Would you ask them to go out for a 3rd time?

[upupupandaways]

They want to keep it casual,don't like you pressuring them.
Have asked them out two weekends running and they said no.
Since then they've text you all day every day,been really flirty,dropped hints about meeting up but haven't asked you.
Now it's the weekend again and nothing.
Would you ask for the 3rd time?
Or leave it up to them and save your self respect and dignity?
Then if nothing by next weekend just mentally draw a line under it and find someone who actually wants the same as you?

Could he be married ?

The get yourself a drink was may be an attempt at some sexting ?

He's deffo not married.
My friend said ask him over tonight or tomorrow and see what he says.
I did and obviously he said no he was busy ..he said he does have two weeks off work soon
Bye bye wanker !
I've blocked him on everything

Well done OP.

Well done from me too !

Good choice, well done

p.s. the friend who suggested ask him one more time ... I would not tend to take her advice in future. 😀

Yes, I agree..dodgy advice from your friend. It was really not wise to text him again.

Thank goodness you've finally blocked him (not before he had way too much fun at your expense though)

Please work on your self esteem, don't chase men who are uninterested and don't waste your energy on people who are unkind time wasters.

Agree with @FinallyHere
Hope you have had a good night.

Good, well done, what an absolute tool.

Good for you

Now he’s not in your headspace you can focus on meeting someone who treats you as more than just an ego boost
Hope you have a great weekend

Well done OP he was a waste of your time!

God, what a bellend. You’re well rid.

He’s actually cruel. Imagine how bad he’d be as a boyfriend. You’ve swerved a bullet there!

You know he will ramp up the charm now if he thinks he’s losing his power over you? He still won’t mean it, but he might sound really keen/interested..

Well I thought I blocked him on everything but forgot to block his texts (I blocked WhatsApp and Snapchat ) he messaged at half 5 this morning asking was I awake and had a good night .
What Anyone here be more lenient towards him as he is a single dad to a 15 year old
So is busy etc or is that no excuse ?

*would anyone not "what"

No I would not be lenient because he has a 15rd old, most 15yr olds do their own thing. He’s playing games with you, seriously bin him off, he will continue to head fuck you and you will lose self esteem.

Stop trying to find excuses for him.

You still don't get it do you OP?

Oh for God's sake. What are you doing. Hanging about waiting for this twat. He knew exactly what he was doing with that text, prob found it funny. Seriously block it and move on.

You should do this but I suspect you won't. I suspect you'll keep allowing him to play childish games, wondering if he really likes you but there is some deep emotional reason why he is such a jerk, misunderstood soul.

He's not. He doesn't like you,he is just playing with you. He will mess up your self esteem and waste your time if you let him. The text about drinks was designed to reassure him you are still hanging on.

5 am texts indeed. I'd go NC with my own mother if she sent a 5am text without it being an emergency. If some random dude who was just texting for sex and kicks did it that'd be the last time I wasted any thought on him.

He is using you! Block him.

I do get it,I'm just trying to find reasons (excuses ) why ...so my brain doesn't go into "your not good enough mode"

No, definitely not. Leniency in that case would be not minding him changing the time you're meeting due to parental commitments.

You keep trying and he keeps saying no. You've definitely done enough.
Texting at 5:30? Could he have possibly been out too?
He likes to play it vague doesn't he. He obv knows you're interested. If he was too, instead of mentioning he has 2 weeks off soon he would've replied something along the lines of "sorry I cant make that, but I am free xdate if you'd like to meet".

Imo he likes the attention & is doing this to keep it there.
You've done more than enough. He's not doing anything to secure a date with you.

Oh god what a twat. It's not about you not being good enough - it's about him being a cunt! This guy doesn't want a good woman. He wants a simpering weak little girl who has self esteem issues and who doesn't have any boundaries. FORGET HIM

You deserve better, but you seem to be able to cope...
Love how you don't let him make you look stupid....

I have an acquaintance like you op. She continually makes excuses for this sort of behaviour and wastes months at a time on useless men to the point she's been single forever. It's desperately sad because apart from having no boundaries she's actually lovely

@Everafter1 this is the annoying thing.
He said he couldn't come over for drinks last night,but was 100% sat in the house on his own having a few beers.
So he would rather do that for whatever reason than see me.