Dating thread 160: fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have fallen in love with

[CassettesAreCool]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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15/05/2019 19:56

I'm getting really annoyed at the amount of guys on tinder who just go straight in with sex talk within 6/12 hours of matching.

I don't want the boring talk, but c'mon stimulate my mind in a better way than bragging about the size of your cock or what you are going to do with it. These are late 30's early 40's men.

Do they just randomly come out with stuff or are you both flirting a bit? I wouldn't know how to reply if they messaged me something about the size of cocks. Would freak me out I think. Luckily I've never had any problems on pof over the years except one dic pic which just popped up and wasn't even hard!?

Date that cancelled tonight called and we got on well,meeting tomorrow. We will be Tom cruise and nicole haha

They seem to get the conversation to something round that. I try to back away and they just keep going. It's not all of them but majority 😫

You must have sex appeal!! Which is great for attracting them but hard work if you dont know what their intentions are!

Yes, it didn't end well ☹️

@kerkyra not sure about that ha. But I'm past the point of being woo'd by sex talk.

@littlemeitslyn what didn't, what's happened?

I've never understood why tinder guys think those old chestnuts work who are the women that go for those types!

Well that was a bloody disaster! Photos at least 10 years old, massive beer gut, and could only talk about himself😳 onwards and upwards!!

@Nowthefunbegins - Oh dear! Chalk it up to experience and move on.

Morning team!

Good morning marlboro you seem chirpy.

I suspect I am being thrown a few breadcrumbs by Mr Runner after sex (although he does claim to be busy at work). Mr Smiler, who was a nice guy who I didn't really fancy, is sending some nice texts, certainly not at the high numbers of Mr Runner and Mr Enthusiastic so maybe it could be a slow burner.

@Nowthefunbegins Should be done under Trades Descriptions. Out of date photos shouldn't be allowed.😂 Did you let him down gently already, or do you still have the pleasure of composing a "you're a lovely guy but I didn't really feel a spark, all tthe best" text?

Well Photofeeler can go feel itself, I matched with two guys on Match last night and am chatting happily, so there! I also asked my old iron if he would give me feedback on my profile, he was pretty offended and flounced off, I think I may have misread the situation 😂

@Cassettes 😅

I sometimes wonder if some people think they look like they did a few years. Doesn't apply to everyone but maybe they don't realise how different they're look?

Mornin marlboro, mornin' y'all!

I am on the up and up after that headf**r experience. Not on the apps yet - thinking of meeting peeps more in real life....something about knowing someone who knows someone means I can get the lowdown before I stick my neck out!

Gah Now that's so annoying. What do they hope to achieve??

Cassettes you're brave - no way would I put my pics up on Photofeeler 😳 I'll settle for Mr BC telling me how amazingly lucky he feels to be seen with me... love is blind 😂

batshit yes beauty is in the eye of the beholder etc, and if the beholder can’t see so well that’s fine with me! I do think the experiment was worth it however, it gave me some objective feedback which is so difficult to obtain really.

super glad you’re feeling better, IRL has got to be the way to go if you have a real life

Morning all. I was stupid enough to put myself on photofeeler. And lucky enough the ratings weren't too bad. Apparently I look very smart and trustworthy. And a 7.4 for attractive. I'm much more of a 5/6 so I'm going to take that and delete it quickly before it suddenly plummets!!

How is everyone today? I'm still in the 'fed up of commitment phobes' bench. Not ready to throw myself back into the mix but enjoying reading the happy tales on here for hope.

How does one go about meeting men in real life supercali? Do you have a plan?

I've got the day off today. Going to the gym , DIY store, painting a ceiling, then a date with MrC tonight. I do need to get out of bed first though 🤔😂. His dog turned up yesterday and it cost £180 to get it back from the warden for one overnight stay. Unfortunately someone had picked it up on the road at the top of the farm, thought it was lost and took it home. Mr C has learned a valuable expensive lesson about making sure his dogs are always wearing their collars and tags...

Hope your pooch is on the mend LoveMusic

@CassettesAreCool & @Notcoolmum Objective feedback is useful! I'm not sure i'm quite ready tho haha. I'm going to go out more - gigs, exhibitions, hang out more with freinds, i dunno if it's the age, early 40s/late 30s but there's a lot of breakups happening around me so more options for socialising

@supercali77 I am also trying to go out more as I'm fed up with meeting guys on the apps and after a few uninspiring messages going on a date and finding there is zero chemistry. I am quite a bit older than you and don't have a very wide social circle, but I am reasonably happy to go to shows and exhibitions on my own. I sometimes feel a bit sad when I see everyone else with friends or coupled up, but I usually manage to shake off the feeling and enjoy myself.

Nowthefunbegins that sounds like most of the guys I have met from OLD!

@LilyRose88 yeah get yourself out there - have you tried meetup?

They say, you should ask all your friends if they know anyone suitable for you. Apparently, these are the best type of matches.