Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Yay FMFL he sounds as keen as you are 👏

Yay FMFL brilliant!

I’m exhausted though, didn’t sleep! Need to find my concealer. @Neverexpected2 that’s hard, I’m so sorry, but pleased that you’ve decided to keep trying and Mr Fireman ...well... if he does what he says on the tin ...swoon!

FMFL amazing update, sounds like a great date and a fab day ahead. What are you going to do on your second date?

batshit hmmm this is so tricky. He is being ultra-sensitive to the feelings of his step-children, which is lovely but not ideal for his relationship with you. At what stage does he prioritise you? Maybe the longer this playing in the shadows goes on, the harder it will be. As for the screensaver, again it’s lovely that you are being so sensitive about it but he must know it is disrespectful to you. And you should be able to talk to him about it.

Perhaps suggest a dinner out where you get to meet the stepchildren?

And why are all these adults still living with their widowed stepfather???

We’re going out to the local city for the day! Proper touristy stuff I think. Thing is I went all out last night with dress, heels etc; today I’ll be a sweaty mess so I’m going to have to wear my shorts and a top...the overall effect will be one that Trading Standards may be interested in

@FMFL we talking nice shorts?!

I'm Chatting to a few guys, two have asked me out but I'm not sure on them. One guy looks hot as but he's looking for a submissive 😳. All I can think of is 50shades and the red room ⛓. Not sure how I'd handle a relationship where the guy tells me what to do 🤷‍♀️, I'm too stubborn and would probably tell him to F off 😂.

FMFL super duper 🙌

simon your updates always amuse me. Cooking oil 😂

batshit does sound hard but Mr BC does sound like a keeper. No advice but hopefully it will resolve over time 😘

ant sounds like you have handled yourself perfectly and I think she knows she is wrong to be in a grump. This thread is the perfect place to write it all down and everyone here is happy to read and advise 😁

Nowt new to report here. It’s raining and miserable. Might be a sofa day with the kids watching despicable me again and again

lilyrose19 unless you want a BDSM relationship I wouldn’t go near! If he is saying already he wants a sub I would imagine it’s a lifestyle for him rather than just a bit of play

So after yesterday’s disappointment of a last minute cancelled date I have another one with a new iron today. Only matched last night but we both live in the same town so no point wasting time 💃🏻

@FMFL It’s raining where I am. I’m sure you’ll rock the shorts.

@Lilyrose19 I agree. Stay clear (unless you’re into that).

Like Daisy duke shorts, so denim cut offs, and a pretty top?

Sorry to derail the thread but I have a question for the men.

How aware are you of women's facial hair?

When we get to a certain age we start to wake up and find nasty, wiry hairs appear on our chin. Sometimes what was a hair-free chin in the morning has sprouted an inch long fucker before lunchtime and you sit in meetings playing with it or perhaps that's just me

It's causing some anxiety as my children and ex seem to have hidden all the tweezers in the house so in desperation I have resorted to using whatever is at hand to remove the bastards - razors, kitchen scissors, nail clippers, secateurs you name it....

It isn't a significant problem there are never more than about three on my chin and they're not that noticeable but..... Mr R likes like to touch my cheeks and chin before he kisses me and I wonder if he found a hair would he be surprised or repulsed? So guys be honest with me.....

Stealth never even thought about it tbh so think that's my answer. I'm probably more concerned about the random ones on my ears or did I trim my nose hair 😂
Happens to us all as we get older doesn't it 😉

@Lillyrose19 he's looking for a D/S relationship. You can message him if you're interested in that, but it's likely a different kettle of fish to a bit of bedroom play with handcuffs.

Had a very pleasing sleepover with 5in1 I'm in work today though and absolutely shattered and convinced everybody can tell I was shagging all night. I feel like I look like the vicar of dibley after her night of passion

RE hair what IS it about those sneaky inch long chin fuckers?! Mind you I did go to sleepily kiss 5in1's beard last night and accidentally got nose, so maybe he needs to trim his nose hairs 😂

@Lillyrose19 This is where my naivety would totally let me down! I had an ok but vanilla sex life with my exh so my sex education has been a little slow 😂

FMFL - wear the shorts! I had two really good summer dates where I wore denim shorts, a pretty top and wedges ....

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. My gut feeling is both Mr BC and I are in it for the long haul. We've got over the shock of meeting someone we feel like that about via Fab Swingers (both looking for a FWB)! So these things should iron out. We're 4 months in and he's been amazing during all the shit that's happened to me. One of his step kids is not ready to even think about meeting me. Step-son is laid back and happy Mr BC isn't alone. Mr BC is gently encouraging them to move out. But it's a beautiful house, massive, so I can see why they aren't keen lol That said, I left home as soon as I could, so I do slightly wonder at the unwillingness to be properly adult. But not my call!

Lilly he sounds like he's at the serious end of the BDSM continuum, and I wouldn't want to go there ... but your call, we don't know your kinks or lack of them! Mr BC and I match completely in this area, it's important!

Just chatted to MissH, she tells me we're fine (I'm still not convinced). She says she's been feeling a bit shit last couple of days, combined with time of the month, and having the hump with me. So not a great combo I know.
I've told her I would really like to see her today just so I know we're ok, she says we are (??), so I just said see how you feel a bit later but I'll be here.
We'll see...

Thank you!! I'm not into kinky things, @Sunshineandflipflops I'm exactly the same. Very vanilla before to would like to spice things up but not quite at the flogging /whipping end of things 🙈🤣.
A shame though cause he is gorgeous 😍.
@FMFL shorts sound fab. Have a lovely day.

@BatshitCrazyWoman see how do you learn about these things?!!

@Ant330 so she doesn't want to see you?
I think you sound like you've been very understanding at her overreaction to be honest and it seems like he ball is very much in her court still.

As Ant says, people in glass houses are unlikely to throw stones @SteathNinjaMum. My eyebrows and other bits are turning into a full time job ! I would hope I would be forgiven for that nasal hair that came from nowhere and likewise wouldn’t bat an eyelid on the odd chin hair here and there.

@FMFL That date sounds great, like my first date with MsM&M complete with knee buckling snogging at the end. Good luck with the second which is strangely more nerve wracking once you know there’s something there. Just remember if he feels tg3 same way he’ll be afflicted by all the same worries - he will have brought his most polished self along for the first date too.

*tg3 = the, obviously

Sunshine She said she just wants to go back to bed and do nothing. I've said I'm happy to come and do nothing with her even if it's just for a bit.
I'm not convinced it's fine as she says, this is the woman who wanted to see me every day last week so it's a real change of behaviour.
Tbh I'm willing to be patient and understanding but I know it's only going to last so long. If I think I'm being messed around and strung along then I'll just end it myself. I've felt crap for 4 days now, it shouldn't be like this.

No @Ant330 it shouldn't, you're right. It just seems as though she's punishing you for being quiet by being quiet?!