To actually want to praise my Husband

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So, I have been on Mumsnet for a few months now and i'm finding it increasingly more difficult to find threads that are literally about praising our Husbands (partners/boyfriends/girlfriends/Wives etc).
I have seen lots and lots of posts about lazy, untidy, miserable other halves that I thought it might be nice to have a thread purely taking some time out to appreciate the great ones :)
I'm happy to say that while I understand not all Husbands are this way, mine is a true gem! He works hard to keep myself, our 2 cats and our impending little jelly bean who is growing away nicely as we speak, in a wonderful home, filled with beautiful things. Now don't get me wrong, we're by no means flush, but we are comfortable. I work full time and bring in a good wage, but he works harder for more and i'm grateful.
He is extremely domesticated and will do the washing, the cleaning, the hoovering, mowing the lawns as well as looking after his Mum & Dad and Grandparents whenever they need him. He truly is a wonderful man and every day - even when he's driving me crazy - I count my lucky stars that I landed on my feet. We met 15 years ago, have been friends since. Started dating 7 years ago and have been married for 2 years in July. He's my best friend and I can't wait to start the next part of our lifetime journey with him.
I know this sounds soppy, probably quite daft and extremely slushy, but I just wanted to see if I could try and help those who are wanting to ring their Husband's necks at the moment, to try to remember the reasons they fell in love and all the things they still love about their partners.
100% not meant to sound boasty or anything like that, so please be nice :)

finding it increasingly more difficult to find threads that are literally about praising our Husbands
If you've found any threads praising men I'd be amazed! I'm glad you posted OP - it's a shame more people don't post nice things about other people instead of rushing to be the first to post LTB. Be grateful you didn't post this in AIBU though - they'd have really ripped you to shreds

Wow you're getting some awful responses.
I'm glad you're happy and have a lovely husband.
Although some people find it hard to believe, there are people in happy relationships. I'm married to an absolute gem too - together 6 years , married 5 and have a wonderful 4 year old. We're still very much in love and lust 😍

I don’t know what you mean by you are finding it more and more difficult to find threads that are literally praising husbands. Who goes around praising other adults for just not being a twat?

Although in fairness, I was in Morrisons in Wales where we were on holiday in the Easter holidays and I went in with dd and dh waited outside with the dog and the lady on the checkout said to dd the bag was going to be very heavy (Ikea blue bag full of beer and wine) and dd said ‘it’s ok, my dad is outside and he’s is handsome, clever and strong’ because that’s how I talk about him generally.

Gosh some real chip pissers on here.
I love mine too OP and appreciate what he does as he likewise does with me.
We've been together 30 years and still love each other as much.
Hope it continues for you OP, and ask to be moved to chat

Thank you ladies for the kind replies. I think it's clear i've made the mistake of posting this in the wrong part of Mumsnet which I fully hold my hands up to.
@SavoyCabbage It's sweet to hear children speak of their mum's and dad's that way - clearly it's because they've heard them being described that way which is so lovely :)
@CostanzaG this makes me happy :) Even with a 4 year old you're still happy and in love and lust.

@RomanyQueen request was sent through earlier - fingers crossed!

Most definitely!! We're a great team of 3 but we also make a huge effort to ensure quality couple time. That definitely helps!

OP, you can stop apologising now! I'm lucky enough to have a good one too. Life is certainly harder with kids but having a strong marriage is a great base to build your family on.

@CostanzaG my family members who have children have said the same thing, that things get so much more difficult when a little one comes along because priorities change - which is completely right - and that we need to remember that we are husband and wife as well as Mummy and Daddy.

I think it's great that you appreciate your partner and that you're happy. But I've got to say it's a bit depressing that you consider myself very lucky that I'm not picking dirty pants up off the floor or wet towels etc. or having to clean up dirty dishes and the likes.

Women should not have to be lucky to be married to adults.

Kids change the picture unfortunately. There is so much work to be done while they are either pooping, weeing, crying or trashing the house while demanding meals (and refusing what you offer)...all at once.

My DH still does a lot at home (after 2 kids) but unfortunately there is simply no choice but for both adults to work bloody hard. There is no time to pause and pay yourself (or the other person) on the back though.

I think there is always time to pause and make sure your partner knows they're appreciated....it has to work both ways though.

Yeah kids change things but so much of it is about team work and attitude. It's hard work at times but it can still be lots of fun.

I'm not sure what you want out of this thread OP. Are you planning on showing it to your DH? Why not just tell him?

And I agree with PPs that it's sad you feel grateful that your male partner is behaving like a grown up. Many women have such low standards.

You can have high standards and still appreciate your partner.
People are really mean on MN at the moment.

Generally speaking women who have great partners don't need to post on relationship advice boards? Luckily my DH is a functioning adult like yours so I don't need to start threads about him but good for you for rubbing it in the ones that are having issues faces OP

Personal attacks really aren't necessary. I haven't said anything personal about anyone else and my original post actually said please be nice.
Why can't people just scroll past if they don't agree with something??

He sounds like a lovely man, and a wonderful husband, and I'm glad you're so happy. However.......a marriage should be an equal partnership. This doesn't sound equal. You say you work ft, but he works harder. Does he? Really? Or is that just how you see it? Maybe pregnancy hormones colouring things a little? You don't tell us what it is that you do around the house.
It's good that he is 'domesticated' but once bubba is here he'll need to be. Even the best behaved of babies can change the dynamics of a relationship.
As I said, you both sound like you've got a good, stable relationship (and I agree, we hear of that so rarely on Mumsnet as it's not so interesting and emotive as a 'LTB' type post) so thank you for posting.
Congratulations on jelly bean!

God, some people really like to piss on a parade. Sorry, you're getting a hard time @OP.

I've been with DH since we were students at uni and we both still think how lucky we are to have found each other. He's still bloody gorgeous nearly thirty years later and makes me laugh every day. He's a bit scruffy sometimes and incredibly messy all of the time, but he is sheer quality through and through.

And fwiw, I too think you are getting an unnecessarily hard time from other posters. These are for you. 💐

Coming on here being all happy and content how bloody dare ya. This part of the web is reserved for misery and man-hating....
Be off with you.

So many sourpuss posters on here!
Granted probably not the best place to post but good for you OP, it's nice to see happy people
And @mystraighteners going by alot of men and how they treat their partners, especially reading how awful some are on here, it does make you feel grateful it's got sod all to do with having low standards I'm grateful I have a roof over my head and food on the table does that mean I have low standards on life? No, it just means I realise things can be taken for granted.
Maybe some people should appreciate the small good things in life, they would be alot happier and it seems to work for the OP.

I have a good one too. And i tell him that.

But, relationships often revert to very sexist stereotypes after children, also abuse can start out of nowhere. Men are celebrated, particularly fathers, for doing not very much. Things women would be berated savagely for not doing. You wait and see how many cookies he gets for holding a crying baby in public, when you would get glares. Being a parent is hard and some relationships that look rosy before, don't after.

So maybe hold off the glowing praise until it's 3am, you're on mat leave with your third, you haven't had more than three hours sleep in days and he's rolled over because 'he works', the house is a tip, you're depressed and he starts snoring the second the baby drops off.

I'm just not if the view that 'person with penis does hoovering and looks after other people' is cause for celebration, though I know many others (both with and without penises) think that way.

He sounds lovely OP

You've had some mean spirited and unwarranted responses OP. It's great that you have a good relationship with your shoes