To actually want to praise my Husband

[BKJ89]

So, I have been on Mumsnet for a few months now and i'm finding it increasingly more difficult to find threads that are literally about praising our Husbands (partners/boyfriends/girlfriends/Wives etc).
I have seen lots and lots of posts about lazy, untidy, miserable other halves that I thought it might be nice to have a thread purely taking some time out to appreciate the great ones :)
I'm happy to say that while I understand not all Husbands are this way, mine is a true gem! He works hard to keep myself, our 2 cats and our impending little jelly bean who is growing away nicely as we speak, in a wonderful home, filled with beautiful things. Now don't get me wrong, we're by no means flush, but we are comfortable. I work full time and bring in a good wage, but he works harder for more and i'm grateful.
He is extremely domesticated and will do the washing, the cleaning, the hoovering, mowing the lawns as well as looking after his Mum & Dad and Grandparents whenever they need him. He truly is a wonderful man and every day - even when he's driving me crazy - I count my lucky stars that I landed on my feet. We met 15 years ago, have been friends since. Started dating 7 years ago and have been married for 2 years in July. He's my best friend and I can't wait to start the next part of our lifetime journey with him.
I know this sounds soppy, probably quite daft and extremely slushy, but I just wanted to see if I could try and help those who are wanting to ring their Husband's necks at the moment, to try to remember the reasons they fell in love and all the things they still love about their partners.
100% not meant to sound boasty or anything like that, so please be nice :)

Yeah I remember those times before real life kicked in. Good luck.

He is extremely domesticated and will do the washing, the cleaning, the hoovering, mowing the lawns as well as looking after his Mum & Dad and Grandparents whenever they need him.

I have never heard of a woman who does all these things being described as domesticated. Now, if he was a cat...

@KOKOtiltomorrow don't get me wrong, we've had some real struggles with health, finances, family, deaths etc. It's not all roses (as life never is) but it's a partnership at the end of the day. The idea was meant to be to try and help some people think in a more positive way.

@ImnotlikearegularMomImacoolMom ah yes, perhaps I should have said house proud. :) Principles are the same though, I consider myself very lucky that I'm not picking dirty pants up off the floor or wet towels etc. or having to clean up dirty dishes and the likes.

What you are describing is a normal adult taking responsibility for their life. It isn’t extraordinary.

Yeah I get that and that you don’t want to sound boasty but your posts do come across as patronising - help people think in a more positive way??? Who are you to tell people who have been shat on from a great height to be more positive just because your H is great??

Most of us on here thought we were in partnerships ...: until we weren’t. In my case it was 20 years plus. I really Hope you dont end up where I am but please don’t tell us where we are going wrong.

I'm afraid I'm still not impressed. My DH can do all of those things and works hard too. I thought that is what an adult does, not a good man.
I really hope there's a post out there about you too though, where he waxes lyrical about how you do fix the car, chop the firewood and put the bins out.

He sounds great op I’m pleased for you. If something’s too good to be true it usually is.

@KOKOtiltomorrow but there is always the option to ignore the post and scroll past rather than make someone feel like crap for wanting to actually publicly appreciate their other half or put others off for doing the same. I in no way at all wanted it to sound patronising. I have been in some pretty crappy and abusive relationships myself which is why I appreciate him so much now.
I didn't say anyone was doing anything wrong but there is a so much negativity on the internet that I literally just wanted to try and get a nice positive post going.
I apologise if you're offended by anything i've said, as i said, it wasn't my intention.

Well jolly for you

My H did it all too.... his nickname was Tidy Heidi....didn’t stop him seeking solace elsewhere when the going hit tough.

OP, does your DH feel the need to post glowing praise about you on anonymous forums?

Hmm does he really work harder than you?

Don't get me wrong, I love my DH, we've been through ups & downs but I consider him one of the good ones so rarely have cause to moan & I hope your DH continues to be a gem but it annoys me a bit when men get praised for taking part in family life like they're doing their wife a favour!

I'm glad you're happy & have a baby on the way & I hope your DH continues being decent

@BJJ89.... I really do understand what you are attempting here but you are still being patronising ...trying to stop negativity on the internet .... never gonna happen. This is Relationships where people are posting about their problems. Maybe go celebrate your H in chat???

Do you tell him constantly how wonderful he is? Yeah, I used to do that then kids came and my attention rightfully turned to making sure their needs were met and not his.. that’s when the fairytale turned sour. Hope your rose tinted specs are solely based on you boosting his ego constantly.

Aren’t not are

@KOKOtiltomorrow Apologies, as I said, still very new to Mumsnet and thought this was just general Relationship stuff - I had no intention to upset anyone going through a hard time with their relationship. When I searched the criteria this is the area that it suggested I post.

OP I think you're getting an unnecessarily hard time. Yes, all those things you say your DH does are things that any normal, right-thinking man in a long term relationship and with a family would do. But spending time on Mumsnet very quickly shows you how often men are not in fact like this. So I get where you're coming from. But we shouldn't have to celebrate men who do these things.

@BKJ89.....no worries .... enjoy your pregnancy and keep reading here ...as I said, I hope you never need it but plenty of advice here if you do

OP I'm not married to a dick either but not really sure Relationships is the right place to post. It's like going into a TTC srction and talking about how you literally had sex once and conceived triplets, yay you! or the weight loss we tuon and saying its sooo funny, you eat like 3 cakes a day and drink tons of full fat coke but you're just a perfect perky size 10 regardless, yay me!!!

I'd ask to move it to chat.

Ah bless ya, wait till your baby arrives

@BlingLoving Thanks for the kind words. Like i said before, i've no ill intentions here but i'm just grateful and wanted to see who else out there is looked after, if that make sense. Yes I know they're all day to day things, but the fact that I don't need to nag every 5 minutes or get frustrated that things aren't done is just nice!

I'm by no means wearing any rose tinted glasses, i've known him for 15 years and he's always been the same. I appreciate that this was completely the wrong place to post this now but was just hoping to do a nice thing not just for him but for others as well.

I'm sad that it seems that, from what i've seen in the past (not necessarily just on Mumsnet) that when a man praises his wife for being wonderful, doing whatever she can to make the house a home and still be a kind and caring person, he's praised where i'm berated just because 'hes a man not a God and should be doing it anyway'.

Chat will be moved to a more appropriate area of Mumsnet and again, my sincerest apologies.

Your H isn't really doing anything special,hes doing his share of the house work etc, i bet you work just as hard as he does, every couple have there fair share of up's and down's and sort out problem's hopefully together, congratulations on your baby, i hope he's as considerate when your exhausted with the baby