Would you be with someone who says being gay is unnatural?

[joliejoleen]

This man that I've been seeing thinks that being gay is unnatural. He wouldn't go out in the street and protest against gay people or ever attack them. He just thinks that being gay is unnatural and doesn't want his children to grow up thinking being gay is okay because it isn't. Would you ltb?

BertieBotts Tue 07-May-19 19:08:17
He's totally entitled to his opinion. You're entitled to decide his opinions make you incompatible.

THIS.

A very oldfashioned view- the Dowager Countess of Grantham would agree- is that any woman (or man) entering a longterm relationship has not only a right but a duty to consider compatibility first. Not something you ever need to apologise for. It's one of those oldfashioned ideas that have actually stood the test of time. Saves a lot of misery.

Ditch him

@FabulouslyGlamorousFerret

How is your sister dealing with this? What are her thoughts?

I couldn’t be with a man like that. His views are disgusting.

He thinks being gay is unnatural

His opinion - I wouldn't leave him on the condition that he keeps his opinion to himself.

doesn't want his children to grow up thinking being gay is okay because it isn't

I'd leave him for this bit though as it implies he with parent his children to have the same opinion which is unacceptable. And what said child/children are gay themselves?? Then what?

@joliejoleen

He doesn't talk about it really, he's very polite and wouldn't want to offend anyone so keeps his opinions to himself.

If it is ever an issue, she ignores it, or makes a joke of it. I would say he's coming round to the idea of how ridiculous his views are. He has a friend who he recently found is gay, he backed off a bit at first but says he really likes him so he's ignoring it!

I tell him that how he feels is as ridiculous as people having irrational hatred towards Muslims - he gets it, but like I say he's been taught from a young age that it's wrong, sinful and unnatural, it's hard to erase.

If someone is this open with me about their bigotry, I silently thank them for letting me know who they really are and not to have anything to do with me. People with views like that rarely stop there, and usually have all sorts of undesirable beliefs/opinions.