Husband had thrown me out.

[Carnoet78]

I’m devastated, I had a stupid fling over a couple of weeks which he found out about. We’re not together, I’m on my own, hotel hopping. I have three young children, one of which is disabled and I’m her registered carer. I have no job, no transport nowhere to live and no money. He won’t let me back home. I spend my days crying my heart out. I suffer with depression anyway but this is the lowest I’ve ever been.

Did you think about your kids, your caring responsibilities and the fact you have no job, no car and no money when you were enjoying your fling?

He has no right to throw you out regardless of what you've done. Go back and tell him you will call the police if he tries to throw you out again. My husband tried to do that to me but I went back and told him he couldn't. I lived in the house for 8 months separated and filed for divorce during that time. I sought advice from a solicitor and he told me to go back xxx

You've done wrong, and you've probably destroyed your marriage, but you've not killed anyone - keep some perspective.

Go home, he has no right to throw you out. Talk to him and figure out if your relationship is over. If it is, plan accordingly.

You're not the first to have made a stupid mistake, and you won't be the last, it's not the end of the world.

Kazzz65 is right. I suggest you take that advice and go as I doubt you are going yo get much sympathy here.

How are you hotel hopping if you have no money?
How are you caring for your child if you aren't at home?

You have to go home if you’re your child’s carer.

You need to get things sorted legally and practically.

As for being depressed and crying your eyes out, that’s neither here nor there. You fuck someone else, you live with the consequences. But no, you shouldn’t be away from your dependent child.

Go and get a police escort to get you back into the home. You are married so you are entitled to live there. He seems to have been very keen to get rid of you. It's not a long term solution for anyone.

You are entitled to go back home legally but you should probably start looking for somewhere else to live.

Go back home and call the police if he doesn't let you in. He has no right to chuck you out.

Are you children with you or are they at home with him?

He seems to have been very keen to get rid of you
Yes, because she's been shagging someone else.

We advise women to chuck cheaters but come out with this shite when a man does it?

Go back home. Legally he cannot just kick you out of your own home.

I assume the kids are with him? Will he be able to care for them long term? I don't know how things work but would you be entitled to housing with the kids?

We advise women to chuck cheaters but come out with this shite when a man does it?

I understand what you are saying but there is children involved and there needs should come first.

The reasons he has kicked you out aren't worth talking about.

However legally he hasn't the right.

As a pp has said contact the police so the can escort you back in the house.

I assume you own the house jointly? You are entitled to live there. Do you have the keys? Has he changed the locks?

You need to see a solicitor.

Prequelle

Welcome to the MN double standard which apparently doesn't exist.

I personally think OP deserves all she gets but keeping her out of the home will work against the husband when it comes to custody as the court will likely see it as unreasonable behaviour. It's in his best interests for him to let her back in so that they can seperate properly.

If you are your child's registered carer then you need to return home because their needs come first, and although I'm sure he is very hurt and angry he cannot just kick you out. Crying your eyes out and feeling low is par for the course when you've been sleeping with someone else and destroyed your family. I doubt your husband and kids are having a barrel of laughs either.

If you are on your own with out your children you need to sort yourself out. Is your name on the house or is it only his?

Get a job and a place of your own and continue to see your children.

Are you okay op?

understand what you are saying but there is children involved and there needs should come first.

I'm talking about the comment about the DH seeming 'very keen to get rid of her'. Trying to put blame on him or trying to insinuate that there's something more going on.

It annoys me that police time has to be wasted because of people taking the piss.

Are the kids with you now?

God some of these replies are moronic and unhelpful. The fling is done and can't be undone. Obviously OP's DH has a right to end the relationship as a result of the fling but the question is the living situation. He doesn't have the right to take possession of the house. Where are the kids living? You need to see a solicitor.

I'm not condoning what she's done, prequelle. I just don't see it as any sort of solution. Motherless children, homeless woman; husband with 3 small dc to look after and presumably not able to go to work? In the meantime, she needs to go home and is entitled to. What a mess.