No invite for me ...should I be upset?

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I was introduced to a woman through a friend (I'm female ) we kissed.
Then she started inviting me to do things with them (the 4 of us including our mutual friend )
We started to sleep together.
Then we've been out on a few dates just me and her.
We text daily a lot.
Today she is going out with her friend (who is part of the group when we go out ) and she hasn't invited me.
I feel a bit sad but it's her friend she's going with and I'm kind of not her friend am I ?
It's a odd situation isn't it.
I don't know.

Whatever it is you have going on, can she seriously not go out with a friend??

You don't even know what this "relationship" is with her, but still that doesn't mean she can't do things with other people and without you

You need to not overthink this. She has another life besides you and that's really healthy.

At first I didn't even think about it.
Then my two friends were over last night and they started saying it was awful her not inviting me etc
So they've put doubts in my head.

Is the fourth person her friend's partner?

No it's all girls
Well actually there's 5 girls but the other girl doesn't do things all the time.

Do you feel as though you are in a relationship OP, or is it too soon to tell?

Your friends are being daft. Why should you go out with these people? They are friends. Don't let them put doubts in your head. You will only wind yourself and there's no need.

If you was always being left out in favour of her friendships, fair enough. This doesn't sound like that situation.

No it's not a relationship at the minute.
I don't even know what it is
We aren't friends but we aren't a couple
Limbo?
I just don't know why she hasn't invited me when I've been out with her and her friend a lot lately.
Her friend didn't want to come out last week as she felt like a third wheel.
Maybe she doesn't want to invite me because it's friend time.
I'm over thinking

I think it sounds ok, she's making it up to her friend for last week. She's probably in a bit of an awkward position, so say nothing would be my advice.

Give it time.

@upple yeah I'm deffo not going to say anything
I've just said I hope they have a fun day
Going to go out with my friend

There you go, you answered it yourself. You've all been out in each others company lots which is nice but sometimes you need to be out with JUST your friend. I love going out with my DF and friends but I can let my hair down in a different (not better!) way when he's not there. No offence to him at all, he is the same.

Maybe make some time for your other friends this evening?

Oh, slow typer. Sorry!

The friends you had over last night are shit stirrers. Be very wary of them.

Why is it awful for someone to want to go out with a friend and not drag someone they are dating along?

I have friend's who also go out with other friends i do the same, we don't alway's go out together, it shouldn't be a problem when she's out do your own thing.

Does nobody think she should have invited me?
Considering she's been inviting me out with them previously?
I'm not really sure why I wasn't good enough to be invited this time ?

@ontr Does nobody think she should have invited me?
Considering she's been inviting me out with them previously?
I'm not really sure why I wasn't good enough to be invited this time ? confused;

Everyone on this thread has already said they don’t think you should have been invited and she’s entitled to time alone with friends, you are sounding desperate and clingy now which is not a good look. If she picks up on this you might find your invites stop completely!!

She or the friend or both want a night where it's just them as friends.
That's completely normal.

It's not a snub to you in fact it would show me that the person you're interested in takes her responsibility within her relationships seriously, it would be a good sign for me that she is able to put her established friendships/relationships before her excitement at seeing her "new person" and give them the respect they deserve. It bodes well for her behaviour in your future together.

@KOKOtiltomorrow I didn't even think about this till my friends said it was awful.
I've known about it since we first started "dating" and didn't even enter my head.
Now they've mentioned it...it's all I can think about

@HappyNOTdriving there's 6 of them going today
It's not just one on one

Does nobody think she should have invited me?
Considering she's been inviting me out with them previously?
I'm not really sure why I wasn't good enough to be invited this time ?

She wants to go out with her friend. She’s allowed to. It’s nothing to do with you not being good enough!

You really need to change your mindset. Fast.

there's 6 of them going today
It's not just one on one

Your OP suggested otherwise but that's besides the point. There is nothing wrong with you not receiving an invite. Your friends need to stop filling your head with this rubbish.

I didn't suggest they would be alone. I said them as in whoever is going are going out just them as friends. They are going out as an established friendship group. She wants to go out and see her friend/s without her love interest there.

Sometimes I want to go out to see friends without my Dp there even if my Dp has met these friends 1000 times before.

You are starting to annoy me now. You obviously only want to go and are alluding to the fact you are being treated badly for not being invited and nothing anyone say's to you on here is going to alter that. So think what you want.

I just assumed that they were my friends too
A couple of people going who she hasn't met before either.
Oh well

So they are all just friends who are out tonight? Maybe they dont want a girlfriend tagging along

Yeah all friends
I'm not her girlfriend tho.