Dating thread 163: The best response to someone leaving the door ajar is to shut it for them

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Bumble for me and Mr Eagle. His bio didn’t say a lot (I found out later he is dyslexic so was too nervous to write too much!) but he looked so kind in his pics with a lovely smile. He said he liked cats, coffee and cake so I thought “that’ll do”. Anyone who likes cats is a good bloke imo!

@Sunshineandflipflops POF for me. It's early days but he asked me to be exclusive & I said yes. Feeling very happy. Wooo!

I tried Match too but it just didn't work for me.

So far all my messages on POF seem to be from illiterate, short men. I have specifies the age range of men I want to receive messages from but you can't choose height!

Ah. Height. MrSG is only 5’6. I don’t care about height at all (I’m the same height as him) but I know lots of women do.

I don't necessarily want someone ridiculously tall but I'm 5ft 6 too and would like to be able to look up at them when we cuddle so my cut off is 5ft10/11 really. Mr SAS is 6ft and that's perfect 😍

I dont like men over six foot and have dated loads shorter as I'm tall. One was 5'7 and amazing in bed,christ I will always remember that night , not that I ever saw him again. He said he was popping home for a bit but he never came back?!
Mr dadbod and I are same height,just over 5'10.

I’m not sure I realized this til MrSG but I think being the same height is actually great. It’s super convenient. Yes, you can’t rest your head on his chest. But actually I think MrSG is the perfect height for me.

I don’t think I have any preference over height, I don’t think I have even really thought about it. BF is about 5ft 9, MrNN is a little bit smaller than me, so 5ft 10/11, ex was 5ft 7.

I guess if it's the right person then height doesn't matter but as I get to choose these things...😂

You are lovely and tall @Crustaceans

Sorry, I meant @kerkyra! You are the same height as me @Crustaceans, which I quite like.

@SimonJT so are you and Mr NN a couple now? Are you also buggering off to that smitten bench..?

I likes ‘em tall! Mr Casual is over a foot taller than me; looking forward to meeting him!

The taller the better for me but I’m 5.9.
Mr Big is 6ft which is about my minimum. I know it makes me shallow but 🤷‍♀️

He’s on his way over. Please keep your fingers and toes crossed that the mini malbs stay in asleep 🤞🤞🤞

I assumed you weren’t talking about me. Especially since we’re both 5’6. 😂

Love being chest height to MrTall...I love listening to his heartbeat urgh so soppy!

Yep, I like tall, but I'll confess me at 5ft 6 and MrC at 6ft 4 has caused some issues, but we've worked around them and been inventive 😉. I think about a 6 inch height difference is ideal for snuggling into chest purposes. He was folding up my clothes the other day and asked if I'd brought a child's hoodie with me because it looked so small to him - no, its a size 10 not age 10, you wally! His hoodies are XXL and go down to my knees 🙈😂

It's not great being tall as I also have the feet to match. Try explaining to an iron why his size 8.5/9 trainers would also fit you !

But kerkaya must be great at the end of a night out when you can steal there flats and make them walk home bare foot 😂

I'm on the happy and shagged bench not the smitten bench @Sunshineandflipflops
Quite happy here though

That's true marl. Not that I wear heels but maybe I should start! ( I did in my thirties).
Hope the DC are tucked up and you can relax and enjoy your eve

Am in the hotel, after a horrible day. Mr BC was amazing - predictably my father 'split us up' at the crem, which meant I had my father clinging on to me (we don't do physical contact) and my elder DC (who has a learning disability) very upset on the other side. No fucking support for me Mr BC had to resort to squeezing my shoulder from the pew behind .... Anyway, done now.

Mr BC coped admirably with my difficult father and my elder son. They seem to like him and I'm more smitten than ever. Oh, and he's 6ft 2 and I'm 5ft 3 - perfect lol

Looks like tomorrow is dtd night with Mr dadbod. It will be our 5th date in six days. I need to get it over and done with before I get my knickers in a twist,like I did with Mr garden gate back in feb ( we were due to have a sleepover and the days before,all his texts were so sexual and flirty he completely put me off and I got anxious and dumped him ).
Mr dadbod makes me feel wonderful and I think he really likes me. He's told his son about me so I dont think he's just after a shag. It's hard to know to wait longer or grab this opportunity as my kids arent here. I think I need to just do it

Oh bat, what an awful day for you. You're trying to hold it together and support everyone else too.
I'm so glad you have Mr BC there for you to lean on and to stay the night with you in the hotel

@kerkyra I can make your feet seem more petite, I’m a 12.

@Sunshineandflipflops No I don’t think so, I did only meet him mid April. None of us are getting with other people at the minute though, which is as close as many people get to a relationship in the gay world 😂