Shower sex advice

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I've been seeing a man for a few months now and I've never been sexually adventurous at all, he got in the shower with me last night but it wasn't great. It was difficult to do. Does anyone have any advice on this? Any other tips for the sexually naive are most definitely welcomed

Sure he can upset me, or I can have a bad day at work, or we can both be tired, or I’m sick- I still desire him and want him.

Believe me, this is NOT how healthy relationships work....it sounds a bit, well, warped....

I don’t know if it applies to every man, but my boyfriend falls asleep very quickly after a good fuck. He works hard, he deserves that love.

I can’t take you seriously either. You sound like you grew up in the backwoods and haven’t realised that women in this millennium don’t exist to simply please “their man” cos he works so hard, after all, and deserves to fall asleep fast.

Actually, maybe you might want to have a think about why he falls to sleep straight afterwards. Doesn’t appear to want much conversation from you....

Well the thread took a dark turn.

Pushing for sex when someone's said no is a turn on?
A man deserves sex because he works hard?

Yeah, that's not healthy and any man who ignores me when I say no and keeps pushing does the very opposite of turn me on and would make me quite scared if I'm honest. If he thought working hard entitled him to sex he'd be gone too.

Nobody is entitled to sex. Ever.

@CurlyhairedAssassin I’m not going to hijack someone’s thread to justify my love language.
Let me be clear- the reason why my relationship is healthy and works is because we love sex and we both trust and understand each other. What is so wrong about enjoying sex? I’m young. I want it every single day. I’ve been with my partner for four years, which is not too long, but we’ve always desired each other.
We don’t ever yell at each other, name call, betray each other’s trust, do anything hurtful.
We bring out the best in each other. This is why I want to pleasure him and show him love. I don’t do it out of obligation. I do it because I love to.
Why stay or deal with someone who is moody towards you. Why stay with someone who doesn’t listen to your feelings. Why stay with someone who deliberately does something that makes you unhappy. If a relationship is hard, or stressful, or unpleasant, leave.
We will never agree because we are different. I don’t do things because it is my duty- I do things because I want to.

Love shower sex. From behind works best for me. I'm amazed that this isn't a common view here.

@Booksareforkids19 there are many of us females who love sex. And when we were younger, we might have thought like you. The difference is that now people realize that isn't all about the male orgasm. It isn't all about being a subservient partner or male pleasure.

Once you réalisé this, you sex life will increase so much. Promise.

(But you will have to reach a certain level of maturity before you get there, and it is clearly apparent that you haven't. You will one day though).

Love language really?? 🤢

I think sex in places like that are best if they're spontaneous because you're both really into each other and you don't care where you are. I think planning it beforehand doesn't work as it's just awkward. Maybe there are some big fancy showers where it's better but the average shower isn't the best place.

shower sex is rubbish, as is bath, jacuzzi, pool, sea sex. don't believe everything you read/see/hear. water ruins the sensation as well as it being awkward and uncomfortable as f.

If that's your experience MerryDeath I'm sorry for you. You are missing a great deal of mutual pleasure.

i've got bigger problems @GladAllOver but so thankful for your sympathies