into it this time with my eyes open but he has said a couple of times that he's not on the apps anymore (that was the issue before).

I know that neither of us are in a great place to be offering the other a solid, committed relationship right now but if I'm honest, no-one really compares to him right now.

I don't want to push him away but I also don't want to be a doormat. I was one of those for long enough in my marriage.

Place marking so I can find you all xx

I understand sunshine* but I would advise that you don't always sit on your feelings for fear of upsetting him. I can't see any good would come of that.

Try and enjoy the rest of your holiday and put him in a secure box to open when you get home. I think there might be more to discuss than seeing other people if your expectations are mismatched in other ways.

How's the holiday? We go tomorrow. Can't wait.

I’m concerned Mr Chips (4 dates in) is still on the dating apps as his location keeps changing also had radio silence from him all night so I suspect he’s on another date

Don't read to much into it sunshine, I'm sure it will all be fine when you're home. Have a happy birthday tomorrow x
My date from last saturday ( I'll call him Mr b) has been texting quite a bit and we have a date set for fri eve. He mentioned Thursday but I said I could only pop out for an hour as have son,but said I was kid free on friday so he said Friday! The footy banter has stopped thank goodness and now I'm hoping I get to know the real him

@Notcoolmum The holiday is great thanks. Lots of doing not much at all, which is hard to get used to as most of you know, being a single parent rarely involves not doing much!

Have a lovely one yourself x

Thanks @kerkyra and the date sounds good! Enjoy on Friday 😁

I'm alright thanks Sunshine

And yes she texted me an hour ago, I know you'll all tell me to ignore it but that's not going to happen is it! Just mulling over what to say.

@Ant330 Was it a message you were pleased to receive?
We can give you all the objective advice in the world but you are invested in her and this relationship, not us!

Enjoy doing nothing for once sunshine and have a happy birthday. Forget about Mr SAS and have a wonderful time xx

Also, yes he starts work earlier than me but he works 4 days a week and finishes at 11am/12pm and chooses to go to the gym after. I work until 4pm, 5 days a week and then have to drive 45 mins home to sort my kids out.

Happy fucking last day of being 40.

Sunshine yes and no. Lots of apologising, telling me she really cares about me, sorry she's upset me, just wanted space but doesn't know why... but no specific assurances of how to resolve things or when.

But anyway in better news completed unrelated to dating, some of you may recall my car accident 3 weeks or so ago and today my insurance company came back to me with a valuation for my written off car only slightly less than I paid for it 8 months ago. Happy days! I'm going car shopping at the weekend

Ant330 it kinda sounds like she wants some absolution but with no further progress on her end. E.g no significant change

sunshine try and enjoy yourself, it's hard but I agree. Hes basically being selfish. You sacrifice sleep to see him, he gets things at his own convenience. I feel like you should not bother trying to organise yourself around seeing him when you get back. Sure , find a time that suits you both but being the accommodating one is a thankless task

Mr C just sent me a solicited chest photo. He's 🤩😍💥🔥

Which sites shall I try experienced ones?! Have tried POF which I found soul destroying. Where are all these sas/french/Spanish men I hear about?! Unless something interesting happens soon I’ll have to resign myself to lifelong boredom!

Hi all, dating thread newbie here 👋. Really want to try some old, but I'm worried that my lack of free time is a barrier to forming relationships. I have very little free time with 3 DC at home. Would appreciate some ideas or pointers as to how I can make a start without people thinking I'm wasting their time🙅‍♀️

4g is decent, MiniSJT is asleep so I’m doing my best to empty the bar.

Way to go @SimonJT - have one for me!

Way to go @SimonJT - have one for me!

Way to go @SimonJT - have one for me!

Or have three for me!! What is going on with these postings?

Happy birthday @Sunshineandflipflops

Welcome to the newcomers. The first post has some really helpful dating guidelines and a link to info about different dating sites.