Anyone up? Need a quick opinion on whether to let my dp sleep in and be late for work.... urgent!

[fedup1981]

My dp usually has to leave about 7am for work, he's lying in bed asleep. He can sleep through any alarm. I've called him and got an increasingly ratty response four times, and the last time was 6.35 and I said "I'm not calling you again, either get up now or lie there and be late, I don't care"

Normally I get up and start making him a coffee, breakfast and his sandwiches for the day, but he's gotten so used to me doing it (so he just has to roll out of bed and put clothes on) that now he sleeps for another 30-40 minutes while I stand downstairs fretting and trying to wake him up.

I haven't made his breakfast or lunch today because I feel like he's treating me like a mug.

Do I go and wake him up and possibly get a mouthful and him stomping around, or leave him to sleep and be late for work and possibly even more angry?

fedup1981 - only just found this thread linked from another (one about a 'friend' who feels sorry for an MNer's kids 'cos they ask to help around the house) & have read all the way through (took a while).

There's nothing to say that hasn't already been said by someone else & I just wanted to let you know that I'm glad you managed to get through to him a little last night & he was a bit better this morning - long may it continue! Good luck with your quest to turn your dp into a grown-up & all the best for when baby arrives. Take care

Oh well done you!! You have handled this all so well! If I knew you I'd be proud of you if that makes sense?

why not suggest he gets up with baby for early morning feed and then stays up too

well doen you've done really well

now get back to bed and rest yourself

vibrating alarm watch
just google it loads come up

Thanks guys, I know it's not groundbreaking stuff but hopefully should preserve my sanity somewhat! Next weeks task: get him pulling his weight more in the house.

Like the suggestion about him doing the morning feed, can't see it happening though because he's usually knackered and disorientated first thing in the morning, it'd be better to get him doing a late night one. I'll just have to see how it goes, I wasn't planning on expressing for the first few weeks anyway (assuming I'll be breastfeeding)

Just had a quick look at the thread you found this one via, greeboswhiskers. Made me laugh that my dp is now a cautionary tale!! He'd be so mortified if he knew...

This thread makes me sad. He should be pampering you at the moment.

If this comes up again before the birth, I would broach the subject at night as you go to bed (when he's not tired and angry). I would just calmly say that you have been advised to have as much rest as possible and that you would like to sleep longer in the mornings to gather your strength for the impending birth (I think you should be doing this now, anyway!). Explain to him that you want to sleep in the same bed as him overnight but need to continue getting rest in the morning so when you hear the alarm, you will go and get cosy in the spare room or on the sofa. Therefore, you cannot wake him up.

My bf used to be terrible to get up in the morning. I would shout up the stairs to him several times and in the end have to go up and make sure he got out of bed.
On the weekend it could take me 3 hours to get him out of bed.
It's incredibly annoying and it made me feel like a fishwife. We now have a 2 year old ds and he can wake him up in a second either with kisses or a smack in the chops.
So I let him do it how.

Fedup - You have done so so so well. Go girl.

Now you really need to get thorough his thick skull that he will need to do pretty much everything for the first couple of weeks after the birth.

I have confidence in you though.

Well done Fedup. Just keep that firm line and I'm sure things will get better. Love the expression Pissweaseling BTW. Explains things perfectly.

Hey Fedup, well done! More power to your elbow.

He's knackered in the mornings because he stays up too late at night playing sodding computer games or whatever it was you said. He's old enough to understand cause and effect and deal with the consequences himself. And that's coming from someone who is not a morning person (actually disorientated and knackered describes me, most mornings).

how's it going fedup1981?

hello, fedup, what's the latest?

OMG Fedup! This sounds exactly like my DP. Especially the comment about being too tired to chat but not too tired to ask for a blowjob.

I'm going to take a get tough approach too.

Hope everything is MUCH better for you now!