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Would you be with someone who says being gay is unnatural?

282 replies

joliejoleen · 06/05/2019 17:54

This man that I've been seeing thinks that being gay is unnatural. He wouldn't go out in the street and protest against gay people or ever attack them. He just thinks that being gay is unnatural and doesn't want his children to grow up thinking being gay is okay because it isn't. Would you ltb?

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MrsPinkCock · 07/05/2019 21:16

Hell no.

ChristmasFluff · 07/05/2019 21:23

Nope, I'd end it.

People who are anti-gay are usually also racist and misogynist and lots of other 'ists' too.

What if one of his children was gay? It's a non-starter.

Lilybetsey · 07/05/2019 21:44

Yuck. I couldn’t tolerate such views in an acquaintance let alone a partner. Instant and complete turnoff . Move on OP

IncrediblySadToo · 08/05/2019 10:09

I’d ditch him for the religious views too

Homophobic religious twat banging on about his rights, telling you that you’re wrong about how you feel... struggling to see what’s attractive there tbh.

ravenmum · 08/05/2019 10:45

you can love a man like a brother a father but as a partner in life... I'm sorry i won't.
He won't what? Love a man as a partner? Well duh, if he's heterosexual. But less duh, if he isn't, and is religious, I suppose.

Is he really saying that he refuses to love a man as a partner as he thinks it's wrong?

Poor bloke if that's the case.

ravenmum · 08/05/2019 10:47

I think I'd ditch him kindly, and tell him that I wish him all the best for the future and hope that his religious beliefs don't make him unhappy. Really sad.

chuttypicks · 08/05/2019 14:11

I'd assume he was gay himself with over the top views like that tbh. So yes, I'd LTB.

SummerWhisper · 08/05/2019 15:43

Does he believe in hair dye, make up, heart transplants, fridge freezers, cars, medicine, IVF, synthetic fabrics, televisions, wifi, aerosol deoderant, contraception? So many unnatural things in the world...but he chooses to consider a person's sexual preference as unnatural. He is a homophobe. Possibly with issues.

Shaggydog99 · 09/05/2019 20:20

The chances of you having a gay or bisexual child is relatively small but not negligible. And even if you don't, would you want him to tell your child that being gay is wrong?

janeybumtum · 09/05/2019 20:29

I could have accepted that view from someone 200 years ago when people were so uneducated on the subject. Now, I'd tell him what I thought of him and ltb

boxlikeamarchhare · 09/05/2019 20:31

No. Just no.

Binting · 09/05/2019 20:35

Does he believe that sex should be purely for procreation then? And I guess Friday night specials are definitely off the menu?

MyCatHogsTheBed · 09/05/2019 20:36

I would doubt that this was the only opinion of his that I strongly disagreed with. I'd consider him fundamentally not compatible with me.

squeakyreptile · 09/05/2019 20:41

Oh dear goodness.

I would leave him for sure.

The ignorance, the over-involvement in other peoples' lives, the judgementalness.... plus what would happen if his child was gay??!!!

Such off putting qualities. I would be embarrassed on his behalf actually.

Thewitcher · 10/05/2019 20:50

Another vote for ltb.

BogglesGoggles · 10/05/2019 20:54

No. I just don’t get this line of reasoning? It’s definitely natural. Otherwise a cause would have been found surely?

BogglesGoggles · 10/05/2019 20:58

Also agree with you re ‘not okay’. In what way is it not ok? Obviously his religion forbids it but why? The answer to that is 1. Not pec recreating (therefore not growing the number of followers) and 2. Vegetal diseas (cough cough antibiotics). The next question is-how is this relevant today? It’s not (unless you are fanatical-which he is. Can I also point out that if he’s Christian he’s pretty shit at it, you can’t put and preconditions on love thy neighbour)

BogglesGoggles · 10/05/2019 20:58

General

BogglesGoggles · 10/05/2019 20:59

Geberally

BogglesGoggles · 10/05/2019 20:59

Ffs stds

FabulouslyGlamourosFerret · 10/05/2019 20:59

My sister's DH thinks being gay is unnatural. He is a strict Muslim and it has been drilled into him since he was a boy, I haven't got the energy nor inclination to try and undo 45 years of indoctrination.

He's actually a really nice bloke apart from the latent homophobia

PushingThru · 10/05/2019 20:59

I'm gay & I am finding these near unanimous responses so heartwarming; we can't beat homophobia on our own, we need our wonderful straight allies so much. Thank you all xxx

Original poster
joliejoleen · 10/05/2019 21:21

He is a Muslim so according to him a marriage is only between a man and a woman.
He also says that I can't call him a homophobe because he doesn't hate gay people.

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LittleLongDog · 10/05/2019 21:29

It isn’t about hate, it’s about prejudice. He is prejudice against gay people - so it’s homophobia.

IncrediblySadToo · 10/05/2019 21:37

Well, you can call him a homophobe. You can call him whatever you like.

However, to get back to basics, this twat told you that you’re being unreasonable for saying you are incompatible. That’s NOT his decision, nor something up for debate. If YOU feel you’re incompatible you don’t need to see him again, whether he agrees or not is irrelevant

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