To actually want to praise my Husband

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So, I have been on Mumsnet for a few months now and i'm finding it increasingly more difficult to find threads that are literally about praising our Husbands (partners/boyfriends/girlfriends/Wives etc).
I have seen lots and lots of posts about lazy, untidy, miserable other halves that I thought it might be nice to have a thread purely taking some time out to appreciate the great ones :)
I'm happy to say that while I understand not all Husbands are this way, mine is a true gem! He works hard to keep myself, our 2 cats and our impending little jelly bean who is growing away nicely as we speak, in a wonderful home, filled with beautiful things. Now don't get me wrong, we're by no means flush, but we are comfortable. I work full time and bring in a good wage, but he works harder for more and i'm grateful.
He is extremely domesticated and will do the washing, the cleaning, the hoovering, mowing the lawns as well as looking after his Mum & Dad and Grandparents whenever they need him. He truly is a wonderful man and every day - even when he's driving me crazy - I count my lucky stars that I landed on my feet. We met 15 years ago, have been friends since. Started dating 7 years ago and have been married for 2 years in July. He's my best friend and I can't wait to start the next part of our lifetime journey with him.
I know this sounds soppy, probably quite daft and extremely slushy, but I just wanted to see if I could try and help those who are wanting to ring their Husband's necks at the moment, to try to remember the reasons they fell in love and all the things they still love about their partners.
100% not meant to sound boasty or anything like that, so please be nice :)

It must be truly awful for people living #blessed lives to have to continually read about the trials and tribulations of those going through less than #blessed times in their lives. How awful for them. It surely must bring you down.....

For one bleating on about scrolling past her post, perhaps you could take your own advice and scroll past the very many posts from women going through difficult circumstances. Nobody wants to rain on your parade.

I knew you were going to be pregnant, I just knew it!!

All those lovely positive hormones swirling around.

Probably in a small minority but in a world / Mumsnetasphere where criticising others is statistically on the rise, isn't it nice to see a "no agenda" post just saying "thanks for my partner's (apostrophe in the right place) support, love etc." Maybe it should be a new trend. It may go against the general direction of AIBU but it's lovely to read positive things. Thanks OP and pls don't feel put off by the negative comments or those who suggest it's not necessary to celebrate small but lovely things. It's a refreshing antidote to the news etc. I for one raise my glad to you and thanks.

Have noticed there's a lot of shit other half's on here.
Shout out to mine then for being a responsible adult and equal partner and parent.

I actually think it's rather nice to hear how highly you think of your DH

Oria...yeah you’ve made your point now thanks.

FWIW I have a very happy marriage.
25 years.
I don’t object to op wanting to celebrate her dh 🤷‍♀️.
I object to the self satisfied tone. We don’t need to be schooled. We don’t need anyone to set themselves or their dh as an example to us and ours.
Least of all someone who’s just starting out on their journey.
Come back when you’ve got hairs on your chest op and you’re drier behind the ears.

I'm happy to say that while I understand not all Husbands are this way, mine is a true gem! Why do you want to rub everyone's nose in it that they don't have 'gems'?

in a wonderful home, filled with beautiful things Nice shout out to all of us living in poverty.

100% not meant to sound boasty So you knew you were being insufferably 'boasty' before you hit POST.

Anyone else you want to make feel like shit OP?

our impending little jelly bean who is growing away nicely as we speak Couldn't forget to make those struggling with infertility feel shit, could you?

I work full time and bring in a good wage, but he works harder for more We get it - you've got money.

I suggest the OP takes herself back to gloating on Facebook.

oria what are getting out of continuing to dissect the OP's post?
You've made your point there's no need to continue with the nastiness.

I want her to apologise for gloating.

I think as the op is new to Mumsnet she doesn’t understand that the ‘negativity’ she sees on the relationship board is not a real reflection on life as she knows it. She wants to redress that balance. Unfortunately the board is support women going through horrible negative situations and they won’t appreciate a three like this.

It would have been better as a light hearted thread on chat

Oria is right though. It was a really cruel post.

I have a lovely husband too but my God the OPs post made me throw up in my mouth a bit 😬

She doesn't owe you a apology oria but I'd say you owe her one.

If a man ever made me like that, I'd do everything in my power to undo that, for myself. It's poisonous to carry that bile around. And it's poisonous to spew it.

Nice to think you would. But I'm the same person in my good second marriage as I was in my first shit one. I didn't see it. I was full of rage and misery but stayed. There but for the grace of god. Don't assume you'd be as able to leave a bad relationship as you think you would. It took me years.

sag no it wasn't.

Glad you have such a wonderful partner

I too have a wonderful husband partner of 11 years and a 6 month old albeit I do have to pick dirty pants up from the floor and hunt for laundry 🧺 on a good day! He does lots of other positives and does help out when he can! And an amazing dad.

Going to be interesting when I go back to work but I am lucky too

Well, I appreciate the post. My husband passed recently, and it's making me smile to think about how lovely he was and how thankful I am to have the bar set so high for any future relationships I might have.

It’s not luck it’s not having a good one it’s basic stuff.

Have you actually been looking at posts for a few months on relationships? Because if you havent then I can see why you posted that after just looking at some thread titles. And I feel a bit sorry for you now
Im guessing that maybe you havent?

If you have been reading relationship posts for several months you have been reading different posts to me to get from them that posters needed to be more positive about their blokes
Theyre usually absolutely cunts that are being spoken about and the women are already tying themselves in knots to be appreciative where it really isnt due (e.g. "oh he shouts at me but he is ever so good with the kids" etc etc). And you will see plenty of posts from women in healthier happier relationships, in response, giving examples of how their relationship works as a point of contrast (i.e. people are positive about their partners when it is appropriate and useful).

I think it’s just a thread to be positive guys... It’s about looking for your blessings x x