Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

My friends have been shitty too @TinselAndKnickers most have them have never dealt with a break up so they’re essentially like “just get over it” 🤷🏻‍♀️

I keep thinking the same thing about my ex, despite all the pain he’s caused!

Why do feelings suck 🤦🏻‍♀️

My friends have been similar, feel like they are rolling eyes at me, or perhaps its just me and I feel angry with everyone :)

I'm not even tired, so it's going to be another long night ahead.

Its not getting any easier.. I think it's reality setting in

Just ended it tonight with my boyfriend of 18 months. Commitment issues and generally just issues. Doesn’t love me and can’t work himself out. He’s been crying and I’m still crying. Wanted it to work with him so much, but it’s not right and I am not in a position to waste time at 30 with all my friends settling down and having babies. 😪 Sorry this message is jibberish and doesn’t make sense but need somewhere to write down what I’m feeling which is just utter heartbreak

We all feel the same. So sorry you've had to end things but what is right will come to you. here for any & all thoughts.

I can't sleep

I've just been dozing on and off all night, I did wake up suddenly just now, heart was pounding and the knot it my tummy seemed to be really tight.

I’m not coping with the thought of being without him. He’s not in a good place and needs to sort himself out but I love him and miss him already and I just feel so broken. Haven’t slept and have sobbed all night and have to get up now to go to work. How do people keep going? How can you cope with no contact. How am I supposed to move on. I can’t deal with telling people about it all but they’re going to ask. So much harder when he is such a likeable loveable guy and your friends and family all are dissapointed. I hate myself for not being right for him and that he was not able to love me like I loved him. Don’t see how these feelings will fade and god only knows itnfeels like I’m not going to meet anyone I love as much as him

@TinselAndKnickers I feel exactly the same about just wanting him back and feeling so sad! Must mean it is very normal and we are on track to being ok I’m sure.

Had a dream I saw him this morning and he was hinting like he still wanted me, so feeling really out of sorts this morning, hopefully will pass. Don’t you hate dreams that linger? Like can’t really remember the dream itself but it’s left me with feelings.

adviceforme my ex broke up with me even tho he was sad about it cos it wasn’t right and I think that takes strength, and I’m sure you will have thought long and hard about before deciding. Do you absolutely have to go to work today? I don’t generally pull sickies but if I’d had to work the day after my break up, I’d have had to call in sick for sure.

Morning all, I've skimmed through the tread and have seen some posts about birthdays. Mine is at the end of the month and I'm pretty sure it's going to suck now. We were supposed to be taking DS to the zoo. Mum and my brother are coming instead but it's still not going to be the same.

I had a full on freak out yesterday. On 24th July I had my implant out cuz we were supposed to be TTC #2. I've been taking the pill since as had a pack left and didn't want them to go to waste.

I hadn't been taking them religiously at tye same time each day cuz I didn't think it would be an issue if I did get pregnant. Yesterday I had a nosebleed. I haven't had a nosebleed since DS was conceived so now I'm freaking out that I might be pregnant 😣 I have a test but I'm hoping that the accompanying spotting is just hormone levels mucking around...

What the fuck do I do if I am pregnant!? I wanted another baby with him. A week ago he wanted another baby with me. Now it's the worst case scenario and that breaks my heart

Oh poor you missyeti, I found my ex’s birthday hard enough, never mind my own! Feel free to come on here and vent if you’re having to put a brave face on it! I admire the women on here who have kids and have to soldier on, I find it hard enough just taking care of myself.

I feel like such a fool. Woke up and had a message from ex (still carrying on conversation from last night) which was a couple of hours after I'd sent the last one. So this morning I replied again saying basically that I know I shouldn't be talking to him (although to be fair, I'm only showing as much respect for their relationship as they did for ours!!!) But I still had feelings for him and missed him a great deal. Even though I've told him before I just needed to get it out. He's not replied :( which I didnt expect to be honest but at least he knows. I'm now all sad again, why did I do that. He doesnt care, he has no feelings for me anymore. What an idiot I am.

And I can't stop thinking about what his birthday plans would be, presumably a weekend away when we should have been at the festival together :(

Good morning

How is everyone feeling today?

I'm over analysing everything (again)!

If he can push his feelings to one side about me, why cant I do the same? Or was the feelings he had for me, lies to?

I want to go and stand at the top of a hill and just scream (does anyone else feel like that?)

I'm driving myself crazy, so I'm making the effort, I am going for a swim this morning and going on a shopping spree, they say retail therapy is good, so I'm giving it a try.

Chin up ladies

Oh jonsnow that must feel horrible. But you’ve got it out now. Back to NC I reckon!

Ugh just feeling really low and sad. I just still can’t understand how this time two months ago I was in a lovely relationship and now I’m alone again.

mumcomehere yes I get the urge to scream! Also got taken aback by a surge of anger and kicked a toilet wall at work yesterday 🙈 luckily my leg is about as strong as wet pasta so no damage.

Herb, that's just it, I dont understand how it's come to this. It's really horrible and I'm definitely back to NC. Just wish he would say something rather than just ignoring it. He only replies if I don't talk about feelings. I'm so sad about it all, just miss him terribly.

I have actually just realised the despairing feeling that I’m going to have to date again at some point if I want to find someone else. I don’t want to find someone else as I want him. Why is this happening? Fucking hell

Oh my goodness advice I could have written that post, I’ve been saying the exact same thing. I don’t want to be alone (was single for years before him) but I don’t want anyone else, I want him. I guess when I can imagine being with someone else I’ll know I’m on the road to recovery.

I keep asking why this is happening. No one has answered me yet.

I’m the same...I can’t imagine ever dating again, I feel like I just couldn’t trust anyone again. People keep saying “oh you’ll find someone else” but I don’t want anyone else. And even if someone did come along somewhere in the future I’d be constantly second guessing myself and waiting for the worst to happen :/

Same here too, plus I don't want anyone else. I went on a few dates before meeting my ex and I don't want to do that again, i hate dating. I thought it was going to be it, I'm such an idiot :( even though i didn't always treat him 100%, took him for granted a little, I still thought we would be able to work through it. It's so hurtful that he just cut me off with no effort because of this new woman. I feel awful, really really bad.

Yes that worries me. I never worried that A would cheat on me or lie or mess me around. I generally felt confident in us but on the rare occasions I worried about us lasting, I always thought it would be because he just fell out of love with me.

And then the stupid fucker did exactly that even tho I am the best (tbf, only) girlfriend he’s ever had. So now when I do feel ready to move on, I worry I’ll end up being so paranoid, I sabotage it or just can’t enjoy it and let go and give myself to them.

I hate dating too...it’s just so stressful 😫 I’d naively thought I’d found the one 😕

It’s ridiculous because I don’t want to be single forever but I don’t want to date and to be honest as much as I love my ex and want him back I know deep down the trust is gone so it would never work out again.

Basically I’m screwed 😓

Yes I know exactly what you mean! I want my ex back so much but realistically I’d always be worried he would break up with me again or I’d end up resenting him for all the pain he caused. So wouldn’t work. I want this to just have not happened. I want my lovely life back that I had before he broke up with me.

Try to stop myself from dwelling but oh I miss him so much. I think sometimes when I talk about it it can seem more like I just miss the relationship but I miss him, I haven’t spoken to him in three weeks and I hate it. My life was alright before don’t get me wrong but it was so much better once he was in it, even when we were just friends.

When you talk to someone every day it’s a huge gap when that’s gone. It’s been 2 months near enough since I spoke to my ex and the days just feel so lonely.