Dating thread 164. Fortune favours the brave

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Black. Wow.

Thanks @supercali77 I've just amended my profile with 'open minded' with the mental safety net that I'll quickly change it if it attracts too many weirdos

@JeSuisPrest a very definite black from me

jesuis another vote for black from me - both look lovely but black has the edge for me.

Have spent ages catching up with thread - can't remember everything to pass comment on but yay to poster with Mr Eagle and to marls and Mr BC. Welcome to all newbies to the thread 👋.

I too have been inspecting my hands closely and have concluded that If I was a man I would have a micropenis 😂.

Have had a busy and spendypast few days.

Still firmly on the smitten bench. Bf has now met my parents and they seemingly approve (a big thing, especially where my dad is concerned having seen me being treated badly in the past by my exes). Have plans for December and have been discussing how Christmas might work, as well as general future plans. Stressed to him that not just anyone meets my parents or dc and that 'us' 'is it' for me-luckily he confirmed that this feeling is mutual.

Strikethrough fail!

Red by a whisker.......but that's because I'm a boob man & it shows just enough cleavage to make me pay attention to you all evening. You have a great figure @JeSuis & he is a lucky man.

Swit swoo @JeSuisPrest!

I like both too but I do love a LBD. Mr C is a lucky guy 😍

Lovely dresses @jesuisprest where are they from?

I prefer the red one but then I am biased as I wear a lot of red.

Both look absolutely lovely JeSuis but I think the black one, and if he likes you in black as well then I'm sure it will be a hit. He's a lucky man!
Lovely updates SidgeBatshit and Coco pleased to hear it's going well for all of you.
Last night MissH invited me round to hers for a glass of wine in the garden and a sleepover, it was lovely, the kind of thing you do when you live together 🥰 Oh and I met 2 out of her 3 kids who popped downstairs to say hello (be nosy 😂) They already know about me so it was only a matter of time, and means I can stay over without sneaking out at the crack of dawn.
Having a bbq at mine tonight and off camping again this weekend, will be keeping tent doors closed this time 🙈

JeSuis I love the black one, but the red is gorgeous too. Where are they from - I'm a similar shape to you ...

Black from me. Red is lovely but more casual imo x

Wow @Ant330 you've met her kids already?!

I am so worried about messing my kids heads up even further that I can't imagine introducing them to another man ever . My son did ask me the other day if I'll ever get married again and I had to say "no". I just can't imagine doing it again now it's lost that magic and innocence for me.

I am seeing MrSAS tonight for cinema and then back to mine for drinks. It's been a week since I saw him due to having the kids at the weekend so I can't wait to see him.

jesuis switz swoo. You are gorgeous! red for me but both look stunning.

@shitwithsugaron too right! Mt exh is having our kids more in the holidays too but that's so I can work and only in the day time, sadly. I am taking them away for almost 3 weeks of it so he can bloody well have them a bit more when we're not away!

I would love Mr R to meet my kids as a 'friend' but it's only been 10 weeks, what if they suspect something? It's such beautiful weather it would be nice to just have a glass of wine in the garden with someone.

@StealthNinjaMum How old are your kids? Mine would definitely know if a man they had never seen before came round for a drink with me that he was more than a friend! This is why I have to be so certain about someone and about the longevity of the relationship before I contemplate them meeting someone.

@sunshineandflipflops 8 and 10. I often have female friends over so assumed it might be seen as the same thing. I am not looking for someone to ever be a father figure so I thought it could be a usual evening where the children ignore me and hide in their bedrooms while I have a friend over. Possibly a bad idea but also he has slept in the granny annex before and I worry that one day they'll see him in the garden leaving it.

Another problem of having an ex who doesn't parent!

@shitwithsugaron did you and Mr B end up having that second conversation? Has anything changed yet?

Sunshine I am of exactly the same opinion as you, but suspect it is different for somebody who has been divorced for 5 years from the kids dad and those children have previously met a couple of other guys she's dated. So she seems more relaxed about it than me.
I am very conscious that the 1st woman my son meets who's dating his dad and isn't his mum is something that needs to be sensitively handled and won't be happening anytime soon. MissH knows this though and understands it.
Her kids know she is dating me and that it's going well, and I know the mum of one of her daughters school friends so had been given the seal of approval so she wanted to meet me apparently.
Last night wasn't a planned meet and was just a minute or so. My post may have sounded like it but I'm not planning to be there for breakfast every morning 😂

Stealth I think MissH assumed her kids would be like yours and up in their rooms when I turned up and wouldn't see me, but I think they heard us talking and daughter knew I was coming, so they were curious and came to say hello 😂

@ant330 hmm that's good to know, I guess they probably would be interested. I suppose this is partly driven by fear that they might see him anyway and it would be worse to see a strange man in the garden. Its so hard because although it's not been very long it feels very settled and long term.

Sorry @Ant330, I didn't mean that to sound Judgy. Everyone is different when it comes to this kind of thing and yes, I only separated my my kids dad 18 months ago and it was very unexpected so I feel like any time soon would be too soon. They met the ow after 6 months and I thought that was way too soon too but nothing I could do about that so i feel I am their stability at the moment.

I just know so may people who introduce their kids to someone then they split up and the cycle repeats. I know no-one can ever know how long a relationship will last though so it's hard.