Dating thread 162: (Don't wanna be) All by myself...

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Oh that is a really lovely update, @WotcherHarry. MrPizza sounds great.

Just a quick update 😊 will catch up with the thread in a mo. Date no 2 with Mr plumber ended in a erm... sleepover! Which was great! Then out for country drive and brunch before ds came home from his dads. Have had some lovely texts from Mr Plumber saying he is so excited to get to know me. It feels lovely but my inner cynic is desperate to know what the catch is

Evening everyone, like stuckandsad I need to catch up with the thread but just on to say Mr WhatsApp has been in contact all weekend and is keen for a date! Eek! I’m already wondering what to wear, if he’ll like me, if he’s a crazed axe murderer 😳 and so on.

Omg this thread moves fast I can't keep up! Well my date from last week that went quiet on me obviously hasn't found anyone one else lol because he had been whatsapping me since 9am today I had a funny feeling I would hear from him this evening just surprised me to get a message so early! I'm just going to go with the flow and see where it leads and I suppose I should give him a name now just can't think of one!

Thanks wotcher, I did txt and he sent a nice reply,but i just sense something's changed.
One day he is asking me to go on holiday with him and saying 'third time lucky' when I mention I've been married twice. The next barely nothing. Maybe I was love bombed for a day??!

He wished me a good week so doubt I'll hear from him again but I've had a little chat to myself and feel ok.
Great news about your iron,I do like hearing the good dating stories on here 🙂

Get that date organised FMFL honestly once you've done it there's no looking back! What's the worse that could happen, and it's better to find out sooner rather than later after wasting weeks texting each other if you don't get on.

I posted a couple weeks ago about MrTooMarried. Had some good advice and actually listened and decided I was worth more than the breadcrumbs he could offer....
Had a couple of dates, one was a run and coffee, but felt a bit like my brother, the other - MrWest have had 3 dates in 4 days (unheard of for me) and it’s been great. He just seems so calm and sorted and easy after the heartache of MrSexyTooMarried.
4th date on Weds, just loving how easy and nice it all is with no wondering if he will text or not.
Fingers crossed this one lasts a bit....

Twoopen you’re honestly my inspiration in all this, I really wouldn’t be considering a date if it wasn’t for you! He seems lovely and very sweet. Of course I am worried sick about meeting him but it needs to be done at some point! I have to wait a few weeks to be child free so I’m hoping he is happy to wait...

He’s also a few hours away from me so the plan is to meet in a town half way, so I won’t be tempted to get drunk and make an idiot of myself.

"Waiting" for a bunch of replies on Bumble. On WhatsApp with someone else since matching on Friday and in less than half an hour he has sent 12, yes TWELVE, photos. Not "those" sort of photos though...!! Feels a little try hard, or egotistical??

I'm a non swimmer so would be giving sailing a hard pass. I used to work with an ex Olympic yachtsman..definitely not for me!

Having a wobble tonight that my recent Ex is lining up someone new. It shouldn't matter but it hurts even though I can rationalise it that he won't find anyone better than me or who will support him through all the things I did.. . I need to block him on everything (I've deleted but not blocked) but can't face it yet.

It does show me I am definitely not ready for any kind of dating yet, and nor will I be for a long time.

Had my date at 4pm with a man I'll call Mr Travel. Was intending to be a short drink but ended up having dinner and staying till 9:30. He seems good, lots of shared interests. He is moving house this week coming so decided to have another date the next week. He is now whatsapping me.

FWB is coming over on Tues afternoon so looking forward to an good long session.

Have another date arranged with another iron next Tues and a friend 'date' from Bumble BFFs on Weds so pretty busy!

Sunshine hope it doesn't get too messy again with Mr SAS.

kerkyra its rough when we are second guessing texting. I hate insecure feeling.

Stuckandsad fingers crossed for no catch!

