Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Good luck ohhhhh,fingers crossed. It's also a tricky time of years with child care and hols so everyone has to give a bit

Ginmel ah. I see. Sorry, I mis-understood... Not much left for it but to ring them, whilst trying to hold on to your temper... Good luck with that...

Good luck, ladies and gentlemen. I will pop back when I am back. Got a lot of travel coming up so no point OLD until October!

Will be checking out hotel bars though

Thanks all. It’s a broken collarbone. She’s 11. I’ve stayed very calm, I know it’s not his fault. Sorry to crash the site

ccgirr poor child but phew, a broken collarbone is not as bad usually as a broken shoulder. A big shock though and not what any of you want in the summer hols.

In my DD's case it was her father's fault

Hope she mends soon @ccgirr. Glad it's "only" the collar bone. Hard during the holidays though

Mr C is back - blaming Mercury and its stupid retrograde. Mr H is paused.

Oh my goodness @CassettesAreCool how do you get over that!! She’s rang me twice so I know she’s not great. Anyway just got to deal with it now. She’s supposed to be with dad for 3 weeks but not sure how that’s going to pan out! Thanks for the support all.
Hope this mercury stuff all sorted tomorrow and we can all communicate again.

ccgirr she was very young (18 months). He dropped her when he was drunk - not a deliberate injury by any means, the thing that made me so angry was that he was so mortified he went into denial and wouldn't let me take her to A&E for 12 hours. Anyhoo, after the initial shock she didn't seem to be in pain at all, maybe a bit of discomfort. I hope your DD starts to feel a bit better once the pain meds kick in properly

Wow @cassettesarecool- turns out my dd did it last night and same thing 12 hours denial before he realized she wasn’t putting it on. Know we can’t just scoop Them up and bring them back home but I’d quite like to! Fact she is 4 hours drive away is not so easy

@ccgirr hope she's ok and not in too much pain. So hard on you not being able to be with her.

Mr 4 dates has reappeared after 3 days of silence. He likes me, we get on, lots in common, blah blah. But we could only ever be friends.
Oh and could we meet to discuss it?
I haven't managed to compose a sensible reply yet.

@echoelephant maybe I have very low standards of men that actually sounds quite reasonable and honest. As much as you might want to rant at him I would send him a polite 'thanks and good luck for the future message' otherwise the next time he decides to finish with someone after 4 dates he'll just block them.

@StealthNinjaMum normally I would be polite. But I invited him to my house last week after asking whether or not he was still actively looking on the apps. He said he wasn't.
Day after, his messages were a lot less than usual and I noticed his tinder location kept changing. So I asked him about it. That was on Sunday. Today he has replied with the "just want to be friends message"

That does sound a bit shit elephant

@EchoElephant whilst it’s still not nice at least he decided before you Onwards!

Sorry that should have said before you dtd!!

Well, Mr Bucket is still around even after my best efforts to sabotage things yesterday. I’m amazed. He’s supposed to be calling me tonight so I’ll see how that goes...

Just wanted to say welcome dragon and sure run the chats past us
Things with bf good but struggling to see each other for any decent length of time - literally managed to squeeze in 5 mins with him earlier - due to having my dc and also have even more big shit to try and sort out my end...too much to eat in to on here but no quick fixes or easy solution.

Hmm well Mr Bucket managed a short call but all very perfunctory. I’m thinking I really did fuck things up yesterday.

It's date with Mr PoliteandDirect (P&D) this morning. I've developed a cold but feel i need to turn up to a) get that first meet DONE (I'm another who likes a quick meet to avoid fantasybuilding) and b) prove i'm not a messer. It's a walk in the park, i wont kiss him and will take plenty of medication oh what a great start.

Pah I am supposed to be meeting Mr Scottish this evening but he annoyed me yesterday. AIBU? I messaged him at 11pm to say off to bed and night. He then kept send me more messages asking if I was excited to meet him etc etc. I kept responding but then told him after an hour that I was seriously off to sleep so could he stop messaging me questions. I put kisses/ smiley emojis etc
His response was “how rude”

The thing is I was shattered. I have 2 tiny children so start the day early and it pissed me off. My STBXH used to stop me sleeping as a punishment and In fact still often messaged me abuse in the middle of the night if he is drunk. So it may just be a trigger for me or something

I don’t know whether I was BU or not? Should I apologise to Me Scottish? Not heard from him today

Oh Marlboro you sure it wasn’t a cheeky, how rude? Like almost with a winking face? It’s still early

Oh maybe but there was no wink. We will see. ccgirr do you think I was rude?

I don’t think you were rude. I’d just expect everything to be normal today. You messaged for an hour longer than you wanted to. If he’s had kids he’ll get the tiredness. I’d take it as a cheeky thing and sure tonight will be good. If he’s asking if you’re excited, he must be. Try and relax.

Fees like a big day. I’m totally overinvested in hoping Ant gets a big apology!