Why does he do this?

[Sausageroll123]

Been with partner for 2 years. Kids involved (not jointly). We live separately.

Anyway. If we ever have an argument it always ends up with me being treated the silent treatment until I have basically harassed him in to talking to me again.

Currently happening right now. I saw he'd liked a photo of a semi naked girl on social media and said it upset me slightly. He turned round and said this isn't working, and has now ignored me all day.

Whenever I bring up something I'm unhappy about that he's done, I get the same 'this isn't working', and then however many days of silence until I can get him out of it.

I just don't understand why he does it?

Maybe for the best OP! Now just think of all the worry amd headspace you gave todays possible meeting! And for what! Get yourself a takeaway and maybe a wee bottle of plonk. Relax and try to enjoy the peace

Well done sausages

Onwards and upwards indeed.

I'm going to have to throw my phone down the toilet tonight in order to stop myself from texting him. Feel bloody awful. Thank God for Netflix

And I've just seen he's watching my Sky again. At least ringing Sky now will distract me for a bit

And I've just seen he's watching my Sky again.

Holy fk be is such a free loading, selfish, brass necked, cold dickhead.

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He'll keep using sky as long as you let him. Just like a person treating you badly for as long as you let them.

Cut his Sky off. As you said it will distract you.

Do you like reading op, a good absorbing, gripping book could get you through as well or better than tv/movies.

He's using you like he always has done OP, selfish greedy bastard .. good luck with Sky

Killing Eve has just been put on iPlayer, hoping to watch some tonight - it’s brilliant tv so may be worth a try?
Blooming hope Sky are useful, the cheek of him is outstanding.
Please come on here if tempted to text him. Why not let your phone run out of battery?!

Make sure that sky know that you've tried to stop him accessing your account but he's got around it, so they might have to put a block on sharing access or something (I'm wondering if he's phoned and pretended to be you to get back on).

This shows what he's like. He "can't be arsed" with you but happy to freeload off you.

Not really in his defence but I would probably carry on using it too and if I was blocked I'd be like meh and maybe get it myself then.

@MrMagooo

So you're a brass necked, piss-taking, free loader too then..

I’m thinking keylogger here if he’s still using your sky get them to shut it down for 24 hours saying someone has hacked it.

Ask your dad also if he’s giving out the new one too

Go into a place that does laptops and phones and get them to scan for any spyware. Or in fact change everything. Including emails

If you get the urge to text or phone come on here And rant, moan and cry.

@Moralitym1n1 Yes I am. Just like you are obviously the image of Morality.

@Sausageroll123 I hope you're okay.

I agree with checking for keyloggers or spyware, etc. Also with calling Sky to see if he just tried getting himself access.

Hope you’re ok sausage.

new to thread. I did read it. yet another voice of, I did that, don't be like me.

the divorce was almost 30 years ago. I've been happily married for 28 years, and I still find myself backing down from people in general in a way I never did before the 5 years with ex. this shit sticks.

tell him the OK then, you agree it isn't working and he can go on his way without bothering about other people, especially you. bag anything you have of his and drop it at his mum's and change your locks. (hint: you don't have to buy new locks or pay a locksmith, a friend simply swapped the front and back door locks, my dad took the one off his front door and came over and swapped it with mine and
we swapped keys.)

your dd13 will probably get over it all faster than you. I'm sorry about your 5 year old. does s/he see their own father regularly? can your dad or the childs dad step in to give more attention for while? tuck in phone calls, extra visits? S/he will move on as well. They are young enough they might end with not much memory of him.

I cannot believe he has the cheek to ignore you to the point of leaving you on the doorstep and yet persist in trying to watch your TV subscription packages. He wants to do what he wants? Yeah, looks like it

Well done for changing the passwords

Sausage, I still don’t understand why you can’t dump him? It’s basically over anyway, but why do you have to sit there waiting to see if he’s going to finish it or not? Why is it his decision, not yours?

Have you ever dumped anyone?

Just read this whole tread I agree with everyone else leave now before you become tied in! Currently you have no actual ties to each other do not let him move in etc hope your feeling okay today!

I would send a message along the lines of I agree this isn't working I will meet you at such a time to exchange any items you both have including key! Also say about the holiday and say he can give you the money for that at the same time block all numbers on social media etc kids will adapt and the fact they haven't seen him for almost 2 weeks it will be much easier!

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Aside from all the shitty behaviour and things he's said, I guess what I'm struggling with is the way it's happening. If I didn't want to be with someone anymore, I'd properly end things (and not by text), swap any belongings over at the same time (he has a house key of mine for example), remove relationship status from social media, then delete and block. Done. I find it hard to understand someone that just ignores.

OP I have known husbands who have walked out after 28 years and 43 years without a word so don't expect this man to behave in a reasonable fashion .

Use Sky app - manage your account , tv settings , Sky Go devices ( all listed ) and REMOVE him .

Well what a pisstaker he turned out to be.