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Would you ask them to go out for a 3rd time?

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upupupandaways · 02/08/2019 09:28

They want to keep it casual,don't like you pressuring them.
Have asked them out two weekends running and they said no.
Since then they've text you all day every day,been really flirty,dropped hints about meeting up but haven't asked you.
Now it's the weekend again and nothing.
Would you ask for the 3rd time?
Or leave it up to them and save your self respect and dignity?
Then if nothing by next weekend just mentally draw a line under it and find someone who actually wants the same as you?

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Ohyesiam · 02/08/2019 09:32

I would do what you say in your last paragraph. They do sound a bit like they will talk the talk but not walk the walk.

Homer101 · 02/08/2019 09:34

I'd leave it. It sounds like there playing games with you. Messing with your head.
Back off a bit. Stop flirting back. When they text you don't reply right away. Then see what happens.
If they really want to go on a date with you then they will ask. They know your interested.

funnylittlefloozie · 02/08/2019 09:38

Flirt back over text if you like. Accept that its not going anywhere. Absolutely do NOT ask them out again.

Musti · 02/08/2019 09:40

Definitely don't ask them out a 3rd time. They know you want to meet as you've asked twice. If they don't ask back is because they don't want to meet or cant (maybe they're married etc) but you don't want to start something this much trouble already.

NewMe2019 · 02/08/2019 10:10

I wouldn't ask again. If he's keen he'll ask, if he doesn't I'd stop contacting.

Original poster
upupupandaways · 02/08/2019 10:19

Yeah I deffo don't want to ask again or I'm gonna look desperate.
I just want to meet up /have another date

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Howdoyousleep · 02/08/2019 10:22

If you’re not actually meeting up, what’s the point?

MiniTheMinx · 02/08/2019 10:34

They have a reserves bench and you're on it.
Gather up your self respect, get some indignation and dump. Whilst he's sending you flirty texts he's more than likely making plans with someone else.

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upupupandaways · 02/08/2019 10:43

I'm getting bored now.
There's only so much texting you can do

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ISpeakJive · 02/08/2019 10:57

Stop texting. Block and ignore!

Teedeepie · 02/08/2019 10:59

Definitely do not suggest a third date. You have made it plain you are interested and want to meet up. Leave the ball in their court if you don’t mind flirty texts and see them as a bit of fun, however if it is frustrating you take back control and step away and cast your net again. Life is too short to keep your weekends potentially free just in case. Good luck Flowers

Pricedrop · 02/08/2019 11:01

I would draw a line under it NOW

MargoLovebutter · 02/08/2019 11:05

God no. Glad to hear you are going to stop texting him too. He doesn't sound like he is worth the time you are investing in him.

Happyhusband · 02/08/2019 11:16

Nope. Two strikes and move on.

Ginmel · 02/08/2019 12:06

Sounds like you have are being used for wank fodder. I'd pass if I were you.

GoGoGoGoGo · 02/08/2019 12:31

No, leave it. Two chances is enough.

ScreamingValenta · 02/08/2019 12:35

The person is just messing you about. If they are like this now, imagine what they'd be like if your relationship progressed. Have nothing more to do with them.

Original poster
upupupandaways · 02/08/2019 13:06

He sent me a text saying
Drinks tonight?
I wasn't sure if he was asking me to go for drinks or if I was having drinks.
So I replied ...drinks on a weekend are always tempting
He replied ...get yourself a drink.
He's doing my head in

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Kaddm · 02/08/2019 13:13

Sounds like he needs to grow up
I’d not bother messaging him

Doesitevenmatternow · 02/08/2019 13:13

This sounds like a major head melt. I would ignore every single text from now, no exceptions. If he is keen he will phone and ask you to meet up.

AnyFucker · 02/08/2019 13:15

He's a piss taker. Stop letting him wind you up and bin him.

CursedDiamond · 02/08/2019 13:20

Either ignore it, or reply 'I'd rather you bought me one, later this evening at X', and if he doesn't suggest an alternative time/place, bin him. Life is too short for playing games...but then I'm the total opposite and have no patience or filter, so maybe ignore me...

user1471504234 · 02/08/2019 13:23

After your first message I was going to say just tail off the texts, don’t ask him out again. But after the ‘get yourself a drink’ update I would actually say just block him and have done with it. And I’m never usually one to advocate blocking. But his response is so immature and pathetic that I’m annoyed on your behalf!!
He’s enjoying the attention and knowing you are interested. But he’s not bothered about you, if he was he would have made plans for another date. There are plenty of much more respectful men out there. Don’t waste your time on this one. If this is how he is acting after 2 dates, a relationship with him would be awful.

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upupupandaways · 02/08/2019 13:27

When he said "drinks tonight ?"
I got myself a little excited thinking he's asking me out ...

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AnyFucker · 02/08/2019 13:29

He's negging you

Find your self respect and fuck him off

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