Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

Bit Late to the game but I can join the pity party too! Im 2 months in from getting dumped by texts (lifes a dream aint it!). We had been seeing less of each other but he'd been very busy at work so id put it down to that. Messaged him one Saturday night to say I missed him as I hadn't seen him since the weekend before and got a reply the Sunday morning saying he missed being single and the ever so wonderful "its not you, its me" :(

Hi singleedition.
I'm another one dumped by text. After several years.
It hurts.

Hi! @BrokenHeartedAndBruised

It’s awful isn’t it. I think it’s the lack of respect that gets me and the fact that I’m now questioning whether our entire relationship was a lie! It’s hard to know which parts were genuine (if any) through the hurt and the humiliation

Thankfully I’m off work for the summer (teacher) otherwise I don’t know how I’d cope. I keep bursting into tears every 5 minutes 😓

We'll live singleedition, we'll live. Bad timing with a BH weekend coming up.

We will indeed @BrokenHeartedAndBruised

It just sucks that they get on with all the regular shit without being upset and hurt

Oh geez, I’d forgot about the BH 🙈

I'm feeling very wound up and angry at the moment. I agree it's all the lies and humiliation. I'm also off work for the summer, so my days are consumed with thinking, over thinking, questioning myself, and stalking.

He did message me today, hes being very cold, told me that any feelings he had for me has been pushed to one side, and hes using this time to focus on himself, and I hurt him so much with my rant email .

So hes swanning about focusing, I'm sat flopping about, I need to get my shit together, hes already made me feel worthless, but im not going to let him win. We will all get through this together, it will be baby steps and take time, but we are steadily climbing this mountain and it will be amazing when were all at top.

I 100% relate @mumcomehere I’m a nightmare for overthinking 🙈 I’m same on the stalking too...I keep checking Facebook because I don’t want to be petty and remove him but then I see him hanging with his mates having fun in bars and it makes me feel worse 😕

I haven’t heard from my ex at all since we split. It was my birthday the week after and a part of me hoped he’d at least message saying happy birthday considering how civil I was with the whole break up but nothing

Part of me wonders if they don’t realise how much hurt they cause 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m with you on the not letting them win! I’m grateful I found this thread because it’s nice to find people going through similar things 😊

At least the only way is up now right?!

Hand hold please - very soon to be exDP is moving out as we speak while I'm at work then collecting my DS from my Mum (not his). Empty house when I'm home tonight :( I have great RL support but feeling awful cos it's his decision not mine despite stuff that has happened and I've still stuck with him! He has problems from his childhood and past relationships - I've told him he needs to sort those out before he starts hurting more people that love him. I know we're done and can't go back but it really hurts right now :(

Sending hugs @Fredsmum82

I really struggled with it being my ex’s decision too- it just feels like there’s nothing you can do and it’s rubbish. I end up blaming myself constantly

The first night will probably be the worst but at least you have your little one to keep you occupied 🤗

Can I join? Ended with ex as he cheated and is generally not a very nice person had a huge drama with him yesterday where he told me the extent of the cheating and showed me he is still in contact with all the women he was sleeping with while we were together and trying for a baby.

Totally exhausted emotionally, have a holiday coming up which I’m no longer looking forward to because I know I’m not going to enjoy it anymore

& for everyone

Still here. Still unhappy. Sorry.

Don’t be sorry broken (if you’re apologising for being unhappy) it’s a process.

I’m sad today. Avengers came out on home release today. I saw it at the cinema and wanted to watch it with him but our cinema has horrible seats and he didn’t want to sit for that long, so I was really looking forward to watching it with him when it came out - never would have imagined that we wouldn’t be together.

Reading through all these messages, I can tell we are the descents ones, we show compassion, you are all total strangers to me, but I'm so thankful to you all and you know more about what I'm going through than those in RL

These idiots of men who have done us down, are not worthy of us, we will look back at this time thinking WTF I wasted so many days and nights crying over a wanker :)

Do you think my ex was right, and that he has pushed all feelings for me to one side? Or did he say that to twist the knife in a little more?

