Dating thread 163: The best response to someone leaving the door ajar is to shut it for them

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

fmfl no you are definitely not being a prude - especially if you've not met yet.I'd maybe just send a lighthearted message explaining that you're no prude but prefer to meet someone first and get to know them better before messaging along those lines.

Fmfl. Guys like that are after one thing only. I wasted too much time giving a guy like that a chance. After several warnings I just blocked him. He wasn't respecting my boundaries. It was a red flag

@FMFL How long have you been chatting to him for now?

@FMFL I think once conversations have gone that way it's hard to steer them around but hopefully a gentle hint that you'd like a proper conversation might do the trick.

@JeSuisPrest it’s been a week now. @Sunshineandflipflops yes this is what I’m thinking, it’s going to be tricky as he kind of expects me to join in, I’ll try to steer the inevitable conversation round today.
Thanks all.

@FMFL that's not too bad - when is the date? It's soooooo awkward if you indulge in the sexy chat and then don't clicked on the date. Ask me how I know 🙈😂

@Ant330 That is so cute. Sleepy cuddles in bed are just 🥰 I can't get enough hugs, being wrapped up in someone's arms is just the best feeling - like they're saying "I've got you, you don't need to worry about anything whilst I'm holding you".

@CassettesAreCool You've got a lot going in there. Not just a plan A, but a Plan B,C & D by the sounds of it. Good luck.👍

@jesuisprest omg this is what I’m a bit afraid of!

Oh yes, sexy chat after the first date at least! Definitely.

You live and learn @FMFL, you live and learn. Hopefully you'll meet, time will stand still, the earth will move, you'll lock eyes and fall into each others arms like long lost soul mates never to be parted again ❤. Or you'll die of embarrassment, drink far too much and come and tell us all about it 🤷🏻‍♀️😂.

Today's dates still on. Still none the wiser as to what tonight's activity is 🤷‍♀️

Good luck @Neverexpected2...I'm intrigued! Beats a bog standard drink in a pub/bar date!

I'm looking forward to a night in with Mr SAS tonight. That man just makes me smile

@Sunshineandflipflops do you think he's realised how fab you are and he wants to be exclusive? Are you going to have that chat with him?

Oooooh @Neverexpected2 love those sorts of dates! Good luck and don't forget loo update if you can!

@Neverexpected2 What are you going to wear if you don't know what you're doing? I'd be having a crisis already. Best of luck for both dates though Try and do a loo update if you can, if not we want all the details as soon as you walk through the door...

@kermitrulesok Great minds

@kermitrulesok No, I don't think he's going to change his mind on monogamy so I am avoiding/ignoring the elephant in the room as I think it's just in my room, not his.

Well yes I raised the point that I wont know what to wear 🤷‍♀️ hes said jeans and top fine - and maybe grippy shoes 😯 he said hes never done it before and doubts I have and even if it turns out rubbish it will at least be memorable 🤣 I will keep you all posted

@Neverexpected2 I’m really curious as to what you will be getting upto.

I’m seeing MrNoName tonight as I have booked a childminder, I told MiniMe this morning that I would be out after dinner tonight while we were walking to nursery, he’s pleased as it means he can watch as much TV as he wants, I’m mean and I limit it to 30 minutes a day/

@Neverexpected2 Climbing? Ninja Warrior type activity?!

Sunshine I did wonder about climbing (oh God I have no idea whether I'll be able to drag my ass up a climbing wall) as hes ex army. It's not an escape room or adventure golf. What through me though was he said to make sure I had music downloaded on my phone 🤷‍♀️

Ooooh never so intrigued!

jesuis love how smitten you are with Mr C. Like shitwith I always imagine him as Poldark 😂 I am tall, slim and blonde with a tendency to drink a bit too much and up till recently a smoking habit so a bit Patsy like! Mr Big is nothing like SATC Mr Big I named him that for another reason 😉

I will put one wary bum cheek on the smitten bench

@Neverexpected2 exciting! Can’t wait to hear about it afterwards! Have fun!

I've just realised it's been 15 weeks/just over 3 months since I met Mr SAS. Not a conventional' relationship', I know but still.

Haha sunshine I am 6 months in with Mr Big. Know how you feel

Hi all.

Just checking in, great to see so many successful relationships on the go and potential strong dates. I do hope they go great

I will be honest I'm struggling to post much on here, not because of anything IRL I've got quite a few exciting things happening.

But mainly because after going through such bad relationships, I'm really learning to build my self worth and keeping my standards high. (Something this topic/site) has really taught me.

So it's extremely hard to keep reading women who I've watched grow as people lower their standards and not appreciate their own self worth for men who are literally using them for their own reasons.

I do still wish you luck in everything and hopefully one day I'll feel comfortable to post again on here.

Thank you for everything this group has taught me and for meeting two amazing women.