Dating thread 160: fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have fallen in love with

[CassettesAreCool]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

15/05/2019 19:56

I hope everyone is okay, I haven’t had the chance to read the last few pages yet.

I’ve had a day at the park and I’m knackered, FWB has some major sunburn on his arms, he looks like one of those squashy sweets. Tomorrow I have four year old birthday party hell, my dad said he was coming, hopefully he will change his mind.

I’m off to Disney Paris on Thursday for a few days to see FWB perform/birthday treat.

My son is staying with my cousin tonight as with us going away and then her going away after, she wouldn’t get to see him for a month otherwise. So MrNoName is popping over after work tonight, I could do with a quiet night as I’m really tired but I won’t have child free time for a while.

Auba that will be lovely 😁

I have another weekend away with Mr BC this weekend .... and planning a longer break towards the end of summer (I have quite a lot of stuff to deal with generally at the moment so not possible to go sooner)

Oh if course @richdeniro I'd forgotten him because he's sitting grinning quietly on the smitten bench!

@lifegoes it's the heat! Makes everyone horny...

Haha very true @Peanuthedz I mean I don't mind sex talk but not on the same day we matched.

@lifegoes a conversation?!!! Count yourself lucky... 🤣

I've only just been back on a few days those @NestOfSwipers

@lifegoes problem with sex chat straight off the bat is real..when I was first OLD I started instantly sexting some guy (fresh outta 1 year seperated and no sex) ... profile pics were handsome. Yeah they were extremely flattering, he was missing a front tooth, unkempt (looked French and cool in his pics). Shudder 😂😂

@Stealth and others All good with me, I'm still here and still on the smitten bench.

To mirror Auba's message we have also booked a trip, I don't know where I am date wise now but we both have a week off work the week after next so have decided to go away. At first we discussed it being a night away in this country but somehow it has ended up being three nights in Italy.

I know it's still really early days but sod it, life's too short and we both obviously like each other :)

😂😂😂. It doesn't bother me if the connection is there, if they can hold my attention with conversation. But not literally the second/third message @supercali77

I need to have my mind stimulated.

@lifegoes totally yeah if they've got fun banter I'm all over it but....there was something quite blegh when I met the guy and was like .,.wtf !?

That's me exactly. What did you do, was he any good in the end? @supercali77

@lifegoes I had a drink with him and then scarpered. It was really unnerving the diff between life and photos

Ha don't blame you. I've just checked and this one only had two and actually he's not really all that. I must have swiped yes on him when I was fuelled with wine @supercali77

@richdeniro 3 nights in Italy 😍

@supercali77 I think that's common when you start OLD. I got into the most incredible sexting/phone sex thing that lasted a good month or so. When we finally met I realised his pix were at least 15 years old and he was a bit thick. I was really disgusted with myself! Even though I hadn't actually so much as touched him.

Sat outside pub plucking up courage for my 2000 date

kermit - 2000th date? Is that a typo or is that how it feels? Lol

@richdeniro I am so pleased with your news. I lurked on your first thread and you have always seemed like such a nice guy. I hope this works out.

Do you ever get to a point where you can't decide if someone is good looking or not?

lifegoes - is it someone you've met or pictures?

lifegoes if you are at that point I suggest you step away for an hour or so!

I find one of the pluses of looking at men in their 50s is that ‘good-looking’ is more loosely defined. ‘Doesn’t make me want to shoot myself’ is more like it.

@TooOldForThis67 I've not met him yet, I got chatting to him and thought he looked hot. We've swapped numbers and getting along well, he makes me laugh and ticks all the boxes but I keep going back and looking at his pictures thinking I'm not sure.

I think I'm being super picky you know! Or looking for a reason he isn't right for me, so I don't have to go on a date with him.

@CassettesAreCool I didn't mean as in for swiping 😂

lifegoes - If he looks remotely good looking in pics then it's likely that he'll be better in the flesh, that's my experience anyway! No harm in meeting up for a coffee.

Thank you @TooOldForThis67 I do think I'm just looking for excuses not to meet him incase he ends up like the last one 🙄