To actually want to praise my Husband

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So, I have been on Mumsnet for a few months now and i'm finding it increasingly more difficult to find threads that are literally about praising our Husbands (partners/boyfriends/girlfriends/Wives etc).
I have seen lots and lots of posts about lazy, untidy, miserable other halves that I thought it might be nice to have a thread purely taking some time out to appreciate the great ones :)
I'm happy to say that while I understand not all Husbands are this way, mine is a true gem! He works hard to keep myself, our 2 cats and our impending little jelly bean who is growing away nicely as we speak, in a wonderful home, filled with beautiful things. Now don't get me wrong, we're by no means flush, but we are comfortable. I work full time and bring in a good wage, but he works harder for more and i'm grateful.
He is extremely domesticated and will do the washing, the cleaning, the hoovering, mowing the lawns as well as looking after his Mum & Dad and Grandparents whenever they need him. He truly is a wonderful man and every day - even when he's driving me crazy - I count my lucky stars that I landed on my feet. We met 15 years ago, have been friends since. Started dating 7 years ago and have been married for 2 years in July. He's my best friend and I can't wait to start the next part of our lifetime journey with him.
I know this sounds soppy, probably quite daft and extremely slushy, but I just wanted to see if I could try and help those who are wanting to ring their Husband's necks at the moment, to try to remember the reasons they fell in love and all the things they still love about their partners.
100% not meant to sound boasty or anything like that, so please be nice :)

Dh!

Now if my shoes did the hoovering that WOULD be remarkable!

I had a really horrible relationship. Cheated on, manipulated, unloved etc. I genuinely love reading about happy relationships on here. It makes me happy to know that there are decent men out there and also gives me a bit of hope for the future.

Pride comes before a fall.

👏

Is a round of applause enough ...or should we organize a parade?

And why is it not something for celebration? After wars people celebrate, why? Surely living in peace and harmony is just commonplace and couldn't possibly warrant such a thing?
Same goes for relationships, after you've been in shitty ones the "normal" ones feel amazing and you want to scream it from the rooftops!
Fuck whether they got a penis, vagina, both or neither it's not about anatomy.

It's great that you have a good relationship with your shoes

OP have you any idea galling it is for people going through hell to read about your 'perfect' marriage.
Oh do grow up. That's a bit like saying I shouldn't read Mumsnet in case I come across someone who says they have a great mother or they've finally got over their anxiety! Not to mention the people who have children - they definitely shouldn't be posting in case I'm affected by their perfect families while I have none. [littlepictureindicatingtosspot]

You've actually managed to depress me - good work
Well done OP

Oria is there really any need for such vitriol?

I've been in an abusive relationship and I could understand that others were in a much happier place. In fact it was comforting to see.

People can always choose not to read these posts if they find them triggering.

I can only be grateful this didn't turn into a thread full of 'perfect' women boasting about their ivory towers

What does that even mean??

I actually find it really reassuring to come across examples of people in happy relationships - my parents have a crap one, all mine have been crap, friends have all had crap ones - I often think that relationships are pointless. So finding someone happily married is a yay moment.

I am giving up replying after this last message. I contacted mumsnet admin, they saw no reason to remove or move this post.
I apologised for any offence caused and was literally just trying to produce some positive chat in what can sometimes be an extremely negative place. It wasn't to rub anyone's nose in anything, it wasn't to hurt or offend. I'm not a nasty person, just someone who is grateful for the hand fate has dealt her after an awful childhood and abusive relationships. Didn't feel I needed to justify my reasons for actually being happy but seems I'm in the wrong place as all it's done is given a platform for nasty, personal jibes about me and my relationship. Thank you to those who actually see the post for what it is and offered support and kind words.
All this post and the subsequent comments from many MN users has actually managed to do is make me feel like crap and reduce me to tears so for those who disagree with my feelings and how I choose to express them, well done. I have given up apologising for offence caused and end by saying that perhaps when you see a post with a title 'praising my husband', just scroll past. We have free will and the ability to make our own decisions about what we view online. No one is forcing you to read the post just the same as no one is forcing you to reply to it.

Seeing happy relationships actually gave me the push to leave my abusive ex....knowing it should and could be better.

And it is!!

Don't apologise op.
Good luck with the test of your pregnancy x

Why can't people just scroll past 🙄 why be mean.

There's a difference between posting, as I frequently do, "this isn't normal, plenty of men pull their weight, my DH does" on a thread about a total shit, and posting, "let's all praise our men for being decent humans".

But OP you're new and this place has a tone that is quite harsh. Name change, hang around, see if you like it. If not, that's great too. You'd also have had different responses if you'd posted 'after a shitty childhood and abusive relationships I found a good bloke'. That's inspiring!

OP, Good luck with your pregnancy. Lots of us have lovely husbands but we don't start threads about them as often (do sometimes), because it's when people are frustrated or worried that they need to vent.
FWIW, DH and I have been married for 25 years, together for 27. I love him and trust him. He drives me nuts sometimes, as I do him, but I wouldn't prefer anyone else and he is the centre of my life. Our DC are growing up now and we can't wait to start the next stage of our life together and have some adventures.

How fucking wonderful and perfect and #blessed your life is, sorry but I'll continue to support the women on this board who post for advice and hand holds in shitty situations, like they should be able, like the forum is for, so sorry their misery is like a dark cloud for you bringing you down when your relationship is so much better. Ffs.

I had this. He still did me over and left. Thanks though.

Ugh sorry to be a bit of an arse. Good luck with your pregnancy and I hope you carry on having happy times. Suppose I'm just cynical and bitter now op. Sorry.

I often find mumsnet disheartening regarding long term relationship success so I appreciated your post!