Dating thread 162: (Don't wanna be) All by myself...

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Mr eyes txt to say he could only meet for an hour tonight as now had plans,so I kinda lost my shit and said come over now if you can. I tried to hide my insecurities and the feeling of constant rejection but he came over and it was really nice. Left ds at home and went to the village pub and walked the dogs for a couple of hours. Had a little kiss in the woods!
I'm starting to get to know him. He is frustratingly laid back but where I can be mega intense he kind of chills me. No deep convos but skimmed a few topics but he just isnt a heavy sort. Quite refreshing and different.
He said he had to take his dad to his uncles later and it all made sense. And he wants to spend next weekend with me.
So all looking good. I'm just used to full on,seeing someone lots. I need to chill

Good luck lilly88 on all your dates
And all other dates.

I've just realised the bloke I had a first date with 4yrs ago,but dismissed,may actually be a good egg. So maybe a second date if unsure is wise x

simonjt I dont know, I think I only worked out your fwb because you said hed done Disney recently and his insta shows him there 😉😆

@SimonJT Ooh...I think I know who it is! Does his name begin with an O..?

And yes, there are multiple gays on!

Finally back from my date with Mr Plumber 🙈💖 it was honestly brilliant. He's sexy and fun and really sweet. Ended up getting a bit drunk and going for a paddle in near by lake and kissing like teenagers.
Hes coming over to mine tonight squeeeeeeee

Good going kerkyra. Hope he won't turn out to be flaky in general bit looking optimistic atm!

Get that completely TwoOpenOneClosed. Feels silly as I am generally v self assured, happy etc but I am also extroverted so need people to talk to a lot.

Has anyone had experience dating women? I am bi and have been looking for women as well as men but found them a lot more difficult to actually meet. We match then they don't reply to messages or they do but it NEVER ends up as a date.

Ooh time to crack out the nice knickers @Stuckandsad ?

Stuckandsad that sounds like the perfect date! Hearing positive stories like this makes me so happy for you all to finally meet a great guy. Hope you have a fab night as well!

@ElektraUnchained I am bi and have tried Pink Sofa Dari g site. It is exclusively for women. I have met one lady but am not sure whether there is any chemistry. We are getting to know each other as friends. I use POF to meet guys.

@ElektraUnchained I meant Pink Sofa dating site!

Haha yesss I hope so! I'm sure there is a huge catch but I'll enjoy myself until then!

@Sunshineandflipflops I would like to point out that he is much older than he looks.

@SimonJT I think he seems lovely x

@SimonJT I didn't watch it but so curious to know who!

My date is on his way over to mine and I feel nervous 😲. Have met him before as a friend and as he doesn't live local I said he could stay, but no sex, lol. I've got gloss on my hands from painting and despite a soak and scrub with spirit, I can't shift it! Eek. Grey roots too. God he's a lucky fella 😂

Have fun TooOld 🙂
I touched up my grey bits with some brown eye shadow earlier!

Just to say I received an email today and they are paying back my money. It was a totally over a grand and would have taken me five weeks to earn it! I could cry. Things are on the up

Totally??!

@kerkyra That's great news!

So Mr Art has gone very quiet the last couple of days. We have a date arranged for Monday night so I've messaged him saying if he'd rather give it (meaning the whole thing) a miss that's okay.

He's read it and not replied.

I'm happy to go for dinner with him but also won't be devastated if we call it a day but I'd rather he was honest with me.

I bet he's great fun for a FWB @simonjt

@kerkyra fab you're getting a refund!!

I've decided to keep FWB as my only iron for now. I don't have enough free time to juggle more men and I don't have the mental capacity, either. I'm cancelling with the new guy.

@ILiketheNiceCereal I think I'm in a very similar position to you.

@Sunshineandflipflops Honestly, I think you know that it’s not going anywhere with MrArt. Sometimes you kind of frame it on here as a MrArt v MrSAS situation. But they both seem to be wrong.

Glad you got the money back @kerkyra

@Ginmel 😉

So after Mr Art going very quiet over the last few days, I messaged him just before 8pm to say if he wanted to give Monday (our date) a miss, that's okay. I've heard nothing.

I also texted him Friday night and he didn't get back to me until about 10am yesterday with something about going out with friends and getting carried away.

Shall I just bite the bullet and send another message to say I've cancelled the reservation, was nice to meet you but I don't think either of us are bothered enough?

I know he was probably out last night but I don't believe he didn't look at his phone all night and if you see a message like that from
someone you ARE bothered about, you reply!

Hi Sunshineandflipflops it's so difficult to know what to do so you don't come over as needy I think men love to just leave us dangling like they're so important and have numerous options unlike us! Can you tell someone is doing it to me too lol I think once you've reached out to them it's best to just leave it, although have you arranged to go out for a meal together on Monday?
I would wait and see if he replies today and just probably accept that you deserve someone who will give you 100% attention because as you say if they want you they will text!