Dating thread 162: (Don't wanna be) All by myself...

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Is the HRT helping, @TooOldForThis67?

Hope you get your dog love. I had an iron who had an 8mth puppy and we were going to double date with my dog on a walk. But when I told him I had a date Sat, he politely bowed out. I was really disappointed, not cos of him, cos of the puppy! 😂

Hi Crustaceans. Yes, HRT kicking in in a positive way now. 2nd month. Loads more energy and sleeping better. Stupid me didn't realise you bleed every month tho!

Oh the bleeding would be annoying. But sleep and energy is great. I hope it keeps improving for you.

It’s funny that you were more disappointed about the puppy than the iron. 😂

@TooOldForThis67 I didn't bleed on HRT. I think you can get different types so if you don't want to bleed then maybe go back to your GP and ask for the HRT with no bleeding. I ended up with a Mirena coil and oestrogel applied every other day, which seems to work for me. Not looking forward to ever having the coil removed or replaced though - that was an experience!

Love hope you get your dog.

On the note of sexual comments. I matched with a guy on tinder (now I'm normally good at sifting out the sexual dickheads) but this one got through. Were having great convo talking about anything and everything.

Then last night it got a bit sexual with I'm fine with when it feels right and it's just getting to know each other. He asked for a sexual photo/video. To which I said I don't do that with people I don't know or haven't met.

He was fine but then asked again for a picture. I directed him to my Instagram then he said he wanted one but of me "covering my parts up"

To which he was directly told, he'd blew this as after being told once no and why, he pushed again.

That's one of my boundaries and no matter how much something could just be sex. I will not send pictures of that nature to someone I don't know. He obv is used to getting them tho.

Update on Mr Humm which I didn't give. If you remember I didn't hear anything the day after DTD and being told he was a man of old fashioned morals and extensive chat around this and a few dates in. Anyway he did text, saying he wasn't sure what had happened but he thought it mustn't be working. I explained I got that impression as I hadn't heard from him. To which I was told he'd been busy, that I hadn't replied to his Sarcastic comment on Facebook. That I was made me feel uneasy that he had to text all the time. (To which I had never once asked. If anything I only ever reply to texts. I never once started a conversation) then it was my fault that I should have text him blah blah blah. The guy was dating and commenting on other girl pictures with hot mama after telling me he was off dating apps. Showed me his POF closed and said he wasn't talking or dating others. - there were many many red flags and gut instinct and tbh I shouldn't have slept with him as the sex was probably the worst I've ever had. 😂

It actually knocked me quite a bit as I suddenly thought I must look horrifically bad naked, for the way he rejected me. But with great friends around me I realised this wasn't the case as I've had men previously who have loved my body.

@lifegoes It was definitely him, not you. And nothing about how you look.

Tbh, if he’s as prickly and difficult to deal with as that exchange sounds, you wouldn’t want him in your life. Even if the sex were good (and it clearly was not).

It sounds like you dealt with the inappropriate sexting request well there. Pushing for photos is definitely a bad sign.

too glad the hrt is kicking in. Hope coffee goes well with Mr BE-just don't forget what you went through with him before.Shame about Mr Wow but someone should be accepting of you at your best and worst imo. As for me - all good - 4 months in now and firmly on the smitten bench - had had a few wobbles, as you know, due to difficult circumstances on his side but these are slowly getting towards a resolution.also have crap my end to sort out but 🤞 I will have it sorted ASAP.

love good luck with finding a dog.

life re mr humm the issue definitely lea with him and not you - don't give it a second thought.

I'm sure you're gorgeous, life. He sounds like a dick, so you're well rid.

@Crustaceans the daft thing was I actually knew from the start. My gut was screaming something just wasn't right haha but I'm just glad it's over. The exchange at the end was terrible. I shouldn't have responded but hey I had to have my say and def well rid. Onwards to the next 😉

Thank you @CocoKoko123 it's just one of those things that you question a bit. But I soon realised it def wasn't me haha

Thank you @ILiketheNiceCereal

It's a bit of a bloody squash on this smitten bench. I'm 4 months in with mr Unsuitable and he doesn't seem to be going anywhere. He's having a very stressful time and we seem to be riding it alongside my hormonal wobbles. Ive stopped waiting for it to end and given in to the fact we are in a serious relationship despite the unlikeliness of us as a couple. It's only me that's bothered. I've met his friends they don't care that I'm 50. We won't be together when I'm 60 but that's fine. We might be together when I'm 51 though.

I'm still reading and welcome to newbies it's a rough old ride but if you treat it as fun and all about meeting new people it's a fun one.

Really worried I've tempted fate now though and it's all going to unravel. Or maybe @MrDrummer s manspreading will knock me off the bench 🤣🤣🤣

lifegoes I'm sure you look fantastic and even if you don't any decent man would still really fancy you naked. I have said before about my horrible mumtum and yet Mr Runner makes me feel like the most sexy woman on the planet and that is what any decent man does.

peanuthedz think you need to change his name - clearly he is very suitable. If there's chemistry that's all that matters.

I agree @StealthNinjaMum I'm not bothered what he thinks he's an absolute awful man in my book. His whole behaviour shows his character. And I know I've pulled some damn fit men in the past and kept them so def not me. (Just the doubt that can creep in I think)
So pleased you and Mr Runner are going strong lovely to hear x

I've met his friends they don't care that I'm 50. We won't be together when I'm 60 but that's fine. We might be together when I'm 51 though.

You can only ever take these things one day at a time though. Maybe you’ll do that through 51, 52, 53 etc and get to 60 and he’ll still be MrMoreSuitableThanYou’llAdmit. It’s lovely that you are starting to see being together at 51 though.

There’s a lovely set of lyrics at the end of First Day of My Life (by Bright Eyes):

With these things there’s no telling,
You just have to wait and see.
But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
Than waiting to win the lottery
Besides maybe this time it’s different
I mean, I really think you like me.

I'm 51 in about 6 weeks though @Crustaceans 😁

That’s still looking 6 weeks ahead. You weren’t doing that before. 😃

@Peanuthedz that's nearly six months. That's a long term relationship to this thread!

Good point, @StealthNinjaMum.

He’s definitely MrMoreSuitableThanPeanuthedzWillAdmit. And age really isn’t the important thing in life. If you were a man, you possibly wouldn’t feel the age gap was anything people should be commenting on.

I'm currently in bed with a hot water bottle and a suspected water infection (again)

Oh no. Poor you @Sunshineandflipflops. Have you been to the GP?

@Sunshineandflipflops ouch, I feel your pain - pissing razor blades?

No, no pain but needing to 'go' more urgently and now stabbing pains too. I'm
waiting for a call back from out of hours urgent care as my go is closed this afternoon and hoping I can get some anti-biotics.

*gp

I hope they get back to you soon. UTIs are grim.