still shaking - hve discoverd my instinct about the other woman was right

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Dh work colleague - I've had bad vibes abouther since day one. Iknew somethign ws brewing. I have just seen an email exhcnage between them from last night - she has obvioulsy had anr 'emotional outburst' with him yesterday and now he knows how she feels abouthim. Oh God - I so didn't want this to be right. They have to work together - how are they goign to do this? What on earth doI do next? sit by and watch it develop and hop e he sees sense? declare my hand and that I ws looking at his email? If i tell him I'm onto them - it won't necesarily stop it - it wil just be better covered up. He's been so nice recently - of COURSe he bloody has!

Ladies - I've just come across this thread and I would like to add my bit. I work in an industry where most of us work at home independently, but we have colleages that we chat to via the net. One of my colleages is a particularly good friend, he is married - I am married. We are usually talking about work, but occassionally we'll mention home stuff. We have both made it clear that we are in happy marriages. I have on occassion ended an email in a kiss, if say he's helped me out with a problem or similar, I'd do the same if he were female.

Now I know this isn't the same, but I think the fact that the DH has put the odd kiss on the end of an email isn't crime of the century. He's probably been a bit flattered and hasn't handled it in the best way, but think about it may not be that easy to get stroppy with someone you thought was a friend and with whom you work. Sounds to me like he's been trying to be nice.

Yes remain vigilant, but sounds like he loves you and handled this woman badly. Obviously if he left it would make you feel more secure and if it can be arranged I'd encourage it.

sorry for bad spelling

But scanner you have not declared your love for this man have you?! Slightly differnet situation really

And also, you weren't trying to rebuff unwanted advances. Hardly likely to have the desired effect, is it, if you sign off with a romantic signal??

I'm all for following your gut instinct, if after thinking it all through it all adds up then great. Men are so often thoroughly wet about 'letting people down gently' - may well think that a few xxs on the end make "I'm not interested" sound better. I hope your holiday goes well and you manage to work it all through.

FIO - how are you? I'm ok thanks, was losing the plot massively at the end of term but but getting back to normal (for me) now.
Msn not working at the moment, but would love to see you.

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I'm not sure about diamonds. But there's every reason she made need to have a foreign holiday, alone, or a trip to a health farm to recover, while he holds the fort at home.

That's part of survival strategy anyway.

my survival strategy.

diamonds??

great, just think, every time she looked at them she would be reminded...

cod you are maaaaaaaaad!!

I thought jewellery would be fair - but you are so right - I'd just be reminded why everytime I wore it. Damn.
We just cna't get proper time to talk at eh moment - he's away tonghith - NOT with her - Ihave doubel cheked. And is doing exams.tHen we are on holiday and I want everything to be right.

Well, if you're going on holiday to Africa, it has to be diamonds.... Morocco's good for Gold.... there's some nice Jade to be had in India....

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hatingtobe have u spoken to him? sorry just jumped on thread.
I look at my DP's emails. He looks at mine.

oh ignore me - my scroll thingy was weird - found the details.
Good luck!

I think you should introduce yourself before you barge in here. Go back to the cocktail party.

eh?

eleusis i need you on xmas party dates thread (sorry for hijack)

Did someone say "party"?

oh pardy me elusis - how do you do?? oh lovely house....

yes, yes, thankyou a G & T would be wonderful. My dress?? Oh don't be silly it's something my seamstress made!

I think you said you were going on holiday HTBR?

Just wanted to say, enjoy it, relax and have a great time with YOUR husband.

Just an update for all you lovely Mnetters who helped. Things are better ish - but Hell's Bells things just keep coming out of teh woodwork. Just when you think it's over,something else happens - you find a text or a message.

You may be interested to know that I was eventually pushed so far that I rang the cow. She was as cool as a farking cucumber. I told her to stop callingmy DH an dtexting him outside of work hours - and even inside them I though testing to be inapproproate. It's worked to an extent.

Why are some women like this? Even the implied threat of me telling her boss and her Dh didn't seem to have any effect.

Oh dear. WHAT is coming out of the woodwork? Is it all one way from her or ishe contributing?
Well done for contacting her, that took immense courage

OH just things like...DH has told her to stop emailing him etc...tehn I discoverd her texts and then a voicemail. Nothing awful , but just inappropriate stuff like 'looking forward to seeing you tomorrow ' with a smiley...this on a day when I was out of the country. This prompted my call to her- to tell her that it ws not acceptabel to be contacting him on anything other than work business - given all that had happened.

And he has to continue to work with her and this has been the hardest bit for me...aprt from anything else we never talk abot his work anymore.

Somehow we are getting through it - but as a warning to anyon eles ..these things jsut seem to go on and on - and I feel totally vindicated for checking his emails in the first place.