Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Sorry, completely off topic for the thread 😢 wish I had someone to hug me 😢

Lily - sending lots of hugs - what an arse - do you think your son will be ok with him? If you have any doubts- call the police x

A million hugs lily this is shit. Is there anyone with you IRL?

What an idiot, I would have punched him.

How old is your son, old enough to have a mobile phone?

Oh lily what a shit head!!! Have a big hug from me.

Afternoon folks, just an update on staying over with the guy I was worried about my body and whether I needed pj's (think I'll call him MrTall). As always the wise ones on here were right - I took a small bag with pj's just in case but they didn't venture out of my bag lol. And we DTD last night/this morning (sorry if TMI ) and it all seems to be going well . He lives about an hour and a half from me but he asked if we could spend the night together again soon, and suggested staying over at mine as kids are with ex for 3 weeks. So hopefully can arrange that soon.

@lilyrose19 good for you for standing your ground, my ex was abusive too so I know how much fucking cheek they have thinking they can do what the hell they like.

Talking of exes, I was annoyed the other day as DS let it slip that they had met STBXH gf a year ago but he didn't have the courtesy to tell me he was introducing her! Wanker as usual. Don't know if they are still together, none of my business but when I saw him at the drop-off point for the kids the other day, he looks a mess (he was always well dressed short hair, a wee bit of stubble - the other day his hair is out of control and long and he looked scraggly) and I like to think that she dumped him because he showed his true colours and now he's sad and lonely. Karma is a bitch!

@JeSuisPrest I don't bother deleting numbers. I have a big clear out now and then but I still have numbers predating mr u.

We are in the middle of a huge row. I think it might be over. He's being an utter twat. He's doing something really not on and that is a threat to our relationship. I'm not happy about it. And he's ignored my messsge. He also hung up on me mid sentence which my ex used to do. I'm trying to discuss it but he's blocking me. So much so that I'm wondering if it's just an excuse.

Thanks everyone, he rung me and continued to abuse me down the phone, repeating what he's said in previous arguments at least 5 times 😴. It's all my fault apparently and I get him annoyed and he's really bitter, yarder yarder- I just held the phone away and let him rant. He calmed a bit and he's going to take our son bowling and we will attempt to talk when he's calmed down.

In other news 😳😳 mr H has just messaged, all bright and breezy that he's been super busy and even when he's finally stopped he's in a kids place. 😡 OH SO YOUVE NOT HAD 30 SECONDS ON ANY OF THE DAYS TO SAY HI, NO??!!! Grrrrr think I'll simmer a bit before replying (which means the softer in me will send a lovely message back 🙄).

I ended things with Mr G today. Shame because so much about him was excellent but he has an attribute that I don't like so it's over.

I'm sad about it because we had great fun together. Nevermind. It was only ever going to be a fling anyhow.

Great update Daffo.

Lilly sending hugs. Have you thought about going to the police? He has no right to threaten you like that.

JeSuis well done.

Ginmel are you okay?

Peanutz I hope it isn't ending - and that he talks to you properly. Being hung up on would enrage me!!

@bats yes I'm okay thanks. x Made the right decision on something that's a deal creamer for me. Sad but kind of proud I did end things for the right reason.

FFS deal breaker not a creamer

Ah yeah. I hate a deal creamer. 🤣

Well it has to end sometime. He's being an utter twat. I have no idea what will happen. It's like he's decided he wants an argument which makes me think he might be looking for an excuse to end it. I just hate the waiting. He's deliberately refusing to read my very communicative what's app. Fucker.

Oh god I'm going to need help not messaging. Bear with me while I offload and rant on the thread. And apologies for doing so. Home alone with kids and I'm just watching WhatsApp to see when he reads my message.

Do you want to swap phones with me Peanut 😂
To be fair ranting on here yesterday helped me not to send her anything so rant away.

What happened in the end @Ant330 ?

Funny how things on here all go in waves. We were totally loved up two days ago.

Lillyrose he sounds like a right prick! Fingers crossed he's calmer when you speak to him later.
Ginmel sorry to hear that if it's a deal breaker then you've done the right thing
Peanut I'd be fuming if somebody put the phone down on me, childish!
Scotgal and Daffo great updates!

Lily- hugs- I’ve got ex that flips out too. Sure he’ll calm down. Keep strong and calm.
Ginmel- what’s deal breaker?
Ant- any apology?!
Peanut- hope you’re okay. I’d be livid at hanging up.

Peanut apparently she's now got a cold and a coldsore. Although I didn't really want to meet today either, stinking hangover! Neither of us raised the topic of seeing each other which I thought was quite telling.
I don't believe her when she says she still feels the same, I suspect she's just trying to back away without having the difficult conversation. Which if that's the case she's not the person I thought she was.
I don't feel that upset anymore, just frustrated and disappointed in her and that it's probably over.

Aargh it seems like it is the day for break ups. I have not been posting for a while as I have been dating Mr Yoga for just over a month and thought it was going to lead somewhere special. He has just popped round to see me 'as he was in the area' and dumped me. Apparently he wasn't feeling it. There were a few potential red flags as he had major mentionitis about his ex, but I had decided to ride it out and see if he stopped mentioning her. I actually feel a lot lighter now he has ended it so clearly something was troubling me sub consciously. We both have tickets for an event next Saturday but it is a busy event so I probably won't bump into him. Annoyingly the friends I was originally going with have just pulled out, so I will go on my lonesome.

Ant I do think she has behaved rather badly towards you. You have been very patient with her so far.

peanut I hope this is a storm in a teacup - you seem to have a pretty passionate relationship! - but hanging up and ignoring messages is immature of him so I am seething with you.

ant this woman is not worthy of you and I am getting the feeling that, even if she does feel the same way about you, you probs don’t feel the same way about her. It’s hard to respect a sulker and a coward who takes no responsibility for the effect of their actions on people they are close to.

Nail on the head Cassettes I'm just retaining a faint glimmer of hope that she can (or will at least try to) explain her behaviour, but the fainter it gets the more tempted I am to just message her and call it a day.

Oh goodness lilyrose88, you too? Sorry it’s over but it sounds like at some level you shared his lack of feels 💐

Oh gosh I’m so sorry to read some of these updates; hugs to all who need them. What a day it’s turning out to be.