Dating thread 160: fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have fallen in love with

[CassettesAreCool]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

15/05/2019 19:56

@Eesha Anyone can rate anyone, but you can also write comments as to how you think a photo can be improved. I never had anything horrible - most select from a pre approved list i.e. "Looks too much like a selfie", "Would be better without sunglasses", "Smile a bit more", "Too blurry". I thought it was a positve experience.

@30somethingandsingleagain what happened with Mr Fox sorry if you have said, I don't rem seeing anything

@Lovemusic33 hope everything is ok.

Thank you @JeSuisPrest def won't be investing anytime soon. I'm still waiting for the date to be cancelled ha

I'm trying Photofeeler now - it is NOT going well ha ha!

@lifegoes I broke it off after he described us as just 'casually dating' after over 2 months. We clearly wanted different things.

30 sorry you’re feeling crappy

Oh no lovemusic hope your old girl pulls through!

Sorry @30somethingandsingleagain I absolutely remember now. My fault, so much happens on this thread I get confused until I'm remembered. Hope you are ok xx

@JeSuisPrest I really don't know if I could do that photofeeler I couldn't handle the negative comments.

Currently uploading photo.

@30somethingandsingleagain Sorry to hear that love...Rubbish x

@Eesha and @JeSuisPrest thank you for your kind comments. It was more how I looked in my underwear actually! I have put on half a stone in the last 9 weeks as I haven't been able to run due to an ankle injury. Having seen the horror of those extra lbs I am going to be stricter about my eating from now on.

I wouldn't dare upload my photo onto photofeeler as I am a sensitive soul . I do always get positive feedback from guys when I go on my dates, as in they tell me I look better than my photos, but my self confidence is a bit low this week.

On a separate note, I did have a strange experience on Monday. I received a telephone call on my mobile from a withheld number. Being nosey I answered it, and as soon as I said hello the other person hung up. It made me think that possibly someone I have either met or chatted with from OLD wasn't quite as single as they had made out, and they had been found out! I don't think it was anyone I have slept with as I have only slept with one guy this year (Mr Outdoors) and he lived on his own and chatted quite a bit on the phone with me in the evenings. And the guy that stood me up the other week didn't have my phone number.

I PMd someone but can’t remember who but I believe Classic FM dating site is quite good for people in their 50s. One of my male friends met his lovely female partner on there. Worth a try

I haven’t tried that site because I met someone in real life ( amazing that could still happen!)

Sorry to hear this 30something welcome to the 'fed up of commitment phobic flakey men' bench 👍

@Notcoolmum Amen sistah!

How lovely for you @PrettyPretty thank you for coming on here and sharing.

Oh I would love to try the Classic FM site if it's good for my age group but I hate that radio station so much - so bland and feels like a waiting room for death. But the way Photofeeler is racking up the null points maybe that's the best I can manage! Trololol

@CassettesAreCool how long you been on that photofeeler.

@JeSuisPrest re: Photofeeler I scored similar to you. The score itself wasn't too important, I liked all the constructive comments, many of which weren't the stock ones. Oddly it plumped up my faith in humankind much as has this thread. Loving you all on the thread too for steering me to Bumble!

@StealthNinjaMum I'm going to go with no name for the moment. I'm the lucky one!

Well I just put my best photo on photofeeler and my score so far for attractiveness is 5.5 although I score 8.5 for being trustworthy . I've only been rated by two people though.

lifegoes I've been on an hour, got 10 votes on my Facebook profile photo and scored about 5 - only comment was 'great photo' which objectively it is, but clearly not for a dating site (I try not to perv on my friends, who are the ones on Facebook!). Below average on smart and attractive but average for trustworthiness.

My linkedin photo is faring better, I even got one comment 'I would date them', another 'photo seems a bit bland (fair comment) but full results not in.

I'm going to try my old Tinder photo now, if I can find it. Loving the cold hard data!

did you pick the karma option, plus did you put men only to offer thoughts?

I picked the karma option but can't remember whether it was men-only to offer thoughts. I'm now down to 4.7 on attractiveness and have two comments. One said that the smile seems a bit forced and the other says that I seem a bit uncomfortable in the photo. Very interesting as it is my favourite recent photo of me and is my main profile picture on Tinder and POF.

I picked the 10 credits option, ie I paid $9 for 40 credits so I can test out four photos quickly. Only asked for votes from men aged 45+. Scoring well on trustworthiness for my linkedin photo but low on attractiveness, quel surprise.

Guys on the thread: is the old adage still true that men don't like women in glasses? I'm blind without mine, so all my photos have them. Is this where I'm going wrong?

Oh yikes, I messaged someone with a hugh beard,5 inches smaller and 8yrs younger and he has asked me out. Meeting tonight 😃 and he is happy to come over to my next village. I know he is short but I wont notice it sitting down in the pub........

I've put my FB profile up. Gone for the karma option. Anyone can vote one me. Just 2 votes so far. Apparently I'm more attractive than I am intelligent or trustworthy 🤷🏻‍♀️😂