Genuine question - non goady, pls don't shoot me

[namechanger2436]

So,

Woman is married, starts an affair with married man (instigated by man if that makes a difference). Kids involved (primary school age) both sides. Both marriages 'unhappy' and both couples together largely for the sake of the kids (100% this is the case for the woman).

Woman truly and utterly believes that she could (and possibly will) one day be with the married man and be blissfully happy. Seriously, the connection is insane, sounds all bollocky and la la land but she honestly believes this. Woman is well educated and generally sits on the right side of being rational/real.

Does the 'fairytale' ever happen? Will he leave wife? Will they end up together? Does it ever work out?

I'm the woman, obvs. I can't imagine my future/rest of my life not involving this man. I'm a walking cliche but I believe he's 'the one' and I have never felt this about my dh.

I'm approaching 40, as is he.

Slowly going insane.

Bracing myself for an understandable onslaught of hate, but is there anyone out there who things worked out for?

I agree about the exit affair.
A very good friend of mine did that and it was the best thing she could have done. Because it gave her back her self esteem and the wish to have more than What she had (and yes her H was physically abusive and sent her to hosp several times, incl the time when she was pregnant and lost the baby....).

I can see how this would a get out way for other women too.

onefootinthegrave I think it's the fact that it was also her best friend's husband that makes it so shocking, a double betrayal like that must have been devastating and yes you can say it's worked out great for your friend, I just imagine it must have been very damaging to the other party.

Thing is though are these people now happy? I know a couple on their 2nd marriage who have a blended family. The parents are all loved up and portray an "everything's great" image and one of blended family bliss. Underneath the veneer the DC hate the step-DC and don't want to come over, they are all in counselling with anxiety and their ex's make their lives absolute hell.

Doesn't sound much like a fairytale and more like a storyline from Hollyoaks.

OP ain't coming back...

Shrewd dachshund.

These types of threads are becoming a regular occurrence on here and I honestly wonder what sort of response the OPs expect when many of those replying will have had their families ripped apart by a cheater. I guess you need to be really selfish and self absorbed to cheat in the first place and even more so to write about it in the very place where people are looking for help dealing with the aftermath of being cheated on.

Look, I understand stuff happens in life that's not ideal. I'm no paragon of virtue. But you sound like you're only thinking selfishly. There is no fairytale ending, especially not for your kids.

Do the right thing and leave your husband as honourably as you can. At least then you can look your kids in the eye.

You are delusional.
If you aren't happy in your marriage leave.

Only cowardly, selfish fantasists cheat.

Leave your husband. It will be the best thing that has ever happened to him. He may have the chance of finding a decent human being to spend his life with.

OP hasn’t been back once