Nipples in public!

[Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme]

Hi all - NC for fresh perspective! Will keep brief ...out for a lovely bank holiday walkwith DH and DC and i am wearing a black bra, black spaghetti - style vest top and then a cotton loose vest over that and a black cardigan which has no buttons asbits a wrap style.Fresh sea breeze has the obvious effect on my nipples- DH has asked me to cover them up by holding cardi wrapped up as he is offended and upset when men ( generically) look at them. He says men will look and have eexual thoughts and it upsets him . I got a little annoyed as it had not even occured to me - i am a plump middle aged woman and am completely invisible most of the time. I said its not down to me to be responsible for other people bit he said i should not deliberately upset him . Who is being u here ? Help !

He is. What a weirdo.

He’s clearly judging all men by his own pervy standards.

He’s being a controlling weirdo!

Is he usually like this?

Is he wearing a cricketers box? Presumably his bulge is visible?

Does he usually have insecurity issues? YADNBU

Well exactly - i understand what he is saying i just catagorically disagree !! When i tried to explain why he said its about modesty - i said that is the stupid logic behind women 'provoking' men in hiw they dress. I hate the use if the word modestly in this context and said so . He then actually said i wadmaking it another feminist rant and to 'do as i was told'. Actually seriously !! Wtf ? Did i miss sonething ? But tgank you pink - feel a bit betterxx

Do as you’re told???

I’d be binning his ass for that.

Does he often tell you to do as you’re told?

Ask him to correct the behaviour he has an issue with i.e. The men ogling.
If he doesn't do that wrap the cardi around his meathead so he doesn't get offended.

Tell him if he's upset by random strangers looking at your nipples then he should take it up with them.

He sounds like a wanker tbh.

Why the fuck is it ok for men to wander about with their top off in public, but god forbid if a woman has erect nipples showing through her top. It’s so ridiculous!

Ridiculous!
How much erect nipple can they see through that many layers anyway?

As for 'do as you are told' - he needs to learn some respect - for you

What does he think about mens nipples? Does he wear a cardi too?

He sounds like a bit of a sexist pig honestly. No ta.

Sexnotgender - yes he does have control issues - worse in the past , better now. But before i give up on the argument i thought i wpuld just pop on here to check (obvs) xx TheQueef thats a briliant suggestion - we are home now but about to go out again so i might just suggest that lol ! jackstini - i have stupidly big boobs but i really dont think it would matter - its just the fact you can see them ! It really is just that . AndEllabella989 its true seems so very unfair ! 🙄

I would post a pic but it seems irrelevant - i could not look less sexy if i tried !

He’s judging by his standards

Not all men stare at ladies breasts

I undestand that mistybee - think you are right. At least i now kmow i am not the crazy one here!

I thought this was going to about breastfeeding and was coming on to say, yep my nipples have been on public display (albeit briefly) while feeding.
Your Dp sounds ridiculous and controlling. How many layers are you supposed to wear exactly? They're nipples, everyone has them.

He told you to do as you are told?

I'd have taken the cardi off and danced around with it like a flag!

They're your nipples not his!

Bloody hell that creeps me out

He doesn’t own you or your body!!! How dare he

The only way I can think that he came to the conclusion that men look at your erect nipples and have 'sexual thoughts that upset him' is because that's what goes through his mind when he sees other women's nipples. Which quite frankly, is really bastard creepy.

I've just read that he told you 'do as you're told'.
I'd be telling him to fuck right off.

The 'do as you are told' would be a dealbreaker for me. I'd be taking off the cardi, waving my nipples around in the breeze and saying something along the lines of 'how do you like me now, you twat?'.

Time for a very, very serious conversation about controlling behaviour and how you're not having it.

Thanks all for your comments - we have been out for the last hour but inside so far so no erect nipples ergo no moaning about my blatant flagrant exhibitionism ...like pointythings idea too xx

Slightly off track but can we see your ddog's eyebrows?!

Do as you're told? I'd have been topless within 5 seconds.

If mine said this to me I'd have stripped off there and then! Where what you like. Some Men find toes sexy. You can't spend your life worrying that you might accidentally give someone sexual thoughts. Knobhead.