About to see the guy who ghosted me - HELP!

[Floopyandtired]

I’ll try to keep it short. Had been seeing a new guy for a few months but taking it slow due to DC being involved. He left for basic training 12 weeks ago and I basically never heard from him again. We have mutual friends and he kept in touch with most of them. He was even messaging one of them while I was in the pub with them on Friday night. But he completely ghosted me. It’s like he joined up and forgot I existed.

Anyway, I am going to a birthday meal tonight and he’s going to be there. I messaged him yesterday just basically saying I was hurt that he ghosted me and I would never expected it if him. Obviously he’s ignored it.

But I’m cacking it about tonight. The ship has sailed and there’s absolutely no going back but I don’t know how to be around him, what to say, whether to give him a hard time or kill him with kindness... please help!

Good luck - just remind yourself (repeatedly) that he's unworthy of your attention.

Go and enjoy, don’t drink too much. Ignore him and don’t initiate contact. Don’t put yourself in a position of being humiliated by asking him for closure because you won’t get one but it will massage his ego.

If he turns up with a date or mentions a new one, remember karma is a bitch and he will very likely do to her what he has done to you when a new bit of skirt turns up.

Be fabulous and do not care!! Good luck and let us know how it goes 😉x

As others have said OP. Stay aloof, yet polite.

Talk to others in the group and enjoy the evening.

He's not worth a second more of your time.

Little 'bit of skirt'? Really? Why should karma befall the next woman and not the knobhead who treats them like shit??

Don't flirt with other men in front of him. He will know why you are doing it.

A simple "hiya" while you spot someone more interesting over his right shoulder should suffice. Then ignore him.

Good luck OP, he's really not worth worrying about. Sing Beautiful Souths 'Need a little more time' to yourself if you feel wobbly, the lyrics are fab for wankerbastards.

Good luck!

If it's any consolation OP I bet he is absolutely bricking it. It is an unbelievably stupid move to ghost someone you are in the same social circles as!

Have a great time, look fab and I agree, if anyone asks the suggested replies re him ghosting you are the way to go.

I'd ignore him - he doesn't sound worth the attention from you! Hope all goes well 😊

Hope it isn't too excruciating OP. Best of luck

I think it won't be as bad as feared

Good luck x

Down 10 pints and headbutt him.

You know it makes sense.

@liverbird

“Oh, hello! I wondered if you were dead!”

This followed by ignoring him completely.

Oh OP, what a knob he’s been. Good luck for tonight. He’ll be there alone whereas you have the MN army behind you...

What is his relationship with your best friend?

Why is he there? If it's a relatively small gathering, why has your best friend invited him?

Good luck!!

@liverbird10 has it spot on.

Have a good evening - breezily ignore if you can!

Is he there?? How's it going ?

I really feel for you regards the ghosting... just why?

I hope you have a fabulous time this evening. He doesn’t deserve your time or attention.

Have a lovely evening.
You'll be totally fabulous I'm sure.

Let us know of he has the decency to talk to you 🙄 prick. You're better off without him.