Would you ask them to go out for a 3rd time?

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They want to keep it casual,don't like you pressuring them.
Have asked them out two weekends running and they said no.
Since then they've text you all day every day,been really flirty,dropped hints about meeting up but haven't asked you.
Now it's the weekend again and nothing.
Would you ask for the 3rd time?
Or leave it up to them and save your self respect and dignity?
Then if nothing by next weekend just mentally draw a line under it and find someone who actually wants the same as you?

Block. End of.

I would also reply "I'm going on a date so I will be having a few thanks...have a great night"!

I wouldn’t message anything to him at all. He will probably be able to see through any attempt to make him jealous. And I hate to be harsh but he doesn’t care anyway, his behaviour has proved that. I know it’s hard when you like someone but retain your dignity and move on. He’ll be far more bothered by total silence I reckon.

I'm truly sorry but he's laughing at you. Please stop contacting him and move on, you deserve to be treated with respect.

Why did he message "drinks tonight"
Rather than just say "are you having drinks tonight"
Why give me the doubt of is he asking
Imagine if I had said "oh sounds great where do you want to go"
I would have looked like a mug

Yeah !
No point in giving it any further thought now.

So where are you going tonight ?

But NOT with him !

He asked you to see how far he could make you dangle on his string! Then he made you into the butt of his ‘joke’.
Every one has told you to stop, you’re already looking desperate! Don’t reply, just block his number! He deserves no more of your energy.

If he set that up as a joke that is cruel. I would have thought he was asking me out!

I went through this a little bit last summer and nearly gave the guy the brush off. I kept suggesting dates and he kept saying he was busy so I assumed he wasn't that into me and backed right off. Wrote a breezy goodbye message which I sat on for 24hoyrs just to make sure I was happy to send it and all of a sudden he stopped being unavailable. We're still seeing each other now and it's all fab. He says he hadn't expected to fall for me and it was him panicking a bit.

Whatever it was, I didn't chase him and he's not a game player at all and was straightforward when We spoke so no dodgy mind games. Your guy just sounds like a total twat though so I'd bin him off for the stupid comments because he sounds like a complete pain in the arse. Agree re the negging.

I have a couple of friends over tonight for a takeaway and a movie night.
Bottle of wine

You are a mug for not binning this guy immediately

@Pipandmum yeah I was worrying about looking desperate.
That's why I never said "are you offering"
Because I knew the way he acts.

People will treat you how you let them treat you...to borrow a word of wisdom from Jerry Springer. If a man is into you, they will tunnel their way into your home and fill it with flowers...or whatever else they think will impress you. My fella walked 5 miles in the snow to dig my car out and bring my family food when we first knew each other, he would drop everything to help me out if I needed assistance, and would never have needed to been asked twice about going on a date...that is how I knew I had a keeper. I suggest you raise the bar in your expectations of mankind.

Good men don't game-play or mess with your self-esteem like this loser. So, why are you hanging your heart strings on a man who treats women so badly? Why are red-flags not waving at you. Being single has got to be better than being a plaything for this man and his vast ego. Hanging all your hopes on a date with him stops you looking out for Mr Nice guy who doesn't need to play stupid text games.

To try and explain the ‘drinks tonight’ message:
Best case scenario: he was bored and wanted to go out so sent the same message to a few people including you, to see who took up his offer, and got a better offer or decided not to go out
More likely scenario: he is just playing games and messing with your head on purpose

Neither of these scenarios are good for you. Please do not contact him at all. Don’t try to make him jealous. Block and forget!

Awful, awful man. Please block him OP!

Why did he message "drinks tonight"
Rather than ... n

sorry, most likely it's because he is quite skilled at this game and knows what to say to keep you dangling,either just incase or just because.

As before block him, before you start on the wine tonight. Have a lovely evening with your friends and do not give him any headspace. Do not even mention him to your friends He is in your past, not your present or future.

There is no confusion.

He's a player and he's playing you.

OP, NEVER even consider a date that is so last minute. Someone who truly likes you would never take the chance you were already 'booked', so accepting last-minute dates puts you in the 'booty call' category. The only answer to his text would be 'not with you!'

Stop the texting. It's pointless and is directing your energy to a twat. Free up that energy for someone new who wants to date you. Do not be breadcrumbed ever again.
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He's not a nice guy.
He sounds like a real dick.
The "get yourself a drink" text is so rude.
Definitely block.
Work on your self-esteem.
You deserve so much better that this.
Prize dick.

Text him back 'go fuck yourself'. Now I dare you

OP I guarantee you this man is not sitting there over analysing the texts you send him.

Do you know him socially/through work? Will you have to see him again?

Either way, bin him off

Just ignore and block. I agree he's absolutely loving the attention.

He's deliberately been vague with the "drinks tonight" comment so that you can interpret it how you want.
He's hinting because he wants the satisfaction of being asked. If he really wants to, he'll ask & he'll not be vague. You've asked twice, he's declined both times. I wouldn't give him the upper hand by asking again.

Why did he reply drinks tonight?

Because he is a total headfuck..... It shouldn't be this difficult so early on. I would be investing my time and effort elsewhere he sounds like a complete knob!