I've been lurking on here for a while (months) so thought it was time I said hi! I've been separated from my ex since Easter 2018 so I've finally decided it's time to dip my toe into OLD. I haven't dated since my late teens/early 20s and I'm mid 30s now so it's all a bit daunting. Terrifying actually! How do you all decide what to put on your profiles? I have 3 DCs but I'm worried about attracting paedo weirdos if I include anything about them. I'm a full time mature student with no job, but I don't want anyone to support me, I just worry about coming across as someone who's after a free ride? I'm not at all but obviously can't afford to go out for lots of meals, etc. And my main interest is Zoology, specialising in reptiles, amphibians and invertebrates, but will the fact that I keep snakes, tarantulas, etc put men off? Is that something I should include (it's a big part of my life) or just discuss later on? Also I'm terrified of having anyone over to my house. It's my little sanctuary. I don't even like the DCs having their friends over tbh. God I sound like a right weirdo! I just want someone nice who I can relax and have a laugh with and go for a couple of drinks or take the dogs for a walk or whatnot. Also, are there any decent OLD apps that are free apart from Tinder? Please help, I have no idea what I'm doing!

I’ve had a whole weekend with Mr Eagle and I am absolutely crackers about him. He appears to feel the same way too (and the L word was mentioned...)

I don’t want to jinx it and am in no rush but my god this is lovely. It’s all just so easy. No second guessing, no games, no dramas, no crumbs. He does what he says he will, is communicative and honest and affectionate. He’s great company, very thoughtful and great in bed.

Eeeeek.

Sidge he sounds lovely 😍

crazysnakelady I only started on Monday! I am on Bumble, that’s free and the best bit about it for me was that I didn’t have to put up much of a lengthy profile.

@FMFL Nice to know I'm not the only newbie! I might have to try out Bumble too, bit scared of having to message first though

I facetimed MrNoName for an hour or so last night, he has a few days booked off from work so I’m going to work from home for a few days in the evening to cover my hours. I have finally downloaded the pikachu movie, so we’re going to watch that today.

My cousin is having MiniSimonJT friday until Saturday morning so I think we’re going to have a night out, I can already feel the hangover.

Sunday MiniSimonJT and I are off to glastonbury for the day, so I’ve booked in a slot with FWB. I hope the weathers nice, I can’t stand mud.

I've tried bumble, tinder and OkCupid. I like OkCupid best because they have really good prompts for your profile.

I'm open about having DC and not wanting more. I have a part time job and will be going back to education as well, but this is usually an interesting talking point with men.

Don't worry about bringing someone to your house, that shouldn't be on his radar for a long time anyway if he's self aware enough.

My FWB knows where I live, he's given me a lift home, but that's it. I won't be introducing a man in my DC's lives for a very long time (and obviously not a FWB anyway).

Be open about your interests and hobbies. It helps weed out who you'd like to talk to; if I put effort into my profile, I like to see the man has read it and picked up talking points from it.

@ElektraUnchained I'm afraid I think it will always be messy with Mr SAS.

Things ended nicely in the end though with Mr Art and he was really sweet so that was good and I'm chatting to someone interesting on Tinder so will see where that goes.

@NestOfSwipers good news about all the matches. Twelve photos does sound a bit extreme - are they all different photos or do you think he had an IT 'moment' and pressed send too many times?

My date with Mr 007 (he likes Bond movies) went very well on Sunday night. We have quite a few differences, mainly political, but he was very sweet and amiable about them and wasn't the typical right wing know it all that I have had the misfortune to meet on a previous date. He is 13 years younger than me (eek) but he is quite old fashioned in some ways so I don't think the age difference will be a problem. I thought there was a definite spark between us and I think he felt it too. We went on for something to eat and he said he wants to meet me again, so watch this space.

@CrazySnakeLady I met my BF on tinder. I preferred it to bumble because you didn’t have to message first.

I would be honest about your interests in your profile. If they’re going to be put off by your pets, then they are never going to be right for you. So you may as well not bother.

Don’t worry about inviting anyone to your house at this point. You can just go on dates and figure things out when you meet someone you like.

@LilyRose88, seven matches on Bumble, two of which are in the 24 hour waiting period, two monosyllabic and waiting to hear back from the rest. Hardly going to meet anyone there, am I? Mr Photobomb certainly meant to send them. He hasn't really asked anything about me, it was all him, him, him yesterday. Either egotistic, or too keen to plesse. No thanks, either way. He's on the older limit of my range anyway! I'm impressed with your younger man, I'm inspired!

@NestOfSwipers 7 matches is still impressive, even if they aren’t up to that much. I’m not sure I ever managed anything more than 3 matches (going nowhere much) at any one time.

@LilyRose88 it sounds like it was a good weekend for you.