Boyfriend says I don’t earn enough

[Sweetpotato92]

Hi everyone,

My (25F) boyfriend (32M) has recently been saying that I don’t earn enough, that he wants us to buy a house (we rent currently) in the next two years but doesn’t know if he can with my wage.

I qualified as a nurse about a year ago, I really enjoy it and I’m in a busy department in a good trust and there’s lots of opportunity for me to progress. I’ve been doing a lot of extra bank shifts (5-6 12 hour shifts a week) lately but I really missed spending time with him and seeing friends/family. When I said this, he became annoyed with me and told this is what life is like.

He earns double what I earn in a different sector. It’s just made me feel like a bit of a failure. Maybe I’m overreacting.

OP Congratulations for all the hard graft you did in training and the extremely hard graft you're putting in. I think it's a YES from all of us - we love, respect and need what you are doing. As PP have said, you are seven years behind him. He is disrespecting you and your efforts - I wonder what he's contributing to the universe. Clearly not much as a human being. My first LTB.

op