Oh what an evening :( he got the festival tickets that I sent, text me saying "thanks for the tickets but I've already organised something else to do on my birthday" which made me feel so shit :( his birthday is the day of the festival (friday and BH weekend) so presumably he's going away or something with her.
I spoke a bit to him, told him I missed him but he's just not bothered, just said to take care and that I'll be ok. But I'm not ok, im still so hurt that he can just be with her, happily planning stuff to do and im just here being miserable and a shadow of who I was. How could he do this to me and have zero feelings or feel bad at all. I miss him so much, just want to see him appear in the doorway again. He's made me feel so awful but I want him more than ever. I dont regret sending the tickets to him but I just wish he'd feel something. At least he knows now that I'm still not ok so hopefully he'll feel a little bit bad. God what a mess.

Oh jonsnow I’m so sorry. I can imagine how you feel. I can’t think what to say but I am sending you positive vibes 💖

Sorry ladies, I know I’ve just joined this thread but I need a rant 😤😤

The week before my ex dumped me via text I’d had a rather rough week. My dad was sick, I got made redundant and I’d been referred urgently to the hospital for suspected breast cancer. My exes response to this was to dump me via text the week after. He said he “really liked me still” and “it wasn’t you it was me” and “he just missed being by himself”

In fairness I suspected it was a lie but whatever. Anyway, just logged onto Facebook and there’s a photo he’s been tagged in with him all over this girl we knew 😓

I’m so annoyed- I was so graceful during the breakup told him I just wanted him to be happy and now this. He’s moved on and I’m barely keeping my head above water with all these family issues and hospital appointments and he just doesn’t care 🤦🏻‍♀️

I had let myself go the last few months - I’d been on steroids and various other meds so I’d put about 2 stone on and was a bit teary to say the least so I suspect this has more to do with it than just wanting to be single but it hurts more you know knowing I’m directly not good enough for someone?

I’m only 28 so I’ve never dealt with a breakup before and I’m just so broken now even more than I was before after seeing tonight’s post 😓

Sorry ladies- I just needed somewhere to vent to avoid messaging him and saying something I’d regret later🙈

singleedition that's really sad after you left it with such good grace and I'm so sorry he didn't have the grace to tell you the truth.

He's a spineless shit & you are better off without him

No this is the place to vent, don’t apologise! He sounds like a knob, I reckon you’re well off out of it. He’s not good enough for you, not the other way around.

I said a few pages back I kept seeing his home town mentioned everywhere despite having only ever seen it mentioned like twice in my life before then - I know it’s confirmation bias, I know I just didn’t notice before, but seriously it’s been everywhere. That, or the town we went to on our one and only holiday. Just now, ads were on tv so was looking at my phone, tv was mute. How the fuck did I look up just in time to see the name of his uni on screen?? It’s in the town we went to on holiday and I’d never even heard of it before I met him but we drove past it every day on our hol, never seen an ad for it before but I look up just in time! Honestly getting ridiculous now, the stars are against me!

Thanks Ladies! It’s nice to have a bit of support from people who know how crap it is!

Oh my gosh herb I’m totally with you- my ex was from this really obscure town in wales and I swear I’ve read about it 5 or 6 times in the last week despite never having heard of it for years 🤦🏻‍♀️

It’s bizarre isn’t it! It’s like when you learn a new word and then suddenly everyone is using it.

It really is! I know it’s just because I’m more aware of it but it’s so annoying.

My neighbour has a welsh friend staying and every time I hear the accent I have this intense surge of anger even though I’m well aware that most people in wales are lovely and aren’t spineless gits...oh the glamour of heartbreak 😂

Haha I don’t know anyone with his accent luckily! Actually don’t really know anyone like him at all, there aren’t many people of his race here. Which isn’t great for multiculturalism but at least I don’t keep thinking I see him round every corner.

Today I am angry and incredulous as well as sad. Like...he DUMPED me. What the fuck. We were so happy and and then he somehow stopped loving me and HE DUMPED ME. What is wrong with him??? I am not being boastful here, I genuinely think he’s going to struggle to find someone else. And I think he’s going to realise he made a mistake. But he won’t say anything. And we will both be sad. Because he DUMPED me. Wtf!!!

I feel sad as fuck. It's been basically a month and I miss him just as much, I feel I'm partly to blame. Wish he wasn't out chasing anything with a heartbeat and would speak things through with me

If he texts on my birthday I'm going to keep it super casual and light and airy but inside I'll be screaming "TAKE ME BACK!!!!!" I wonder if he'll ever regret his choice. I know he wouldn't tell me even if he did so it's pointless wondering!

All my friends irl are being pretty shit tbf and haven't really been there for me.. I want him to come back so much and I honestly think I'd write off the last month and just start from scratch silly old me daydreaming. It's never going to happen.