Dating thread 166: Who dates wins

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Ant I'm not sure whether to just not contact him again or to send a message - I do like a bit of closure - although we have a great time together - date last Thursday was 6 hours - it's the lack of communication in between- making me unhappy so need to move on. Stay strong.

@candysroom Honestly, my experience over the last couple of years - leave it. You sent the message, he heard it - now he's doing the same thing. What's the point really? My advice - Delete his number and texts and all temptation, he'll circle back round i'd put money on it. And when he does, don't jump in the first instance. Consistency is a telling mark of whether someone's 'in it' with you

JeSuis I didn't think Mr C (who I don't even know !) would stay celibate for a weekend .... lol. In fact, I don't really understand why the Aunt being in the house was a problem at all, it's possible to DTD quietly 😂 It's not like she was in your room ....

RE: Men People OLD who give off the 'not interested' signals but equally don't just say 'This isn't happening'. They 90% of the time come back round if you just leave them to it. It can be days, weeks or months. And ime they're always not worth it

The other day out of nowhere a man who flaked on me twice for coffee A YEAR AGO texted a few days back with: 'I did call you'. He was referring to a random phone call 3 months ago that I didn't pick up. Absolute buffoon

Congrats on the dating record @JeSuisPrest I hope you have 10000 days ahead

supercali77 Haha, yes I agree, they are like boomerangs...leave it long enough and you'll get something back. Trouble is I always delete numbers as for me it helps with clearing them out of my head. Then its a case of thinking who the heck is this when I do get a message back!!

@serendiptygirl Yeah i'm the same - if he's giving off the ol' 'Maybe I will, maybe I won't' signals I just delete everything. Because I use whatsapp I can usually recognise them by their profile picture. That bozo actually is vaguely amusing. The last time he got in touch before his random call he'd said 'Please give me another chance' and I said 'What've you got on offer' and he said '3 Camels'. He's sufficiently bizarre and harmless to not block him

Can you delete someone on WA? Obvs you can delete them in your phone but they still show on WA with a profile pics and their number. I just want to clear all the twazzocks I have blocked and deleted

@Marlboroandmalbec34 You mean like delete the chat? If you go to your main list of chats and press/hold down on the chat the icons in the top left should show a bin icon

You can delete chats in WA. If you’ve blocked and deleted them, then doing that should clear them right out of your phone.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 twazzocks.....love it!! I can relate, I can't bear seeing the smug picture once they have gone AWOL.

@supercali77 Mr Boxer has just messaged after going AWOL....'What's happened to you - busy?' wtf...it kind of makes you lose your sanity a little and I haven't even gone on a date with him yet. I think my level of investment at this point is zero. When I first started this internet dating malarky I was a little green and time after time I got disappointed. I am beginning to spot the personality traits before I've wasted any perfume and make-up..lol. Just for fun it would be good to hear the types of men that others have come across on the dating sites. I do have an intensive list ...haha

@serendiptygirl - That is my favourite one 'Where have YOU been?' Durrrrrr. I don't get it - in the modern age of Fab etc no one needs to 'fake relationship' to find sexual partners/FWB. It feels like a leftover of a previous age.

Hi all, I'm a long time lurker... just thought i would bob in and give a bit of feedback on fabswingers. I've met some wicked guys, so all in all its been great. I'm still having fun, long may it continue. If anyone wants more details just ask :)

serendiptygirl must be something in the air - mine's just texted with how are you stranger - sigh

@candysroom I think they literally get etheric vibrations the second you give up on them and feel ok about it

I have two new irons on fab. Mr E and Mr T. Mr E is the front runner but Mr T is trying hard. Figures doesn't it?

Found the new thread, so hard to keep up.

Date 3 tonight with my iron, I’m going to his and he’s either cooking or we are going to the pub. All pretty relaxed and not feeling nervous at all (ok maybe a tiny bit).

Yay. Mr E is back in the lead, for now.

I’m on holiday and Mr Tri has just messaged suggesting Ikea when I get back. Wonder if he knows the connotations!!

ginmel when you meet him will you rename? I cannot imagine a Mr E - well I can but gurning with glow sticks 😂

love good luck!

I wonder savoretti 😁

Nope I have deleted from phone and blocked but there smug faces and numbers are still in my WA!

Am meeting Mr E for a drink on Saturday afternoon.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 nah he can stay as that for now.

You need to delete the contact on WA too. You can also block in WA in addition to on your phone

Schlep I had fun on Fab. Then met Mr BC on there and have been exclusive for 4 months with plans for next year ... you just never know where you'll meet someone ....