Dating thread 162: (Don't wanna be) All by myself...

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Quick reply to Kerkyra I know it's a different company but my son spent £3200 on my ipad a few years ago and I got the lot back from Apple. I believe most of the gaming companies have forms online relating to in-game purchases, there were a number of court cases in the US relating to this.

@Sunshineandflipflops their location changes when they open the app

@Sunshineandflipflops What I discovered is if it gives distance e.g. 4.0 miles or similar, they've been on recently. If it's just city then it's possible they were on the day before but probably not that day. And also - yeah the distance will change if it's in miles if they move around while using it

So the distance/location only changes if they've been active on there?

If they've opened the app in a different location it totally proves they are active on it

Well Mr Art is active on there then but I can't be too mad under the circumstances...

i might have had a sneaky swipe right while just opening to check his location too and got a Match. Why did I do that?!

@Sunshineandflipflops because you're ambivalent about him. I do legitimately think that Mr SAS in your life means you can't really give yourself the opportunity to move on and find the person that meets your needs.....?

@lifegoes I think the last guy I dated let things go with me because he saw my location updated on Bumble.. I had told him I wasn't actively looking (I quite liked him) but then had a sneaky look when not at home (mostly to see if he was using it!) and it must have updated my location. All of a sudden had a Spotify link with "I heard it through the grapevine" and that was it 😂😂😂. Oops!

Hmm I went back on Bumble to gaze wondrously at my date's ( I really should come up with a catchy name) profile and read our chats. My profile is hidden and I could only navigate to her profile as it was the only chat I had. I didn't even think about location checking, or indeed what my location would be.

@midcenturylegs That is pretty punitive ! Wow.

I'm just going to become a Nun I think. Although the whole religion aspect of that might be an issue.

@midcenturylegs our conversation about bumble happened on the morning before we met. I wouldn't have been that bothered if he hadn't told me wasn't speaking or meeting to others. Him being active made me think he was actively looking. And as I knew there was a possibility of us DTD that day I didn't want to thinking he had lied.

He went over and over with screenshots that he wasn't.

So another reason why I'm still a bit miffed he just kinda ghosts me with no good morning text or anything

Not to mention some guys having things for nuns @Sunshineandflipflops. There's no escape

That's a thing? Wow. I wouldn't be setting any hearts racing in a Nun's uniform!

@HairyArsedMan I know right! I was upset at the time but over it now... serves me right for checking up on him and not using my brain and doing it at the same location! But that relationship wouldn't have worked out anyway. And I Facebook stalked him and his ex and saw his passive aggressive comments to her there 😡

@lifegoes sorry this has happened to you

Actually maybe it was penguins @Sunshineandflipflops . Could someone on FAB confirm ?

More advice needed (can you tell I’m new to this?) - got chatting to another guy last night who seems nice...today he’s given me his mobile number...what do I do? Bit of an escalation for me! Is it too soon to be swapping numbers, or am I pearl-clutching for absolutely no reason at all?!

@FMFL I don't mind going to whatsapp if I want to continue talking to someone after a while. It's easy enough to block someone but easier than logging into a dating app to have a conversation I think.

fmfl it depends on how the chat has gone. It might be too early for you. Having said that Miss Jo'burg and I have exchanged numbers and moved the chat onto whatsapp after less than 24 hours....

Thanks both, yep he seems ok (with my looong experience of about 20 hours 🙄) so WhatsApp it shall be.

hairy I think it's penguins in nun's habits....

Apparently burqa's (or rather what might not be underneath them)are a thing... [shocked]

@lilyrose88 I whatsapp two men from this thread (I think it's obvious who) and have had lovely - often amusing chats - whatsapp me if you want?

I can understand why you would want your work issues more 'hidden' in this thread rather than a new one. Hopefully someone can advise you.

WhatsApp does seem quite a jump but it's a much nicer medium for chatting. As long as you can block numbers (my old android didn't have that functionality?!) then I don't see a huge issue.

Re what's app - I have found that all men I have chatted to, have all suggested we move to there. Some within a very brief exchange. I just assumed this was normal ?!!! Maybe I need to rethink.🤔