Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Sorry completely derailed thread with my pity party x

@marlboro what an absolute See You Next Tuesday.

marlboro it’s not right, what has happened to you, I’m so very sorry 💐

Just dipping in to send hugs to ant and Step away from the phone!
And 💐 to marls the bloody cheek!stay strong and continue to maintain your dignity as you always do. What is it with these men rushing in with new partners???both my exh and exp did the same.

I can't say everything I would like to as would out myself but 🍷 to all those having to deal with ignorant and/or shitty exes.I would like to believe in karma but am yet to see it hit either of my exes...

Oh and enjoy your holiday sunshine!

Thanks guys 😘

Truth always prevails @Marlboroandmalbec34 it may take your 'friends' seeing your xdh being an abusive arse to new gf but I bet he hasn't changed. They'll all come crawling back to you x

Oh Marl the truth will out. His new girlfriend will find out what he's like. So will the children. You are well rid of his abusive arse.

I don't want to go into what my ex did, but even since the divorce I've had to live with the major effect on my living situation ... yet I've just woken up with Mr BC in my bed, totally in love and shagged out (in a good way). My ex is an alcoholic, waking up alone and his adult kids have realised what he's like. I'd rather have my life.

Ant how are things this morning?

Marlboro Bats is right; from my experience this sick, twisted individuals never learn, never grow in the same way an an emotionally healthy person and stay sick and twisted forever. He will always be that person; the people around him will learn. It may take time but it will come.

This? *these!

Marlboro to you. Sorry can't come up with anything more intelligent than that at the moment as I am absolutely hanging!
I only received one more message yesterday saying goodnight. I haven't replied yet, but will text good morning in a bit.
Assuming she still wants to meet today (I won't be asking again) think I'll be suggesting that we don't meet until tonight as I need to sort my hangover out first 😱

I wouldn't be saying good morning @Ant330 you need to pull back a little. I'd wait for her to message first today.

Oh ok, I thought because she messaged last I should message her. Somebody said the other day that not messaging might look passive aggressive and exacerbate the problem, or is that not an issue as she said she wanted space yesterday?

Shitwith a McD's breakfast sounds lovely but I don't think I should be driving just yet 😂

Oh just catching up with the posts. @Marl I'm so angry on your behalf!!!

What a horror he is. My exh also took the house and got all the contact he wanted, and many many times I wanted to howl in frustration.

I know you said you're doing the freedom programme? That will really help you.

If he is having this birthday- is there anything you can claw back now to make it fair for you?

(Also for your 2yo's point of view, it is still just a day, so you could still try to do a nice birthday treat when it's your day?)

💐 💐

Urgh I got my first gruesome message last night from someone who seemed a really safe bet, his profile was all looking for a relationship, he had a really nice face, and within a few messages of us planning to meet up it deteriorated into aggressive explicit horror. I quickly unmatched him, but felt like I'd been punched in the stomach.

This game is hard. Envious of all you guys making it work!! But great to see so many positive stories!

Well I have decided to delete all my profiles for a while and take a break. Old is so disheartening. X

If she messaged last ant I think you should message ‘good morning’ then see if she suggests meeting. If she doesn’t, I’m sorry but you have your answer. Hangover cure: Virgin Mary

lolly a break is a great idea - if it’s not fun, stop! 😊

@Ant330 I would message a bright and breezy good morning as she did message last night then wait to see does she suggest meeting later

Ant - a one day tiff and it's fine to reply the next morning. 5 days and you deserve a bit more than a good night

Ant - I would text a very brief good morning in a while - otherwise it gets a bit tit for tat - shows you're a grown up - hope today goes well.